I've really struggled over the past 2 or 3 years, with my own insecurity, fears, and especially this guy. I've been waiting around and wanting him to like me and notice me. Now I've seen what an immature little brat he is (to make a LONG story short) and I know I shouldn't want to be with him anymore. I try not to think of him as much now because I regret all this time I've wasted thinking about him. I've also been really shy and insecure these past couple of years and I feel so bad. I missed out on so much. I could have been out running around, playing sports like everyone else my age. I regret all that I missed out on. Is there any way that I can just enjoy now and make up for all I missed? or at least feel better about it? thanks!
2006-10-02 15:04:59 · 8 answers · asked by 77684 3 in Health ➔ Mental Health
I was actually never w/ the guy @ all. I just wanted him so bad and sometimes it seemed like he wanted me too=(
2006-10-02 15:16:53 · update #1
Sure you can change things. Its easy. Just take your hands after you finish reading this and clap them together. That will knock all the dust of this past relationship off. So clap them a couple of times. Get all that dust out of there. You are going to make a fresh start in your life. You are going to have fun and enjoy yourself. So you don't need to have that old dust all over you anymore.
2006-10-02 15:09:20 · answer #1 · answered by Isis 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds to me like you have a classic case of being young. The past is gone and there's not a darn thing you can do about that. Get in there and do it! When you find yourself having thoughts, talking yourself out of doing something or letting yourself have something normal (not dangerous or illegal of course) then make a conscious effort to tell yourself "I deserve to have fun" or "I am not going to make the same mistake..." The time wasn't lost, you learned something.
2006-10-02 22:38:36 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yup. It requires that you make a simple distinction between fantasy and real options. Once you see the difference, check out the real options. And you'll find out that life has as much fun as it does pain and that it's all cool.
2006-10-02 22:12:22 · answer #3 · answered by beast 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Do not beat yourself up on all you missed just be grateful that you saw the light at all...some people stay in a bad relationship for years and never get to that point...give yourself a break and say "I am proud of myself for getting the point" and go on with your life! You have so much more ahead of you and you are more than welcome!
2006-10-02 22:07:57 · answer #4 · answered by tigerlily_catmom 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well not really to be honest. You just need to forget about him, and move on. Go to a bar or club if your old enough, or just look to your friends for support. Enjoy life, have fun and do things that wont remind you of him.
2006-10-02 22:07:19 · answer #5 · answered by allukcatsbaby 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Yes, start by dumping the guy and going out with friends. You can enjoy life and in the process you will meet someone suitable for you.
2006-10-02 22:08:12 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
just learn from this and enjoy life more now. it isn't a mistake if you learn from it, only if you repeat it. good luck!!
2006-10-02 22:07:06 · answer #7 · answered by mongo862001 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
first get rid of that code name and get some self esteem. focus on your good points, you know you have lots. i alresdy know you're awful cute!
2006-10-02 22:11:37 · answer #8 · answered by La-z Ike 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋