My Mom is always on my case about everything. When she tells me to do something like 'Take the Dog for a walk' i have to do it, RIGHT THEN AND THERE. or else I get grounded. That means no No Computer, No Telephone, No Mp3 player, No TV, Nothin'. What should I do do get her to b less annoying?
2006-10-02 13:23:38 · 47 answers · asked by ķōŅšţāńŢĩʼnę 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
ppl, i can't move out. I'm only 15. Plus, my mom does squat in our house. I have Kitchen Dudy, laundry, livingroom/ vaccuum HER room and clean HER bathroom, and plus, i'm not spoiled. I payed 4 all that stuff myself. I have a job too u no! And Skool. My Mom don't work. My Dad Does.
2006-10-02 13:43:07 · update #1
i don't get an allowance. They just say that i should be glad to live in this house. I earn my own $$
2006-10-02 13:48:11 · update #2
My mom was just like that. I just stood my ground, and showed her who was boss. My sister however, was very passive and my mom still controls her to this day, she's 22! So all I can recommend without actually knowing both of you, is that you might both need to compromise a little on certain things. Good Luck!
2006-10-02 13:24:49 · answer #1 · answered by Smirx 2 · 0⤊ 3⤋
I was raised by my grandmother who was the same way. If I didnt make my bed the right way I wasnt allowed to go out with my friends or she would take the phone away or TV or whatever........it was hell. I am a mother now.....and I run my household because my husband is gone a lot.....and I can see how personalities differ, meaning some people when they think it, they want it done....its like a check list. Almost like feeling over come with stress if its not done or done the way you feel it should be done. From experience all I can say is to stay under the radar, help out as much as you can even though it's unfair and the biggest pain in the ***. Maybe then write her a note and let her know you respect her and what she is trying to get done but maybe there can be a middle ground for you and her to get chores done. Single parents are a little more stressed out and harder to deal with, mine was! Good luck!
2006-10-02 13:34:22 · answer #2 · answered by chadidle 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My mom was the same way and it didn't stop until I moved out.
Is your mom a person that you can talk to and confide on. If yes, then try telling her how you feel. If not, then I'm sorry but that's just the way it's going to be, well atleast until you move out. I know mom's could be very annoying, but no matter what you always gotta respect you mom. Just remember one day you will become one and there will be times when you will be bossing your children around. Just do as she says. If you think this is bad, what are you going to do when you go out in the real world and you have a boss bossing you around? No matter what you do or where you go there will always be someone telling you what to do.
2006-10-02 13:33:49 · answer #3 · answered by M & M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My mom was the same way. Nothing I ever did for her was right either. I would seriously talk to her about it and tell her your feelings. Ask her if she can make a list of the stuff she wants you to do for the next day and give it to you in the morning so you have all day to get it done. Just make sure that you promise her to have all the stuff done by a certain time. If that doesn't work then just hope that your 18th birthday comes real soon!!! Good Luck!
2006-10-02 13:32:17 · answer #4 · answered by lexi 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your mom is just trying to install some responsibility to help you handle some of life challages that await you down the road.
Take the dog for a walk, then you can avoid the argument and being grounded etc. Is taking the dog for a walk really that difficult?
Think of it this way, there will be less arguments from your dog than your mom!
Don't be so hard on your mom, she just cares about you, which is better than if she didn't!!
goodluck.
2006-10-02 13:32:22 · answer #5 · answered by Hammy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that maybe she is just trying to teach you responsiblity. It is hard, my mom used to be the same way but it helped now when I am in the workforce you need to get it done right then and there. I would just try to talk to her and say I am willing to get it done when you ask but me always getting grounded doesn't make me want to do it. I would make sure to have a good time when doing chores or walking the dog. Listen to your MP3 player while your walking the dog or doing chores and you having a good time while doing your chores will help them to be easier and more enjoyable and when your mom sees that you are listening and getting everything done when she asks it will get easier for you. Good Luck!
2006-10-02 13:30:45 · answer #6 · answered by natmys333 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
walk the doggie before she asks
then take out the garbage before she asks
then vacuum the stairs before she asks
you get the picture? not all in one day mind you (other than walk the dog)...
why don't you make up a schedule? they are all very small things that hardly take 5 - 10 minutes...even cleaning your room if you tidy every day and do a vacuum and dusting on saturday
I doubt your mom would have a problem with that
If she does then there's a bit of a control issue going on.
Bless you child
stick with it and keep up your marks too!
you have nothing to be ashame of if you do your best.
2006-10-02 13:27:06 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why don't you ask Mom if she would ask you to do something, with a deadline time, like, "I would like you to take the dog for a walk, sometime before 6 p.m.". This is respectful of your planning ability and of your time. It is a good thing to help out around the house, because you are part of a family. Sounds like Mom may be stressed out, and would really like it if you did something she needed, without her asking. I bet if you "surprised" her with completing a task without being asked, she may come to learn that you are taking matters into your own hands and ease off a bit.
2006-10-02 13:30:00 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Do what she tells you to do when she asks, not when you want to do it. And you two will get along beautifully. You are the child, she is the adult. When you are all grown-up and have children of your own, then you can decide if you want your kids to walk all over you or not.
I am the same way with my son. He does what I ask, when I ask, but he is rewarded for his good cooperative behavior. At least once a week, I will leave him "extra" unexpected money in his room, or buy him something special at the store. At our house it is win, win. Think about it.
2006-10-02 13:29:43 · answer #9 · answered by Simply Lovely 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Do it before she ask you. I might have become at tad bit lazy am not sure of your age, however if this is something your mother has to tell you everyday.. Why do you wait until she has to jump on you to do it.. Just do it when you get home then there will be nothing to yell or get grounded about.
Try to get your chores done first thing rather than last thing see how that works out.
2006-10-02 13:27:31 · answer #10 · answered by M M 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Get a job, buy your own house, support yourself, and then realize how much your mother did for you, and that taking the dog for a walk WHEN she asked was not that big of a deal.
When you're an adult people will not only expect you to do stuff as soon as you're told, but to take an incentive, and do it before you're asked.
For example, walking the dog BEFORE you're asked to. By doing this, and other chores before you're asked your mother will realize how responsible you are and get off your case.
2006-10-02 13:26:27 · answer #11 · answered by legallyblond2day 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋