Ok, together 5 months. We had some problems and he hurt me so I broke up with him, he was going to break up with me anyways. At first I was fine but now we are "friends" and its so hard because he said he still loved me and cared about me but hes always with other girls and it breaks my heart when i try to move on because i cant seem to stop thinking about him. How do I get over it??
2006-10-02 15:03:23 · 7 answers · asked by theblonchic 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Blonchic:
The missing element from your story is the natural grieving process that is neccesary for healing. You have allowed false hope to postpone the inevitable. Your former boyfriend's behavior indicates that your feelings are clearly unmatched, and your heart is well aware of the truth. The moving finger writes, and having written, moves on.
Grief is washed away and cleansed by our tears. You have loved and lost, and now the pain is unbearable. Let it out. Let your heart grieve for love that is lost, so that it may regain its resilliance and not become hardened. I promise you that a new love, far greater than this, will fnd its way to your door. Never underestimate the power of love!
2006-10-02 15:19:48 · answer #1 · answered by The Heart Doctor 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It's hard i know. Been there. Would it be possible for you to try not having ur paths cross? It helps when u don't get to see this guy who has hurt u. U know he is with other girls and unless u have heard it from him that he still loves u, then don't give that much weight and thought. It will only make u pine for him to come back. Might give u false hopes of a reconciliation making it harder for you to get over him. Refocus ur attention on other worthwhile things. If ur a student, put more effort on ur studies. If u have spare time, do volunteer work. Being able to help others makes u feel good about urself. Trust me, once u'll get over this heartbreak, u'll emerge stronger to tackle coming heartbreaks. Now that doesn't sound encouraging, does it? You'll be fine. Smile and make someone's day brighter! Take care!
2006-10-02 22:17:38 · answer #2 · answered by Milie88 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if he is your first love then you're not gonna get over him. i mean eventually maybe but there will always be this part of him inside you. i've had 2 girls i loved the first is now married and is expecting a child and she was my first love. and it kills me every time i think about her with someone else. the second was my last g/f who i think cheated on me cause she told me she was pregnant and it sure as heck wasn't mine. but i loved the girl and i thought she loved me but every day i have this feeling that won't go away and will forever be with me. you wake up somedays and think about them: are they happy? are they making the right decision? i mean i'm not gonna sit here and tell you my sap story but coming from a guys perspective and an emotional guy at that i thought it might help. if he's worth it don't let him go cause you don't want to sit around wondering...what if? but i do believe everything happens for a reason and that's why i'm still moving forward.
2006-10-02 22:13:16 · answer #3 · answered by whatisthis 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he still "loved you and cared about you" he wouldn't be with other girls. You are prolonging your heartbreak by pretending that you can be "friends" with him. You have stronger feelings for him than he has for you, so that's not going to work. Unless you want to keep feeling hurt, you need to make a clean break and get on with your life. It wasn't meant to be. Keep busy, give yourself time, and be kind to yourself by finding someone who doesn't need or want to be with a lot of girls....
2006-10-02 22:17:09 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well to start off you need to stop talking to him because even though you wanna stay friends with him this is just gonna make things even worse because your just gonna keep thinking about him while you talk to him and you would forget about him and the whole situation a little better if you guys just stopped talking to each other at least for a while. good luck!
2006-10-02 22:07:29 · answer #5 · answered by la_reina 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't punish yourself by being around this guy. (I have the same exp. with girl) You have normal feelings, and it will be OK, really . The fact that you have feelings makes you attractive to good guys. Your next guy will be lucky to have you. Some of us guys don't think feelings are macho. Bull. They are the real pu**ys. Stick to your girlfriends for now, but please, don't be bitter. Too much of that around already. Luck, hon, Rat
2006-10-02 22:12:18 · answer #6 · answered by Raptor 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The first love is always the hardest, find someone else, someone that is actually worth your attention.
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2006-10-02 22:08:11 · answer #7 · answered by Joy Y 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋