Have you ever been psychology harmed by any person at church?

Question

If you have, how did you deal with it?

Did this hurt take place during worship service, a chruch dinner or any church social, before/after church or all the above.

Do you feel that church "fellowhipis" are actualy fellowships.

How do you deal with being rejected by those that are commanded to love everyone?

(Jesus suffered rejection from the religious people of his time, but knowing that doesn't always make it hurt any worse.)

If you are hurting by the conduct of someone at church, hang on to God and try not to allow such people to make you loose your faith.

Answer 1

When I first became a Christian in college, I started meeting with a couple other Christians I met. One was older and studied in the Bible. He liked to lead the discussions and have control over what ideas where theologically sound and which were not. I left the school and started theological studies across the country. As I became more educated my ideas shifted about certain topics. My old friend still wanted to "control" me and it was very psychologically damaging. I eventually cut off all contact with him. This hurt his feelings, but it was necessary for me. Seven or eight years later, we are now reacquainted, at least through email (myspace). I've probably been wary of getting too involved with spiritual mentorship sense then. I am skeptical of authority anyway.

Answer 2

I have not, myself. I attended an Assembly of God church for a while. Big mistake! I knew that I disagreed with 90% of the things they supported but I went to take my neighbor who could not drive. I stuck it out for almost a year. The final straw was when the pastor said from the pulpit that sexuality was a choice. It made me think, what if a teenage girl came to him because she thought that she might be a lesbian. The potential for him to do real harm to this poor girl is so enormous. In good conscious, I could no longer condone the lies and hate that was preached there. The tongues were cracking me up anyway. I did let this man know what I thought , although, he is so ignorant and brainwashed that I am sure it went in one ear and out the other.

Answer 3

I was told by a minister that I was going to hell when I was 5. I had a hard time walking into any church until I was found by two sister missionary's, even after I started going to the church and had a true knowledge of the lord I had a hard time feeling comfortable for about 6 months.
I was 40 when I started going to church. Oh yes it was some sort of Sunday school that he done it at.

Answer 4

My mother and her sibs were raise din a Catholic Orphanage, some 70 years ago. Sexual abuse was common, even back than. When a girl got pregnant, her fetus would be aborted and place in the incinerator in the basement. Of course, since sexual abuse by priests was ignored, the children weren't told that they would never be normal growing up, so my mother didn't experience the problems many children do today who are abused. Her one brother did become an alcoholic in later life.

Answer 5

ok this is a reply to the first answer on here I AM A CHRISTIAN AND I LOVE FREEDOM!!!! I DO NOT TAKE IT FOR GRANTED!!!! MANY PEOPLE HAVE DIED TO FIGHT FOR THIS COUNTRY AND MY FATHER IS GOING TO HAVE TO GO OVER TO IRAQ!!!!!! DONT YOU DARE SAY CHRISTIANS DON'T LOVE FREEDOM AND AMERICA!!!! I WOULD DIE FOR AMERICA IF I HAD TO!!!!! sry...
yes i have had a mishap with a member of my chruch, but i'm not sure if you woul call it psychological... this lady in my church thinks she can run the shurch even tho her husband is not the pastor... he is just a deacon... she drove our last pastor out and she yelled, i mean really yelled at his wife just before they left... and she thinks that i don't know anything cause i'm only 18... and apparently no one know but her knows how to deal with the children at our church... ok, when you take hold of a kids arm amd make them cry, that is not dealing with a child the right way... i said something to her when she did it too... and i got yelled at for it...

Answer 6

Where and when the hurt occurs is irrelevant to the hurt. Church fellowships have hurt people back to the time of James in the NT.
If one of those commanded to love hurt you - you are not exempted from that same command to love - regardless of what they may have done for you.
If you are hurting by someone's conduct, then hanging on to God means forgiving them in the name of Jesus. Hanging on to God is not about holding on so we can hold on to our hurts. Jesus already hung onto the cross. We are forgiven - and so are they.

Answer 7

Here's one more reason not to go to church. I haven't been hurt, but I know of others who have. For instance, a woman who is torn between her sincere love for her second husband (after a divorce) and her equally sincere religious feelings within the Catholic Church that doesn't approve of divorce.

Answer 8

I am afraid it is too late for me. Too many slights at the hands of Christians caused me to leave their company forever. My faith? It has changed into something none of them would recognize as spirituality because they don't understand the concept. Theirs is a herd mentality.

Answer 9

christians hate freedom and hate America.