I love my husband, but like in every marriage, there are ups and downs. What concerns me is that sometimes, without any reason, I remember something that happened years ago and I get mad or sad. This week I remembered something that he did 6 years ago and now I am convinced that he was having an affair. I didn’t know back them, but it’s as if I opened my eyes now. Therefore, I sent him an e-mail (he is in another state) and told him that I cannot forgive him. The scene is there in my mind day and night. I feel like I hate him and told him that we must stop communicating. I am almost sure that in one more week I will see that scene as, “Come on. He was just giving her a ride.” But then in another week, I will want to ask him for a divorce. What is causing these cycles in my life? How is possible that some days the thoughts hurt me, but days later the same thoughts don’t affect me at all?
2006-10-02 14:15:13 · 10 answers · asked by Nim 1 in Health ➔ Mental Health
Don't worry too much about how to label the problem. It sounds like a systems-level problem and not one that you alone are responsible for creating or solving. This is a relationship issue and would probably be best explored in couples therapy. By the sounds of it, this might even be something that could be dramatically helped in just a handful of sessions (maybe 3-5). Personality disorders dominate a person's entire life and personality. As a rule, all or almost all relationships are impacted, as well as job and school functioning. If this problem you describe is relatively isolated to your marriage, and your marriage is otherwise relatively calm and satisfying, it's very doubtful that you suffer from a personality disorder. We all have traits that can, at various times, seem personality disorder-like. Only if the traits are severe enough to impair functioning and persist across many different life circumstances, would there be a possibility of a personality disorder.
2006-10-02 15:13:37 · answer #1 · answered by PsyDocMD 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would say that you do, indeed, need to go get checked out by a doc. in the mental health field. Simply because I see in the ups and down you mention as possible signs of several illnesses which could be at fault. Also, get checked by your PCP for any physical problems, including but not limited to hormonal. It could be something very easy to "cure", or, something that may require counseling. In either event, I hope you seek help soon.
2006-10-02 14:36:58 · answer #2 · answered by WS 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It seems like you are trying to create chaos in the relationship. This is usually a symptom of a co-dependancy syndrome. It's not a personality disorder, it's a type of disfunctional behavior caused by abusive or neglectful parents. If your husband is an alcoholic, then you can bet you are co-dependant. The chaos "drives him to drink" as they say, and enables his alcoholism. the codependant needs to have the drama caused by the alcoholism to feel loved. It's a very common thing actually.
2006-10-02 14:22:24 · answer #3 · answered by martin h 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Having unresolved emotional issues does not make you a mental case. If your husband is in another state, you aren't having much immediate interaction so it's natural you would be drawn to emotional events of the past.
It feels like it's out of control because you're not experiencing enough intimacy in real life to satisfy your needs. You need to examine your real life situation for alternatives rather than your psyche for diagnostic labels.
2006-10-02 15:04:59 · answer #4 · answered by beast 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I dont think you have a personality disorder it sounds like you have a problem with trust. Has someone close to you done something previously to make you question your judgement? Maybe your just not over it and need to work through your past hurt so you can move on with the future.
2006-10-02 14:19:12 · answer #5 · answered by snschro 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You never gave your age. That has alot to do with it. It could be mid-life crisis 35-45, could be menopause or hormone imbalance. I had a thyroid disorder that made me weird out. Get checked for everything. Good luck! It's definitely not bi-polar.
2006-10-02 14:29:57 · answer #6 · answered by Kitty L 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You could have a bi polar disorder from what I am seeing..I am not a professional so really only someone trained on what to look for can give you a definite diagnosis...either way you still need to seek professional help...good luck!
2006-10-02 14:24:05 · answer #7 · answered by tigerlily_catmom 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
are you bipolar? you may be go seek help you can talk to your family practitioner they can recommend a pro to help or can prescribe right at the visit. but yeah you should defiantly get a little help
2006-10-02 14:18:42 · answer #8 · answered by gsschulte 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like borderline personality disorder
2006-10-02 14:23:18 · answer #9 · answered by chef spicey 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yeah its scary vote for me please??!!!!
2006-10-02 14:17:23 · answer #10 · answered by #2people 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋