I am not a virgin- but my friends all said I shouldn't say that to my boyfriend.. so i didn't. 2 years have gone by and he still thinks i was a virgin before him... now were getting married.... should i tell him the truth or leave it in the past?
2006-10-02 15:12:33 · 24 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
u should have never told him that to begin with... how can u expect to have a good relationship when it started with lies???
2006-10-02 15:15:37 · answer #1 · answered by Roger 4 · 0⤊ 2⤋
yes guys want admit it but they do prefer virgins. my last g/f asked me how many guys is too many to have sex with and i said more than one. it feels like they are dirty and it's just bothersom to know that you had sex before love. i think you should tell him, because relationships and love is built upon honesty. i doubt he will break off anything if he truely loves you it doesn't matter. i'm not saying he won't be upset or sad to the fact that you lied. but if marriage is involved the truth is always the best and i hope everything works out
2006-10-02 22:18:27 · answer #2 · answered by whatisthis 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I cannot answer that, but would like to add something that may help you answer it yourself. I always wanted a virgin, that changed when i found the right person, and lost my own virginity. Now it does not matter. Many young *and not so young* men believe that if she loses her virginity to you, then the will be more loyal etc...
2006-10-02 22:17:39 · answer #3 · answered by kljj 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Leave it in the past, telling the truth now will just lead to a big fight and him starting to wonder what else you lied about.
2006-10-02 22:18:52 · answer #4 · answered by JFra472449 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You didnt bleed...how dumb is this guy...lol
Anyway I think he's well aware...nowadays there is no such thing as a virgin woman. It's a myth...maybe virgin men but nah no virgin women. They start when they're young...its quite sickening but yeah no virgin women NO MATTER WHAT YOU HEAR...sad state of truths there...and you just proved that point perfectly...I am a virgin though and would be ripped apart if I screwed a woman who had screwed other before me and lied about it to me...would be like saying I dont have AIDs and then saying I do after sex...not right and you have no heart and morals if you do do that...people like that dont deserve to live...the scum of society...*sigh*
2006-10-02 22:17:24 · answer #5 · answered by stupidreplier1 2 · 1⤊ 2⤋
Honestly you should have told the truth in the first place. Other people isn't in your relationship. I don't think he would have cared that much, just as long as you weren't the world's biggest slut! He would have understood. Now is not the time to tell him somethings you just have to take to your grave, and that may be one of the things you plan on taking to yours! Congrats on the wedding!
2006-10-02 22:16:31 · answer #6 · answered by Patty J 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Wouldn't touch one!
Your dilemma is living with a lie. Not that it is a big deal, but why would you want to hurt him now? Are you trying to make yourself feel better or him?
2006-10-02 22:19:29 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
well if it was me HELL YEAH you tell him ill would be mad if i married a girl who i thought was a virgin because when yall get old together hes going to bring up the first day he took your virginity then you'll you took my virginity then he'll probably cry and divorce you so yea tell him
2006-10-02 22:17:16 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
Tell him the truth or you will have to think about it for the rest of your life...
2006-10-02 22:17:22 · answer #9 · answered by steffy 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
if i were you i will tell him the truth., explain to him that it was not just easy for you to tell him and tell him exactly what you feel. if he really love you then he will definitely understand.
i hope you have learned from that experince.
honesty is the best policy.
good luck girl!!!
2006-10-02 22:16:31 · answer #10 · answered by star 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Experience counts everywhere. Girls are on par with guys these days. And everything is a joint effort with both parties investing in ... well .. with their personal experience.
2006-10-02 22:18:12 · answer #11 · answered by prad 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋