My fiance and I have been dating for 6 years. We have a beautiful little boy together. We are a very happy family with only one problem. EVERY time we want to get married, something happens and our money goes elseware... like having our 2 cars repo'd and evicted from our apartment... not all at the same time. We are ready to begin our wonderful life as husband and wife, but we need money!!!! Can you offer advice?
2006-10-02 14:10:27 · 28 answers · asked by Mariposa 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
Plan a very intimate ceremony at the justice of peace or church and a very intimate get together at your house or parents house after. Thats what my brother did. You can always renew your vows later with more flare.
2006-10-02 14:13:59 · answer #1 · answered by Mommy-of-Twins 4 · 5⤊ 0⤋
I do believe a strong financial picture is important before marriage
most divorces are a cause of financial burdens so make sure you have some money set aside it looks to me that you have troubles with money and that should be lloked at before marriage
if you are already in a strain on money getting married may be a mistake because it may be the only thing you are thinking of on the big day like how are we going to pay this money back to our friends etc. The big day should only be about you and your fiance. The parents usually help out where are they I know when I got married my in-laws asked if we would like a honeymoon or
a bunch of useless gifts. Of course we went with the honeymoon. So maybe ask family and friends to donate to your wedding expenses rather then getting a gift. Hey you may not get 10 blenders and a crock pot lol. Just another thing ever considered eloping you could save a bundle or just go down to city hall with a couple of friends and then plan a romantic getaway.
2006-10-02 15:00:43 · answer #2 · answered by Livinrawguy 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should hold off on planning for a wedding. Get your finances together because you obviously need to work on that. If you don't want to wait to get married then have a small private ceremony. It doesn't mean you have to go to the JP. Find a minister and have a ceremony at someone's house or a nice hotel suite, then go out to dinner. It will be special to the 2 of you regardless of how it's done. Once your finances are in order start saving and renew your vows and do it how you want.
2006-10-02 16:44:54 · answer #3 · answered by BZ44 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are in financial difficulty, it is very foolish to spend $3k for a wedding. You can go to the justice of the peace and get married. You then send out announcements to those people you would have invited to the wedding. If they know anything about etiquette, the receipt of an announcement means you owe either a gift or money. That way you get the goodies without spending a lot of money on a wedding which, by your own admission, is six years late.
2006-10-02 14:19:50 · answer #4 · answered by darkdiva 6 · 4⤊ 0⤋
It only costs like $100 to get married.
Just go down to the courthouse with your documents, and get married! Take your son out to dinner afterwards. Send out annoucements afterwards to tell everyone the good news.
You can't afford a reception right now. Have a big anniversary banquet a few years from now after you have your act together, and that can be your celebration. Living from paycheck to paycheck and getting evicted is no way to raise your son OR plan a wedding reception.
2006-10-02 15:58:17 · answer #5 · answered by Etiquette Gal 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have a backyard wedding at a friend's or your family's house.Ask them for help.Justice of the peace will not cost 3000 dollars .If you need money go try and get a loan from the bank but to me its crazy geting married for 3000 bucks when you have to borrow it.
2006-10-02 16:13:16 · answer #6 · answered by Joan C 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first of all you can have a nice wedding for a lot less. I did everything for my wedding myself like I borrow a wedding dress, i used artificial flowers instead of real ones, i made all of bouquets, corsages, etc, i had someone make my wedding cake, i borrow my bridesmaids dresses, i did all the decorating myself, and my grandmother made the punch. My whole wedding cost less than $500 and that was everything including attire for everyone, the marriage license, EVERYTHING. I had several people tell me that is was just as pretty and nice as an expensive one. Find out your resources and use them.
So it can be done.
2006-10-02 16:08:47 · answer #7 · answered by Smiley Freckles 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't raise $3k in a month for your wedding unless you take out a loan and it sounds like you can't. You could use credit cards. But that's just more trouble. It sounds like you need to cut down on your wedding budget. See what resources friends have...my friends made their own invitations, etc.
2006-10-02 14:13:28 · answer #8 · answered by Jenny J 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
ok, for one you don't need that much for a wedding. I put together my wedding for 1500.00 and you probably can go lower. Instead of wedding gifts which we didn't need, I asked if anyone would pay for my wedding cake, flowers and many of my aunts was delighted to help pay for it because they felt like there were involved. Some would say it was tacky but I think have a money tree at a wedding is very tacky.
2006-10-02 14:59:05 · answer #9 · answered by I am my own Best Friend 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Yes, get married at the justice of the peace for less than $200.
2006-10-02 14:12:12 · answer #10 · answered by janicajayne 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋