My kids are taught to not talk back to adults, to be polite and respect other people. My sisters kids are the total opposite. My sister says she knows her kids are brats and she can't make them mind. Tonight her 4 year old was cussing and I told her that my kids do not need to hear that kind of talk and if she continued to do it we would leave. She went on to say no you won't and I don't care. At the same time her 3 yr old sister had a sharpened pencil waving it all over and as we tried to get it from her she stabbed my mom in the stomach. At that point I snatched it from her hand and smacked her hand and told her that was dangerous. Her 4 year old sister started back talking me some more so I took her into the other room where her mom was and sat her in a chair. She still was mouthy. I told her the kids would not come to play with her next time. Her mom said nothing and was on the computer. We packed up and left. My sister said after the fact that I was a little harsh she's only 4
2006-10-02 15:48:56 · 10 answers · asked by Delores B 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
In my household, MY rules are obeyed. This is non-negotiable.
Make sure that your sister is well aware of that. If she doesn't want to comply... TFB (too fcuking bad). If you're at her house, then leave. And let know that you won't be back until she starts disciplining her kids. Your child does not need to be exposed to that type of behavior. Children often imitate, need I explain more?
I NEVER had this problem with my children. When bad behavior reared it's ugly head, I nipped it in the bud that very second. And yes I spanked... hard. None of those light tap-a-tap taps either. I smoked that @ss really good. It worked wonders. Both are now grown and productive law-abiding citizens. Go figure!
2006-10-02 17:23:45 · answer #1 · answered by Larry F 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
There's a couple ways of looking at this. Your sister isn't discipling/punishing her children someone else is. Maybe that's what she is waiting for. While she's on the computer she is blocking out the behavior, she's having your family doing the discipline. The children are being disrespectful and need boundaries. They need to know that this behavior is not accepted and they cannot act that way around other people. If it means having a "time out" or a seat on a chair then do so. Spanking a child that is not your own is out of bounds.
Unfortunately, your sister is the problem. She is condoning the behavior and showing them there are no repercussions. Maybe you and your Mother need to confront her. Do your homework and tell her why this will not benefit her or her children. The children will suffer in the long run by not being accepted and by not having manners. Good luck.
2006-10-02 16:10:30 · answer #2 · answered by Bexcy 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like your sister's not too interested in being a parent. You're correct in not taking your children over to play. Your first job is to protect your kids. Beyond not visiting, there's really nothing you can do. If your sister isn't going to be a parent then you can't change her mind. I feel for the kids as they're only doing what they're being taught to do.
2006-10-02 17:01:06 · answer #3 · answered by cgspitfire 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
your sister needs to go to a parenting class. them babies need counsling. you should not treat them any diffrent from the way you handle your kids. children in these times are very smart and is aware of the things they say and do. tell your sister if she dont want to end up in jail for her kids actions she need to nip it in the bud like know. had i been your mom and she would of stabed me with a pencil i would of took her pants down and turn her little butt red. and if her mother would of said something i would of then told her how great of a mother she was. she better hope the kids dont take them actions out side and do or say them things to people out side or in school that might get them and your sister in a lot of trouble. try to be cool and you be the positive one in them kids life. your sister defintly is not doing a good job with them.
2006-10-02 16:12:17 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think in cases like that its more then ok to spank. These kids are headed down and very bad road already. Someone has to put a stop to it and your sister isn't a bad mom but she is a lazy and careless one. Sorry.
2006-10-02 15:52:25 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
tell yo sister she needs to WHOOOOOP They AZZZZZZZZZ like old school parents and they'll mind just fine. Whoppin azz isn't against the law as long as you don't leave marks, then that becomes abuse. But a good swat on the booty is what they may need
2006-10-02 15:52:26 · answer #6 · answered by ♥Shortie♥ 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
None of it fairly is very stepped forward for a 4 twelve months previous. i don't see any harm in it presented he's having relaxing. it is common for 4 twelve months olds to envision. (be conscious that I reported familiar, not predicted or uncomplicated).
2016-10-01 21:13:35 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your sister has 2 cholices:
1. Start disciplining her kids.
OR
2. Start saving up now for legal fees and bail money.
You were right in leaving. If she will not control her kids at your house, you have the right to ask her to leave.
2006-10-02 16:04:08 · answer #8 · answered by eastcoastdebra 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I would have done the same thing. Unfortunately, you can't raise her kids and it sounds like she isn't wanting too. Limit your visits to the telephone until she wants to handle the situation. Be strong, your kids' safety is that important.
2006-10-02 15:56:20 · answer #9 · answered by ***MIKKI*** 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes u need to be hard on childrens. I would know. U gotta go hard or be strict to raise good childrens!
2006-10-02 15:52:17 · answer #10 · answered by Ha Ha 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋