Everytime I'm about to get into a relationship, I do something to cause it to fall apart before it begins. Like the last time I told him I was "emotionally unavailable" as gay as it sounds, its the honest to god truth. And the only successful relationship i've had was with KID A. Kid A and I were very similar people, so when we started hanging out and stuff it TOTAL worked and fit right?! But he has an actual mental disorder and issues with depression. I helped him through some and for some reason, right between New Years and Valentines Day something happened, I dont remember what, and I remember saying to him "This is too much I cant deal with it." He had me thinking he was honestly going to entertian thoughs of suicide. I put his little brother on suicide watch when I couldnt be. I hated KID A for around a year. He and I are friends again, and honestly I sorta want him back because we had so much fun, but why must I sabotage all new relationships before they begin? What is this?!
2006-10-02 15:20:31 · 9 answers · asked by Kristen S 3 in Health ➔ Mental Health
Keep reminding yourself that life is about wanting what you have, not having what you want.
You ask what is wrong with you, probably nothing. Based on your story, I would imagine you gravitate to drama and that is normal. All you need to do is enjoy the idea that you enjoy drama!
2006-10-02 15:29:47 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
New relationships are usually just about impossible, so don't beat yourself up too much for your sabotage of them. Just go slow, slow, slow. Eventually you will develop some friends and someday maybe you and someone else will fall for each other. If not, at least you'll have a lot of friends.
2006-10-02 22:25:07 · answer #2 · answered by Daniel M 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes it's a subconscious thing people do when they really don't want the responsibility and commitment of a relationship. Maybe you aren't ready right now. However, if you feel ready, then you need to not listen to those negative thoughts in your head that are urging you on to sabotage everything.
2006-10-02 22:24:35 · answer #3 · answered by Just Ducky 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It is common for women to be self-destructive, by deliberately sabotaging relationships, doing things to prevent happiness and choosing bad relationships. It is an indication of poor self-esteem which appears to be common in women. Somehow you need to figure out why you have poor self-esteem, decide to have better self- esteem and decide to choose better relationships and that you deserve to have a good relationship. Best wishes and good luck.
2006-10-02 23:13:54 · answer #4 · answered by Clown Knows 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's safer to not be in a relationship, isn't it? That way you can't get hurt...or get to close...or let anyone get too close to you. Now, you ask yourself, "Why am I doing this?". Look at your past...and make changes so you can have a happy, healthy future. Therapists can help you go in the right direct! Good luck!
2006-10-02 23:07:44 · answer #5 · answered by KathieJo 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's probably because you are too young and haven't figured out what true love feels like. Or could be you have depression as well,never know.
2006-10-02 22:33:59 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you just don't know what you want so you mentally try to mess things up that you know wont work out its easier when theres no feelings involed maybe you are afarid to be loved or to love?.
2006-10-02 22:26:44 · answer #7 · answered by jeannette 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think one things wrong with you is that you are still in love with him. you don't want to be with someone and have relationship with them. you're still wanting KID A. and that's your problem.
2006-10-02 22:25:00 · answer #8 · answered by joena lee a 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
be yourself! don't question every detail---you will be fine!
2006-10-02 22:38:08 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋