how to forgive my evil brother?

Question

I need to forgive. it is eating away at me. how to do it?. any sudjestions. would be appreciated.

Answer 1

what did he do? why is he evil?

Answer 2

Honey trust me, I know how you feel. Family can make you mad quicker than anybody can't they?

This is something you have to understand. When you're deeply hurt, you can't just forgive and move on. You'll get a lot of people saying "just forgive and get over it" or you'll get people turning back on you and insinuating it's your fault because you can't forgive.

So listen to me. Forgiveness is not a simple thing. You don't just wake up one morning and do it and never think about it again. Sometimes it's not that simple. Forgiveness, in those cases, is more of a process. You have to make a concentrated effort to forgive them, on a daily basis. Pray about it every day. Every time you feel yourself getting mad about it, stop and say "no I forgive them."

Remember, the anger you have only hurts you. He's not studying your feelings, you can be mad from now on it won't cost him anything. So the anger is hurting you more than anyone else.

Answer 3

Ask God to help you forgive him. Pray that his sin not be held against him even if you don't feel like asking the Lord to pardon his sin, do it. Pour out to the Lord how you feel and ask Him to take away all the pain and give you a peace that surpasses all understanding. Think about what fate awaits your brother if he does not repent. This is an eternal fate. Think how sad you would feel if your brother were to experience this fate and ask the Lord to soften your brother's heart and reveal his sin to him. That he would be let to repentance and gain eternal life. Then ask God to help you let go of any trace of anger and bitterness because you want to also be forgiven by God. Ask the Lord that you might look at your brother and be able to see him as God sees him. The more you pray for your brother, the easier it will get and the more you will be able to replace the bad feelings with love and compassion. It may be your prayer of intercession that will bring the Lord's salvation to your brother! What a glorious hope!

Answer 4

Just say you forgive him and let it be done. Sometimes people think we must forget the offense at the same time we forgive but, alot of times the hurt is so deep you can't forget and that keeps us on our toes where that person is concerned if they haven't changed then you must be leery of them but, all you need to do is just say you forgive them and do not bind on earth because it will also be bound in Heaven. Also notice every time someone has been honestly forgiven of great insult or injury they almost always change for the better (Steven the first martyr with Paul?)

Answer 5

Tell him you forgive him and let it go. Anytime you hang on to a negative emotion it simply festers like an infected wound until it finally has to release it's poison into your life and the way you treat everyone else. Life is too short to hang on to excess baggage. And negativity of any sort is excess baggage. Not only that but if you stay angry and do not forget then every time you feel the resentment over whatever may have happened with flare up and you have let the other person malign you all over again. So in the end, they win. Be the bigger person.

Answer 6

Forgiveness always has to come straight from the heart. Be honest and sincere with him and see if there's any way you two can talk things out and let each other know exactly how you feel. It's be awkward at first but once the ice is broken the relief and joy follows quickly.

Answer 7

First off it depends on what he did. If it severe enough to be mad at him then you have every right to be. And don't give me any of that religious "God" said forgive everyone. Those words come from the same people you see on TV who are watching the man who killed their loved one be put to death. So anyway, what I am saying is this "forgive your brother if he deserves it, don't force yourself too" "next time he is being an *** put him in his place" "what happens today will be a forgotten memory a year from now so who cares" Good luck.

Answer 8

whatever your brother did to you should stay in the past. just try not to remmeber it, i know it may be hard but do your best! i talk for expirience!! anyway, forgiving may or actually is very hard, but if one doesn't forgive we only harm ourselves. we became so angry that on one wants to be around us. and sometimes we get mad the God which he doesn't even have part in the evil things we do! Pray to God so he can help u open up your heart and pray, when praying say the name of your brother and say you forgive him! BUT you must do it with all your heart! or else the seed will just keep growing...
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Answer 9

Well sit down and think about everything good and nice that your brother has done for you. All the times that he has been there for you when you really needed someone to talk with or just to sit with. It will cancel out all the evil things that he has done to you. Talk to him about the stuff that he does to you and how it makes you feel. Little brothers are suppose to be evil and crude but they are always there for you, its like that with everyone in your family.

I hope that everything works out for you and your brother. I know how much its eating you up inside. Its the same way with my little brother and my big sister. We seem to make everything better tho after we have a heart to heart talk. That's all that's needed. And remember that he is your little brother and he may do the things that he does to get your attention or he may be trying to be like you. Little siblings always seem to look up to the older ones and want to be just like them and they try their hardest to do so.

Good luck and have a good day.

Answer 10

You just do it. Don't do it for your brother's sake, do it for your own sake. The eating away will go away when you have truly forgiven him. I'm not saying it's easy but you just have to make the decision to do it. The fact that God forgives us should make it easier. It is our responsibility to forgive, I don't think it's that you don't know how, I think it's just a harder thing to do than you thought. I'll pray for you.

Answer 11

I have the same problem and I know that it is for myself that forgiveness would be a good thing, it's been three years and I have not been able to do it. If you get any good suggestions, let me know.