How do you retain girls' attention?

Question

I am very popular with girls and always got their attention but I have never had a girlfriend in my life. I was raised by my mother and never had an idea of how relationships work and noone taught me how to deal with girls. I am in my 20s and I just recently understood that a girl will never approach you even though I expected it all my life. Most girls like me but I have no idea how to get in a flirtatious interaction with them and we always talk about boring things and they lose their interest in me. So what do I do? I am really depressed because of it all the time.

Answer 1

Listening and paying attention to details. Don't flirt, be natural and open mind, open your ears, this is something not many men do. They will tell you.

Answer 2

You remind me of my best friend, who has the same problems...he can get SOME girls, but can never keep them. I think your problem is that most girls, when they first met you, thought one thing, and when they got to know you, changed their minds and were totally turned off. My question is...what is it that made you popular with girls? Looks, money, profession? (Probably not personality cuz you said you talk about boring things, which causes them to lose interest). The funny thing is, there are plenty of guys w/ no personalities out there, but I'm sure they've had a few relationships in their lifetimes. Ask your close friends...if you have a chick friend, even better, cuz no one here can give you an accurate assessment.

Answer 3

1) Could you have ended up talking too much about yourself during your dates? I had a horrible date once, he was the sweetest guy - rich, good looking and highly educated. The only problem with him was he was ranting on and on about 'Me, Myself and I'. I told him in his face that he's boring.

2) What kind of girls did you befriend? It could also be a compatibility issue. You are simply a magnet to a category of girls whom you have difficulty connecting with. My boyfriend took a long time to eventually meet a girl like me because previously he went out with girls who couldn't hold intellectual conversations and he got bored instantly.

You've got to remember that flirtatious talk doesn't necessarily guarantee you a girl of your choice. Be yourself and you will eventually find that soul mate you've been longing for all your life.

You can still talk about the things you like to talk about, but just make sure you strike a balance of answers and questions in your conversations.

3) Or perhaps your appearance gives girls the wrong impression? Maybe you look a little 'wild' but you are actually a commited kind of guy. I mean, girls don't want a guy that's too 'hot' because it makes them feel insecure. Girls are worried to take that further step in such relationships.

You give me the impression that you are a really sweet and nice guy. Don't worry, it takes time to find the right person for yourself. I always believe in waiting for the right person at the right time because I don't want to end up with the wrong person and experience heartache!

Answer 4

Okay, try being cocky and funny. Subscribe for these free e-newsletters (I never bought the book, but I suppose you could) But think of cute things to say, compliments, picking people up in bars and so on. Online dating works too. But try watching more interesting things on t.v. so you'll have better things to talk about. Girls like guys who are interesting, I'm sure if you can think of things to talk about, they'll love you. Learn jokes, read books, watch movies and so on. Ask a girl for her number right away so she doesn't get bored, then go to dinner and a movie or something.

Answer 5

Just walk up to a girl. Don't try out a cheesy line, because we hate that. Instead, say something like, "Hey, My name's [Name]. How are you?"

Try and put up some witty banter, maintain eye contact for a few seconds, then look and wave at a nearbye friend.

Answer 6

First, realize that your desire for attention from the opposite sex is sickening. They aren't something to be desired.

That aside, find someone who you're really attracted to and they are back, and then go out on a limb and initiate something! Remember that in this day and age she'll treat you like an e-mail and before you know it, -BAM- you're dumped and spend another year out of college moping and trying to find yourself in another country like a moron.

Answer 7

just talk about things they might like that interests u. u never know what a girl likes until u start talkin. so what if u were raised by ur mom u should understand women more. so thats good. well good luck dude...u will need it....i think...lol.

Answer 8

be urself, be smart and humorous, and dont be too selfish...women or girls wants some attention and if u can give it to them unselfishly, i m sure u can keep them interested. dont get depressed, be happy with who u are and dont expect other people to lift u off that depressive state...it is a state of mind and girlfriend or no girlfriend....u should be happy.

Answer 9

just ask ur favorite out. they probably all want u, but dont no how u feel. this happened to one of my guy friends.
if ur shy, then u can always ask one of ur girl friend to find out how a certain girl feels about u. it worked for my friend, it'll work for u

Answer 10

Wave a dollar bill in front of their face.

Trust me. Works everytime.