how can i stop my mother from being a btch?

Question

My mom is really annoying. She must think i'm pretty annoying too, cuz i'm 14 and the teen years are supposedly the hardest to parent.
why? well...
1. she exaggerates everything! like if it's 12:25 she'll yell at me that it's one oclock already. it drives me nuts
2. she nags!!!! big time. like, i know my own schedule, i can manage my own time. all that nagging is seriously giving me grey hairs already
3. she complains about me. "oh, brandie. pick up those socks! now! or you're grounded for tomorrow! WHY do i always have to do it for you??? you're 14! do it yourself!!!" and i try not to heavily sigh, and pick up the socks
4. she tells me about her martyrdom EVERY SINGLE DAY. "oh, dear god. i'm so tired...i bought those expensive shoes for you the other day. and i never buy myself expensive shoes. woe betide me"
she drives me crazy!!! and i'm not a bad kid- i do well in school, i do chores, i do NOT get an allowance, i'm generally a good kid.

what can i do to make her chill out?

Answer 1

Hug her and tell her you love her. She might exaggerate on the time because you are often running late.

Maybe make an extra effort to not leave your stuff lying around.

Answer 2

Probably nothing. You on the other hand need to chill out badly. Your mom may be under stresses that you don't have a clue about and she may be going through hormonal changes just as you are but she's older and has a lot more problems and worries than you do. So, do her a favor and try to be an even better kid and don't throw the socks down. Don't yell at her when she tells you to do something. You get more with honey which is sweet than you do with vinegar which is sour. Also, she did pay a lot for your shoes, and she is probably worried about the winter heating the house, gas prices and lots of things. So, help her by trying to keep your stuff picked up and continue to be a good girl. I will pray for you both and hope you can hug each other once a day. I no longer have my mother and I'd give anything to have her yell at me again.

Answer 3

I know exactly what you mean.

1. every person exaderates. my mother does that too. im sure you've exaderated sometime in your life, and so has everyone else. maybe you just need to say "mom, either that clock is wrong, or YOUR wrong. becase it says 12:25. NOT 1. so can you stop yelling please?" just let her know that shes wrong.

2. oh gosh! THE NAGGING! i can't take that either. mothers nagg because they are trying to mold you into a young, responsible adult. she did that with my sister, and now my sister has her own condo and is in collage, and i really get why she did it. when you get older, the littlest thing will have a big effect on you. she just naggs because it's her way of helping you grow up.

3. mothers are just all around clean freaks. i dont think ive ever met someones mom who DOESNT yell at their kids to clean up. moms get overwelhmed with everything going on, that when something as little as a sock on the floor sets them off. just say sorry, BLOW HER OFF, and just pick up the sock.

4. when your mom tries to make you feel guilty about that kind of stuff, just say "well, if you want to buy something for yourself, go right ahead and buy it." don't let her get to you. my mom does that all the time to me. just suggest a shopping trip only for her, (but we both know, you'll end up getting stuff). just try and give her a chance to let her spend money on herself, since she seems to think its all about you.

i hope this helps!

Answer 4

hey im 21 and i know what its like to go through what you do. the bad news is she is your mum and your stuck with that and she probably wont change much cos she is older now and people dont change too much when they are older and are usually stuck in their ways. the good thing is she is your mother! and despite everything, you can work it out and it wont probably ever be all peachy like those hollywood movies but it will be get better if you try the following a few things:-
when she says its 1 oclock for example say "oh is it almost 1? thanks for telling me i lost track of time. its good you told me cos i need to go to bed so i can get up in time for school/chores etc tomorrow"
-the thing about parents they hate you pointing out their wrong, so if you reverse what you would usually say then they dont know how to react and if anything probably feel bad for nagging in the first place. make her feel like her point is valid whether you believe it or not, and she will stop nagging u eventually cos the nagging does not do anything to you anymore. you are obviously a good kid and she knows that too, if she didnt she wouldn't care what you were doing at all. in the end it may be painful and its not easy having a parent who shows their love through nagging but when times are tough just remmeber there are plently of kids who dont even have parents who care about them, and in the big scope of things atleast you know she cares. just stand your ground and be strong, do well at school and do her proud. and be her friend, she was young once too. look through photographs and ask her about her highschool days for example , you may find if you know more about her and who she was then you can work out how to handle her for who she is now. best of luck, god bless! xo mj

Answer 5

Everyone was once a teenager. It's hard...but you're mom does a lot for you. Just be patient, remember to laugh with her and enjoy the good times. All I remember from my teenage years is all the time I spent joking around and having a good time with my mother. Make her your friend!

Answer 6

she won't complain so much if you would do the things your suppose to do,like clean up after yourself,pick up your socks up off the floor,and stop being a spoil brat and go out and work somewhere like baby sitting for one of your close friends and make your own money to buy your exspensive a%% shoes.maybe if you do some of these things she won't complain as much.

Answer 7

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Answer 8

your mom love you and she just want whats best for you. try to do things that wont make her nagg. you know she dont like for you to drop your clothing on the floor dont do it. you take it off put it away then she cant nagg about that. when she starts to talk about how you get thing and she dont get for her self,seggest to her how about i get payed for the chores that i do that way you are earning the things you get and what extra money she has she can spend on her self. that also give you a chance to be indipendent. your mom wants you to appreciate the things she do for you. i also make the mistake of coming down hard on my kids and nagging them about every thing but that don't mean that i love them less or i am being a btch. i love them. i want my son to stop droping his clothing every where and tearing up all his clothes. i spend good money for his stuff and i also want him to understand that i worked very hard for two weeks for that money at a job i realy prefer not to have but i have to work for them. your mom might feel the same way. she works very hard and when she come home she needs you to help her out around the house. she want you to get good grades and finish school so you wont have to struggle for what you need and want later in life. she knows you are a good kid and she on your back like that to keep you that way. if i had my parents nagging me all the time i would of never had a baby at 17, i would of defently finished school, and i would not be trying to raise three kids while workig full time at a dead end job while finishing school. i am 25 and i wish that i had parents that care that much about me to get all in my face for every thing maybe my life would of turned out diffrent. love your mom, appreciate her. she might get on your nervers but she do it out of love, you will love and thank her for it when you get older. after reading this give your mom a huge and let her know that you love and thank her for her struggle and all that she do for. tommorow is not promised to us enjoy your mom make her your best friend. shes all that you have. i hoped this will help you. good luck and stay good.

Answer 9

this is life at 14.
Your mother knows how lucky she is to have a daughter, and probably loves every minute of it!
Be very very glad you have a mother who is there---she is your role model. Learn from her.

Answer 10

Brandie,
Your mom will stop being a ***** when you grow up and start seeing her as your mother. The one who takes care of you, cooks for you, provides for you, takes all your stupid backtalk without *****-slapping you across the room (even though you deserve it).

Hey, I have an idea, how about if you listen to her - then she'd stop nagging. DUH! That was hard!