Well, my cousin and i are pretty close. shes 2 years younger than me, and im 13, and shes 11. so ,her mom gives her NO discipline what-so-ever. she gets away with way too much, always talking back and yelling. the weird part is, i dunno why she looks up to me so much because i REALLY get on to her sometimes. like, one time she dropped her bouncy ball and this old man picked it up for her. she just snatched it up and said nothing. i was like "say thank you!!" and she got red. and i told the old man thanks. so, basically, what im trying to say is, shes inconsiderate for her age and somewhat immature because she hasnt been disciplined. she is a sweet girl, with and big heart, but she just doesnt get it. anyway, it seems like she gets all the attention. everytime i go to my grandmas house, my grandma babys her, and just says hi to me, solemly. i am SO nice to my grandma, and zoe never says a word to her! why is this? im not jealous, by the way. i USED to be, but that was like, 4 years ago!
2006-10-02 15:10:44 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Anyway, to adults, 11 is cuter than 13----teenagers are kind of "scary" for adults to deal with, too many issues.
Thanks... but, im not scary, lol. i dont think that all teenagers are necessarily hard, and saying that too adults, 11 is cuter than 13, is really harsh. im still a kid! my age just has a 'teen' at the end! >:(
2006-10-02 15:21:16 · update #1
attention cuts both ways---sometimes it's less stressfull to be fawned over by the relatives all the time. It's probably stressfull for her! Be glad you have a cousin, and be glad there's one member of the family you can tell what to do, occasionally. Sounds like your cousin looks up to you---what's wrong with that?
Anyway, to adults, 11 is cuter than 13----teenagers are kind of "scary" for adults to deal with, too many issues.
2006-10-02 15:17:31 · answer #1 · answered by papyrusbtl 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You sound very mature for your age and are a real asset to your little cousin. You may be the only role model she has that may teach her to respect people and things. I know that you aren't jealous but it isn't fair and I know y9ou know that things aren't always fair are they? So, just realize that you are doing something that noon e else can do for her and that is correct her and show her how to be a decent person. Too bad no one else cares enough to show her. You are the blessed one to have direction in your life and you can pass it on.
She looks up to you because she sees that even your grandma treats you as an adult because you act as an adult and that is what she sees. The old saying the squeaky wheel gets the grease applies to her. She is loud, troubled and causes chaos so she gets the attention but that's ok. We know who you are. Be proud and keep giving her directions because she may look back someday and it may save her life ok?
2006-10-02 15:33:55 · answer #2 · answered by MISS-MARY 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Lead by example. She looks up to you because it sounds like you're being a good role model. And she's getting a lot of attention because she's still a kid and you're a teenager - it's normal to be treated differently at those ages. (No one pays attention to adults, trust me!) Just wait, in a couple of years, your cousin will be tired of hearing why she can't be more like you.
2006-10-02 15:22:53 · answer #3 · answered by Jemma 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it happens in every family sweetie... beleive me I know... but YOU just keep on being YOU... correct her gently when she needs it... I think she looks up to you because you do take the time to give her boundries... parents and grandparents and other adults just do not take the time to set the boundries for the *cute* or *pretty* ones... they either forget they need them or just dont think about it at all..... and those kids, when grown, often come back with problems to them and the question of * wasn't I worth the boudries ?*... so you just keep doing what your doing... it is a complliment she is giving you and it sounds like some where inside herself she is looking to YOU for those boundries... God bless
2006-10-02 15:20:31 · answer #4 · answered by Annie 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-16 03:15:52 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋