I am 22 he is 24. We have known each other for 4 yrs and have been serious for 6 months. We love each other very much. I do not want to stay together for a couple years and then figure out that a future with me is not what he wants.
2006-10-02 13:50:18 · 27 answers · asked by greeneyes 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
6 months is really not that long. How often do you see each other now and in beginning. Dont rush things your both young enjoy the time you have together. Something will happen and you will know its time to take it to next level but I dont think your there yet
2006-10-02 13:54:12 · answer #1 · answered by ? 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
how did you decide to become "serious" 6 months ago? The same approach you took to see if you were going to be exclusive is the same I would suggest for the whole "is this a long term / short term relationship" chat. Chances are you both know if you want to settle down or if you are just enjoying each other. Seems to me like you are the first option so like you said: find out now rather than later (realizing things can always change).
2006-10-02 13:54:59 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I met my husband when I was 17. We had the talk about the future the day after we met. We have been married for 24 years now!!! Have the talk when you feel comfortable doing so. You are right it is better to know if you both want the same things for the future than waiting and finding out you want totally different things. Good luck to you both.
2006-10-02 13:57:24 · answer #3 · answered by miss_nikki214 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Why are you being so impatient? What about how you feel? Just remember that it's not all about him. When you decide you want to get married and he hasn't asked you yet; you have two choices either ask him or break it off. I don't care if he is a guy and if it hurts his little ego for you to ask that question. You have every right to know if you have been in a serious relationship with him.
2006-10-02 13:57:05 · answer #4 · answered by Busy Lady 2010 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As a general rule, guys at this age get turned off and scared very easily if you talk to them about it. Six months may be too early to pose that question. Guys generally want to initiate that type of question. If you really want to know, you have to find alternative ways to find out what he wants, using indirect questions, like, hey I just heard that my two friends in college are getting married to each other and they have only been dating for six months. What do you think about that? How long do YOU think THEY should wait? Pose the question in an unthreatening indirect way, because believe me, something like this can ruin the relationship. If you are very concerned about that already, I can guarantee that you will run into problems. And many people would say, oh he should just grow up if he cant talk about that, but thats only what women would say. The reality is, thats just men, thats the way they are, they hate commitment, unless they initiate it themselves.
2006-10-02 13:56:41 · answer #5 · answered by Sam S 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Love isn't a game. It's about being yourself--more yourself than you can be alone--in the company of another person. If this guy brings that out in you, trust him and yourself to talk about it. No big thing....such conversations about discovery should be completely natural to both of you. It's not in the timing--it's the TRUST.
2006-10-02 13:55:50 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Probably should have talked about this about six months ago. When things "get serious" (which probably means sex) the relationship is usually doomed for failure.
Sex is supposed to have a price. The cost is supposed to be love and fidelity. Give it away for free and see what you get in return.
2006-10-02 13:53:18 · answer #7 · answered by Privratnik 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
whever u feel like it, my bf and i just started going out and ive already told him that when we break up i still want to b friends. he agreed w/ me, so now we r set for the future b/c there is no doubt about how if ends- and if it doesn't end, well then i only wasted a few mins of my life.
2006-10-02 13:53:38 · answer #8 · answered by neverland22 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should have talks about the future all the time.
2006-10-02 13:53:15 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Dont rush him or you will scare him . Those kind of things scares
the life out of most guys even if they seem like there are ready .
2006-10-02 13:54:17 · answer #10 · answered by conan_0565 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋