Do I have a right to be angry?

Question

If I were to find out that my father has a son I didn't know about from a previous marriage that I ALSO didn't know about?

Answer 1

What kind of a girl R U?
R U sick minded lady, who is just playing with our emotions and wasting our time in asking such stupid and silly questions. U've asked fol questions; that shows your mentality: -

I just found out...?
I caught my mom...?
I found gay porn on his computer...?
What should I do with my nephew?!?!?I just found out...?

Yahoo friends u can see his profile and check the creepy thins.

Answer 2

Umm, you sure do have every right to be hot as fish grease!

But the reality is, Dad is probably more angry at himself than you could ever be at him for keeping such a thing from you for however long. What you need to know about men is that they are internal as far as emotions. The more something bothers them, the more they keep it on the inside, and the fact that he didn't tell you this sooner is a testimony to that. He feels bad enough already. Imagine how your mother must feel, and how Dad feels about keeping this fro her ( if that's the case, I'm assuming).

I would suggest maybe having lunch w/Dad, and getting everything off your chest, but don't go on and on about it every time you see Dad. No need to cry over spilled milk...that has since dried up!! Be grateful you still have a Father in your life.

Answer 3

Your father must have had a good reason to not tell you about his previous marriage. My father had a previous marriage (no children though) that I didn't find out about until I was an adult. I was a bit upset but not angry.
Nobody has to tell their children about their past if it has no bearing on their current relationship.

Answer 4

Wow ... well my father wasn't married before my mother, but he was so close it was scary ( he said I don't instead of I do) ... ok ok well the moral of the story was that they were high school sweethearts and she got pregnant right after they graduated and she decided that they should be married now ... so against his best judgement he agreed, so finally he said it took his best man to tell him that he knew that he wasn't "ready" but knew he cared about her and told him that he shouldn't marry just for a child. So... My dad said when he was suppose to say I do he felt it was a lie. So he said I don't and told her he needed time and he didn't feel it was right to jump the gun just cause she was pregnant, that they had all the time in the world to get married if it right, and he will love and care for the child and her the same married or not ....well she said he would get married today... or have nothing to do with her anymore... He picked his happiness and didn't marry her. She stayed to her word and wouldn't even except money he mailed to her. He went into the military, met my mother, they fell in love and had three children, and was madly in love until she suddenly passed away when I was 9. My step mother just recently complained that he was talking to his son from is first woman (she's very jealous, I guess she thought I knew about him) and I was very upset because I'm married with my own family now and just finding out about my half brother.... so I went to him and asked him why he hadn't told us and how could he leave her with a child and I didn't think he was the man I knew and was ranting and raving about how I felt betrayed. Then he told me the whole story. SOOOOO I believe that your dad wasn't trying to hurt you but he thought it better that he didn't tell you for his own reasons. Maybe not even just to protect your feelings.... but maybe his own also. so in that whole novel I wrote I hope all works out between you two and it doesn't come between you and your dad's relationship and that you find a new "best friend" in your brother. I did.

Answer 5

look its good that you forgave your father because now you know that he is married and has a son as well.What are you going to get out of it if you will be angry or get mad at your father.
I dont think its a good idea to go against your Father.His son(now your brother) also would feel neglected if you did something wrong.
I know you must be thinking, no ones thinking about you,but then the best thing would do is to forgive your father and accept and invite whatever is there in life.
Remember!!! EVERYTHING HAPPENS FOR A REASON.

Answer 6

He took all the responsibility from his past in his only hands.
You can't be angry for not be envied and maybe couldn't understand his past right.
Remember never ever get angry on anything is very bad behavior you must understand people why they did what they did to accept even if you don't like. Any motivations have some reasons.
God Bless You

Answer 7

Has your father been a good father to you? You can let him know how you feel, but I hope more so you can support him in how he feels and what this has done to him. You have been given a great gift to learn alot about your father. Don't miss this opportunity by being angry. Listen, listen and then listen some more.

Answer 8

First of all, you have the right to feel anything you want - what you feel isn't right or wrong! Second, it must be hard to have found that out. And being angry is ok - you feel he lied to you. Don't let it sit and stew inside you though, that won't help anyone - especially you. I would tell him how it makes you feel, and if you truly can't talk to him about - find a counselor. You gotta work this one out inside yourself, with a little help!

Answer 9

What your Father did in his previous life is really none of your business. It's his right to keep it private. The only one he needed to share it with was your Mother.

Answer 10

I would be, but I have since learned that our parents did things that we did/didn't like because of the way that they were raised and we turned out the way we did because of the way they raised us.

a question for you: do you know how to get in touch with this step sibling? Do you want to ? Do you want to grow from this experience or just be angry about it?

Answer 11

You always have the right to be angry, but you don't have to be angry. Things piss us off, true, but it's better to deal with them in rational thought rather than in an assuming trance of rage that resolves nothing. Be angry, but don't lash out at him, of course don't hide your anger from him too much.

Geez, he sure raised a hothead.