My best friend is a guy right and I just recently got a boyfriend who is my soulmate, but my best guy friend is jealous and has said so to one of my best and closest girl friends. Apperently, he has been crushing on me really bad and now I can't help but feel bad. I can still be a friend or I can try not to talk to him. I love him like a bro... should I tell him he'll have to get over it or do I tell him that I want and need his support?
Love ya'll,
Xiriah Lei
2006-10-02 13:06:24 · 26 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I think you need to tell him that you love this guy with all your heart, and you love him too but in a diff. way...tell him that if he really loved you, we would support you. dont feel bad about it, even though you have a new guy, you will always be his friend!...best of luck to ya girl
2006-10-02 13:09:50 · answer #1 · answered by lovin' you 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have a heart to heart talk with your friend. Let his say whatever it is he'd like so he can get it off his chest, then you explain to him your feelings towards him. Make sure you let him know that despite the fact that you now have a b/f, that doesn't you're not going to spend time with him still. Let him know that the feelings that you have for them both are different and that special place in your heart that your friend has always called his own will remain so. Just don't let things go to build up beyond repair. True friends are very hard to come by.
2006-10-02 13:14:34 · answer #2 · answered by cookiefactory4 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I had the same problem, most of my goods are women, we known each other since college years, but there are those that don't like when I date and/or introduce my girlfriend, my advice is this.... tell your friend how you feel, that he is like a brother to you and tell him that no matter what happends in your life, you guys are always be friends. Let him know honey... because that way your friend doesn't interfere with your life on your love.
2006-10-02 13:15:59 · answer #3 · answered by Paul 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
gotta tell ya: don't like a "piner" if you know what I mean. He (your best friend) has probably romanticized the HELL out of your relationship in his mind and now that he hasn't made himself clear (for what ever reasons) he's salty. Not sure how "close" you are to him and how honest you two can be towards each other, but my advice is to be a friend to him until he either tells you otherwise or he starts being a hater and sabatoging your relationship. Either way, you do you and realize you can't control other peoples actions / attitude, you can only control how you react to it.
2006-10-02 13:13:09 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, it's impossible to be friends with someone when the feelings aren't at a mutual level. What do you need his support for? You have close girlfriends and a soulmate now.
2006-10-02 13:10:03 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was in a similar siutation. This guy that I've known for a while was very jealous, and I noticed that his face twitched everytime I mentioned my boyfriends name. Well, we talked about it. He told me how and felt and I told him how I felt.
Just talk it over. Let everybody get out all the built up feelings. Don't not talk to him. That would be a great friendship ruined over silence.
2006-10-02 13:12:21 · answer #6 · answered by Simply Gorgeous 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him you love him like a Brother if you haven't ...i had a guy friend like this also...he just had to come to the realization that i'm with the one i want to spend the rest of my life with...i mean yeah we've been friends for a LONG time..and NOTHING is going to change...he should ALWAYS be there for you!..If he REALLY LOVES you...
2006-10-02 13:09:50 · answer #7 · answered by Meggee 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Im kinda in the same predicament, only i actually like my best friend to but he dont want a relationship so i move on, and he gets mad and jealous!!! aint that some stuff! he dont want me but doesnt want no one else to have me either!!! but u shoud tell him u need his love and support. if he's truly ur best friend, he'll only want for u to be happy, and if your boyfriend makes u happy he'll have to be ok, GOOD LUCK!
2006-10-02 13:14:49 · answer #8 · answered by Here2Help 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
you need to talk to him....say that i love being ur best bud but i dont want to break ur heart! It is your fault for not telling me that you liked me in the first place! I really want ot be your friend still but if it is too much for you then i dont know if i can be ur friend!
2006-10-02 13:10:17 · answer #9 · answered by Tess c 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just let him sweat it out, if he's a good friend he'll accept who you already have because he makes you happy. Let him see you're doing well with your current guy.
2006-10-02 13:09:17 · answer #10 · answered by Xander's Mom 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋