I meet this guy about three weeks ago, at first I didnt like him but since then he has been calling me not every day but two or three times a week since then, we have gone out about 4 times and he gets really jealuos when I talk with other guys. On our thirs night out we kissed. Now I´m starting to like him and I think he likes me but since and very shy when we go out I cannot think of anything to say and I only laugh at his jokes, he talks a lot and he´s really funny. Now sinc eI like him I don´t want him o think that I´m a boring person because am quiet and I would like him to call me more often, I cannot get the courage to call him and that worries me because I don´t want him to think i´m not interested in him since I really like him. So any advice? Is it abad sign if he´s taking things slow? please help me with some advice?
2006-10-02 13:29:20 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Anything that's worth waiting for is worth having...but it wouldn't hurt to call him maybe he thinks you don't feel the same way about him and he's controlling his feelings so if it doesn't work out the pain won't be so bad.....
2006-10-02 13:35:05 · answer #1 · answered by Mechelle 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes its easier to write things than to say them. With that being said maybe you'll be more comfortable to text or email him instead of talking on the phone or face to face until u feel a bit more relaxed around him. As far as him taking things slow, it may just mean that he respects you which is never a bad thing. The best thing I can say to you is to relax. Try to be urself around him. Also, here's one thing I do when I really wanna speak to somebody and dont have anything to say. I call and the first thing out of my mouth is "what u doing" then "how was ur day". After that if the convo goes silent just say "well, u crossed my mind and i was just calling to check up on u" and make up an excuse to get off the phone. This lets him know u r interested while helping u get used to him cause 9 out of 10 times he's gonna ask about ur day after telling u about his. And hopefully a conversation will develop from there. Good luck!!!!
2006-10-02 20:39:07 · answer #2 · answered by bettiboo 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He just wants to really get to know you and doesnt want to rush things, call him, dont be scared because he most likely feels the same way about it. or next time you see him ask him on a date like a movie or dinner, something where you can really get close, or talk. Thats good that you laugh at his jokes, guys like that. im a guy and ive never had a girl ask me out, i have always had to ask the girl out so more power to you, go for it.....
2006-10-02 20:49:07 · answer #3 · answered by djc2232 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Him taking things slow is very Gentlemen like...in my opinion. So many men try to just ''hit it'' and run, it's nice, better yet refreshing to see a man taking his, getting to know a woman.
As for you being afraid, you better grow some balls girlfriend!! Ain't nuthin to it, but to do it! Just call him, I bet if you call him, and say: OMG!!! I am so nervous, he'll burst out laughing, and that alone will brake the ice. Just do it. Take your time, God could have very well just put your soul mate right in front of you. As the rapper Bone Crusher says: I ain't nevah scared!!
Get to know his head above his neck!
See how he treats the females in his family 9 mother, sisters, nieces, etc).
How is handles money, his bills.
How he keeps himself ( attire,living space,personal grooming etc).
His debts ( he'll share this w/you as you two grow loser and he developed trust in you to tell you his private business).
Get to know the man, then everything else will fall into place.
God Bless.
2006-10-02 20:39:39 · answer #4 · answered by NURSING FOR LIFE!! 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well personally from my experience it is best to take things slow with him...i know for a fact a guy that is real jealous there is going to be trouble...could be he is possessive too...and be yourself and if that is not good enough then do not worry about it....there will be plenty more boys down the road...i worry about things when they say they are jealous or possessive because my ex was like that and he ended up being very abusive for no reason at all....
2006-10-02 20:34:14 · answer #5 · answered by sanangel 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if he keeps calling & u never do, he'll start thinkin that ur not into him as much as he's into you.. know what I mean? you should call him, at least just to say "hi" ask about his day or whatever, just don't make him feel like he's doing all the work or he'll get bored.
about the quiet & shy thing, thats okay.. its just who you are, he'll get used to it & u'll loosen up by time when u know him better & u'll talk more by time.
good luck
2006-10-02 20:35:44 · answer #6 · answered by Whatever 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There's nothing wrong with taking slow, better that then to rush it and then regret it later. You being a quite person, it's something he will have to accept. You can't change that for anybody but yourself.
2006-10-02 20:43:22 · answer #7 · answered by Brooklyn Mami 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is not a bad sign when taking it slow. However, since you admit to your shyness, perhaps he doesn't know exactly how to read you or if you are truly interested.
2006-10-02 20:33:57 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't worry i get nervous all the time around guys I like too.Just be yourself:)
2006-10-02 20:32:29 · answer #9 · answered by xoxshorty4u23xox 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just be yourself.
2006-10-02 20:31:55 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋