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Question

I am depressed and hurting, but i don't know just how much. I am seeing two people right now, but i can't seem to trust them. I have dreams day and night that scare me. They are all about killing and dying, and wanting pain and death. I read all kinds of books. I enjoy them more then people. I was harrased for nearly 10 years before swithching schools. Please help me.

Answer 1

It takes time to develop trust in a counselor. It is perfectly OK to tell a counslor you don't trust them yet, it is there job to earn your trust in a sane and appropriate way.

It may take several months to several years to trust someone.

But if you don't feel right with someone, and yoiu are pretty sure it's not a good match, move on- you are 'hiring' your counselor, they work for you.

The dreams you describe are hard, but not unexpected after harassment and with depression. Write them down and plan on sharing them with a counselor when you have enough trust to do so.

There si nothing wrong with self help books, but you do need to talk to live people to heal.

Consider getting in touch with support groups too, often you can trust a peer who has gone through similar or is feeling similar things.

Keep reaching out.

Answer 2

I am so confused. It sounds like you have a lot of things going on here so let me try to break it down..
You are depressed? Ok, well we all get depressed but if your depression has been consistent for two weeks or more, then you have major depression. The good news is you can treat this by talking to a psychiatrist.
Why are you seeing two people that you do not trust? Do you feel like you have to have someone in your life? You don't! You are better off having no friends instead of bad ones.Your dreams are probably linked to your depression. It is ok to prefer to read books over hanging with friends especially if your friends are bringing you down.
Sweetie it just sounds like you are depressed. Depression can do a lot of things. Depression can make things seem worse then what they really are. Every little problem becomes a HUGE issue. Don't be ashamed to see a doctor. Many people have suffered with depression....it does not mean you are crazy...the crazy people are the ones who don't get help because of the stigma surrounding depression. Once you are able to get things in perspective, you will realize that you do not need negative people in your life. Good luck and remember, God is always in your corner!

Answer 3

You need to seek help from a professional. Don't waste your time seeing someone you don't trust, what's the point? Reading is a good thing and if you are more comfortable with it than people there is nothing wrong with that. Find someone to talk to about your feelings, a professional Dr or psychologist would be the best as they can be more objective than a friend and possibly offer you more solutions. Don't stay depressed alone because it only gets worse. I speak from experience and was sorry that I waited so long to get help. Good luck.

Answer 4

Well, Andy, I don't think we here on Yahoo!Answers can help you. We can encourage you, but most of us are just expressing opinions. Enjoy the friends you are seeing now and take these relationships for what they are--trust or no trust--enjoy what you are getting out of them right now. If something happens, move on an take it as part of life. Get outside and get a little exercise (walking) and sunshine each day. Drink a lot of water, don't eat a lot of junk food or fast food and processed food with a lot of preservatives in them. Take a multivitamin sometime during the day or at night after you have eaten. Good luck. Life is not always pleasant for most of us, but make the most of what the Lord has given you. Say, "Lord, help me with this" when you are troubled. Worrying doesn't change anything.

Answer 5

Have you ever thought about counceling? Just talking to someone could help your situation. I love books too and read all the time. But I think that is normal to escape to books. You are severely depressed and need some professional help. There are some places that go by income so it wouldn't be so expensive. How about a crisis hotline in your area?

Answer 6

You need to see a mental health care Doctor. By getting brain working properly you will balance out your feelings. You have two neurotransmitters in you brain that work like the gas pedal in a car and two that work like the brakes. When you have only gas you become out of control, when you only have brakes you ain't going anywhere. the ideal situation is gas and brakes when you need them. The book listed below has test that you can take to see where you stand. The Doctor has some very good advice.

Answer 7

You said you are seeing two people, as in dating or as in therapists?

Books are a wonderful escape as they can't hurt you and are much easier to deal with than people. But they are an escape if you read to avoid socializing with people.

You need to seek out a therapist to help you deal with your troubled past and help you find peace and learn to interact with others. Some anti-depressants from a psychiatrist might be in order too. If you don't feel like either the therapist or psychiatrist is helpful or listening to you, find another.

A family member of mine has dealt with depression and abuse as a child, and it took a few years of therapy by a good therapist, and her 3rd psychiatrist to find the right medications to help him/her heal.

I wish you well and good luck.

Answer 8

I know exactly what it feels like to suffer severe depression, to feel like there's no hope, to feel worthless. It wasn't until I got on the correct medications that I was able to finally see what "normal" feels like. But even more importantly, I trusted Jesus Christ as my personal savior. Having a relationship with Him, talking with Him, and understanding that He loves me SO MUCH that He died in my place is enough to help me go on every day. In the Bible, Ephesians 3:14-21, it claims that through Christ we have POWER, and it also claims that we can never understand how high, how deep, and how wide is His love. I hope you can pray to Him and ask Him to help you, and that you BELIEVE how much He loves you!
I don't know what state you live in, but if you want to talk to someone personally, go to suicidehotlines.com and it will give you a phone number to call. Please hang in there.

Answer 9

Develop and gain the habits of being strong, confident, and self-reliant.

Involve yourself in public speaking, mingling with people, and ascertain your presence in all gatherings.

Be More Extrovert than Introvert.

Try to keep cordial relations with one and all.

Try to see men as Men, and ladies as LADIES, instead of just as SEX objects.

Try to control your smoking / drinking / drug habits, if you have any. Too Much Excess of anything will just ruin you whole.

Even breathing exercises and little yoga (from proper instructors / guides), or sincere prayer may help you.

Always SMILE, and pass on the smile on others faces.

Answer 10

Why does it matter if you read? If you are seeing too people, you probably can't trust them, if you are lying to them. And as for the rest you may need to see a doctor. It would help to have somebody to talk to if you have had alot of stress in your life.

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