even though I messed up majorly bad the first time. I do truely love him and I know he has some feelings for me yet, he is till not wanting to talk to me about our child now that he is here. What should i do to prove my love for this man, and to get him involved in his childs life? ??????
2006-10-02 13:26:36 · 8 answers · asked by I owe it 2 my boys..... 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Alot of you have me confused. He an i were together for 12 years before i got pregnant. So when i did he didnt believe they were his. Now that they are here after 12 years of being a friend with this man someone i thought i would be with the rest of my life, has all dissappeared because I had his babies.....Why is that so wrong? I am NOT a little girl, and nor does my situation need to be on maury.....................
2006-10-02 13:39:52 · update #1
My little sister had 3 boys with a man who said he would marry her and be in their lives. He is not in their lives he in jail. At the time the boys were 3, 2 and 7months old. They have no idea who their real Daddy is. ( They only know the Daddy who is there for them now, no need to know the other. )
She got married 2 years ago and aside from being married the boys are still the best thing that has ever happened to her. I say you need to move on and forget about him. You will find some as wonderful as my sister did, you just have to look. Good luck to you and your boys! Go for the support you need then forget about him!
PS. Maybe they do not need a man like that in their lives!
2006-10-02 13:51:28 · answer #1 · answered by littlegoober75 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wait just one minute here. A second child out of wed lock? You need to go on the pill immediately before there is a third. A second baby by the same man and you are still not together, or married? Please, take a step back and look at the pattern here. How can this man truly love you and not be your husband after a second child is born? SOME, feelings, are just not enough to sustain a loving and lasting relationship with a man.
2006-10-02 20:32:17 · answer #2 · answered by darkangel 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok you got me a tad bit confused here either he is your first child's father or he isn't and why are concerned about child support.
If you really want this man to be a father to his children then allow him time to spend with them a check can't feel a void in a child's life. Child Support should be used for a DEAD BEAT DAD.. by making a man pay doesn't mean he is going to be around. I think you need to sit down and really ask yourself what do you want and why.
You can't even prove your love..We all make mistakes in life stop the drama be a mother and let life be how its going to be.
2006-10-02 20:34:48 · answer #3 · answered by M M 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Good luck, but sorry, hun. Your chances of getting him involved are slim to none. You're on your own. File for child support, but you will have to be prepared to prove paternity. It sounds like this could be pretty humiliating for you. Maybe you should go on the Maury Povitch show, he straightens out these kind of situations for girls like you all the time.
2006-10-02 20:33:34 · answer #4 · answered by JillA 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This does not matter if you love him and trust him you never know whats going to happen. How would he feels if you file child support on a child that may not be his? Get your facts straight.
2006-10-02 20:37:14 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
File child support on him that will prove it real well,he needs to take care of his kids,but filing against him want win him over it you are him have any feelings left for each other.
2006-10-02 20:31:32 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You "thought" your first child was by him? Good grief, woman, what is wrong with you? And what is wrong with him? Stop having these babies out of wedlock and get them DNA tested. You sound like one of those pathetic women who go on the Maury Show.
2006-10-02 20:30:01 · answer #7 · answered by notyou311 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sue for support to make sure he shares the fin. burden. if he is the father of both get support for both. He will not be a big influence in their lives, Don't have another child with him.
2006-10-02 20:32:37 · answer #8 · answered by Pantherempress 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋