My son is 3 and will not potty train. At school the teachers say he screams and crys when they make him go potty like a big boy and he refuses with me. I can't take it much longer!!
2006-10-02 13:46:23 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
Quit pushing him. The worst thing you could do when it comes to potty training is to push him. Step back for awhile and start up again in a few weeks. Rushing him isn't going to help the process! Good luck and God bless
2006-10-02 13:48:46 · answer #1 · answered by BeeFree 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I know that with the 4 year old I used to live with wouldn't use the potty for anyone but me. It wasn't because we had any special bond, but I told him that until he used the potty like a big boy he couldn't do big boy things. He already knew how to use the potty, he just didn't want to. Bribing him didn't work, and I didn't necicarily punish him, it was just the rule that if he wasn't using the potty like a big boy, he couldn't do big boy things like watch cartoons, play video games, help me cook etc. Your son may be too young for that just yet, but you know best. Another thing that worked well when I was potty training the 3 year old I nannied for was putting his little potty out in the living room in front of the tv. He could watch tv and sit on the potty at the same time. Every kid is different so those things may not work for you. Best of luck!
2006-10-02 20:59:13 · answer #2 · answered by Melissa, That's me! 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Maybe watching his dad or uncle or granddad do it may releive some fear he has about the potty. Keep him in pullups and try to get the potty fear to go away (I'm assuming fear since he cries as opposed to just saying no) by having him spend time with the potty. Just being around it, flushing it, lifting the lid up and down.
Other than that, I don't know. Take a break and start next week.
2006-10-03 11:52:49 · answer #3 · answered by Lotus Phoenix 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He isn't ready yet.....and forcing will make him less ready.
Soon he will see the other kids going and won't want to wear those "baby diapers" anymore. Boys always potty train later than girls so don't worry. There isn't a grown man out there (or even a 6 yr old) who isn't potty trained.
He's just fighting the change that's all. It wouldn't hurt to go shopping for new "big boy undies" and let them sit out in the room for him to see everyday, eventually he might pick them up, check them out and want to wear them. Then you start......if he wants to wear them then he has to keep them clean....so if he needs to go (whatever you call it at home) he will need to tell mommy so you can help him...
2006-10-02 20:51:06 · answer #4 · answered by T 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If his preschool or daycare is not helpful or accepting put him somewhere else. The worst think you can do is push. Putting him back in pull ups will also send him mixed messages.
If he goes to preschool, not daycare, see if you can get him into a mothers morning out program, where potty training isn't required.
I know it is hard, but you can make it though this. Because like every phase they go thru...this too shall pass!
2006-10-02 21:09:51 · answer #5 · answered by Beth M 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Check out Dr. Phil. He has a Potty Train in one day method.
http://www.drphil.com
2006-10-02 22:00:06 · answer #6 · answered by teeney1116 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know it sounds bad but it will work. Make them change there self when they poddy there pants. Make them pull there pants down (with a little bit of your help if needed) Give them the wet wipes and clean under ware or pull ups. Let them clean themselves off. Talk calmly and Tell them they are to old to be making there selves stinky. There either going to have to go in the potty or they'll have to spend all this time cleaning themselves up be for, they can return to the fun Big Kid stuff. At er one time of having to wipe poo off they'll be ready to go on the pot.
Please use com man sense in doing this. You do not want to scare them. Just let them know your not going to be the one to clean it up. BUT PLEASE STILL CLEAN HIM UP AND WASH HANDS AND AREA AFTER HE'S DONE.
Brag on them. Have fun and don't give up.
2006-10-02 21:40:02 · answer #7 · answered by Ang 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
ya my baby brother is that way. boys are harder to potty train than girls. he'll start when he is ready. have you tried on a day when your both home all day, putting underwear on him and asking him every 10-15 minutes. thats working for my baby brother. good luck and try not to loose patience with him.
2006-10-02 20:57:21 · answer #8 · answered by That Person. 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Do not push him. The more you do the more stressed over this you will get. He clearly isn't emotionally ready. He will let you know when he is. All kids are different. Let him know that it is OK that he isn't ready and when he is you will be there for him. And he needs to know that you love him regardless. Try to do small steps instead of giant ones. He will do it when you are least expecting it. just let nature take its coarse. It will happen when its time for his body to have it happen.
2006-10-03 02:21:51 · answer #9 · answered by Stephi 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe he has a potty problem maybe it hurts to come out if hes constipated or has a hard time passing anything out
2006-10-03 02:42:23 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋