along time ago i posted a message about one of my ex friends stalking me well now its got worse,he has been cutting his arms .after I told him to go fu** off and leave me the hell alone...he will show up at school with these"scratches"
what should I do?
Should I ignore the fact that he is causing pain to himself?
Should I Be his friend and have him make me feel uncomfortable all the time?
Should I turn it in?
Or do i laugh at him in the hallways and make him feel like an idiot for doing something thast stupid?
or should I just let him die since he is not strong enough to handle this world?
No offense to any body who is emo...I was in his shoes once.
2006-10-02 14:56:30 · 23 answers · asked by Z ten 3 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
Your friend is what is known as a "cutter". I have a niece who did this. He needs to be reported to an authority figure so someone can get him help.
Blessings )O(
2006-10-02 14:59:10 · answer #1 · answered by Epona Willow 7 · 5⤊ 0⤋
Well, my first move would be to call the police and have him put on a suicide watch. I'm assuming that he's making a point of showing you these scratches? If so, then he's not your friend. He's using an age old guilt trip. " Do you see how much you're hurting me?" it's not real. It's just a mind job.
This is some one I would get away from. Call the police, inform the school counselor about it. Let the people that are trained to handle people like this deal with it.
Best wishes.
2006-10-02 17:06:26 · answer #2 · answered by Odindmar 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Evidently, he is attracted to you. If you have been intimate with him, then he has strong feelings for you. Sounds as if you are very cruel to him. If you have not had an intimate relationship with him, then he is stalking you. Whatever you do is not make fun of him or humiliate him, in front of others or in the school hallways. He is trying to tell you, by scratching his arms, that he is hurting and wants you to know how he is hurting over you. If this is happening in school , then go and speak with your school counselor. They will help you. If you have been intimate with him, then it sounds as if your making a damned fool out of him. Be careful, because you never know what he will do. Go to your school counselor. I also want to mention your web name. It is not a good name. Don't try to live up to that name, because it makes you sound heartless. Good Luck !
2006-10-02 15:08:43 · answer #3 · answered by Norskeyenta 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to tell an adult or one of your trusted teachers what is going on. Tell your parents too!!! Tell anybody and everybody. This is a classic case of a mental sickness. Move honey before he moves on you with dire consequences. By telling on him you will also be allowing somebody capable of helping him to do so. Otherwise, he will be taking care of you!!! You never know how far he intends to go with this kind of threats. Remember, there are too many school shootings just because somebody didnt say anything.
And for heavens sake think of your title. You think it sounds good but it just doesnt. Why would you proclaim yourself as a satanist knowing fully well what he represents and his final destination. You know something, God loves you with an unconditional love and He has a wonderful title for you, only if you will accept it.
2006-10-02 15:06:51 · answer #4 · answered by Nile Queen 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to your parents, have them go to the school with you and talk to them too. This person needs some help and you can help them get it. These are serious problems that need attention right away. It isn't squealing, or snitching or whatever it's called now, it is just helping another human being. Talk to your parents about it NOW, you can't solve this problem by yourself. You will be doing the right thing, you could be saving that person's life or the lives of others.
2006-10-02 15:07:53 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Follow Epona Willow's advice. She's a wise woman who won't lead you astray. I posted a question for you because my mail's not working. Run over there and read it quick before it gets deleted. We are causing the trouble tonight, aren't we girl??
Good luck in handling your friend. I know it's difficult for you, but you really do need to tell someone. You're too young to deal with this alone.
2006-10-02 15:06:59 · answer #6 · answered by . 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
He needs help bad. Don't blow him off, be his friend. Do that by "turning him in". You've been reading too much Anton LaVey and it's making you selfish and afraid of positive emotions. Do the right thing for your friend.
http://www.journalism.ryerson.ca/online/tangents/body/prosario.htm
There's a lot more internet resources. Check them out. If you're concerned enough to ask questions, you're concerned enough to get involved.
2006-10-02 15:06:00 · answer #7 · answered by Nightlight 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've never been in either of yours shoes, but I think you should try to get him some help before he ends up doing himself or you some real damage. I have friends that at times when they were young cut themselves, for no other reason than to feel something. I thank God they are still around today. Help him and yourself, and if your into God, pray. It helps me and I'll be praying for you both.
2006-10-02 15:04:09 · answer #8 · answered by jorst 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What's a satanist doing caring about the people in her life? That's a Godly trait....;)
My advice: Be a friend. Listen. Make sure he knows that you're willing to listen. Get him some help. There are counselors who know how things like this can get worse and they know how to talk to your friend to give him a little healthy perspective, too.
2006-10-02 15:06:58 · answer #9 · answered by roberticvs 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you could talk to the school counselor about it? Have them treat this anonymously. Being his friend out of pity isn't really fair on either of you, and laughing at him will probably just make him want to cut more. Just so long as you remember that this isn't your fault, you can't be held responsible for other people's choices.
2006-10-02 15:01:04 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
The only thing that will extinguish this obsessive behavior is getting absolutely no recognition from you whatsoever. Ignore him. You do him no favors by giving into his manipulative behavior. You have nothing to do with the pain he is inflicting on himself. That's his doing, and not your responsibility. Laughing at him will keep him engaged with you.
2006-10-02 15:00:24 · answer #11 · answered by NHBaritone 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋