I am a divorce woman who was in a relationship of 10 years with a very special guy. I have a daughter by this man so he is in my face all the time. He is now married and went on with his life. I haven't been out with anyone in 7 years.
2006-10-02 12:56:46 · 5 answers · asked by Kim 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I can relate to this ? I've been in a relationship with my son's father for the same amount of years and he left me for his best friend(female)and then left his best friend for another woman.and then married her and then left her for another woman. so the process goes on and on. But it takes on day at a time,do something you like to do, like go shopping with your girlfriends,go out to the club and mingle with new people(males).Don't stop your life because of him.MOVE ON SISTA!!
2006-10-02 13:07:40 · answer #1 · answered by thickness 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes divorce is always hard specially when you loved someone for so long unfortunately sometimes people continue to grow but in opposite directions and what you want is not what he wants. We all hear about near death experience and people waking up and realizing that there not happy or this is not what i want to do with the time i have left. Take the experience you had as a blessing of sorts you got to know what love was like share and love and support you got a beautiful child out of it. and now its time to grow again. and go down your own path. This gives you time to discover what you would like to do now. A whole new world awaits for you treat this as an adventure. Not a end all. Like season change we all do and people always continue to grow.
Now you should get back into the swing of things sitting at home won't help you. and you know your ex isn't going to be sitting around his last days time is precious. do what perhaps you always wanted to do but couldn't do as you had less time in your marriage well now you will have the time to pick up something you would enjoy doing. find yourself again. it can be exciting. but not going out in 7 years your only hurting yourself. we all must continue on and grow. Just like a death as sad as it is to lose someone you love ,you must fight on. in a way this is like a death that has happened to you. you have time to grieve but eventually you have to get back up on the horse and ride. be strong think positive. and remember everything has a cause and effect things happen for a reason . and you came out of this with 10 great years and a beautiful child and happy times and sad throughout the years but it was always a learning lesson either way.
I have a friend who was married for 28 years 4 children gave up her career and helped her husband get up to be a ceo of a company only for him to leave her and go with his seceretary. He had cancer and survived and he realized although his wife did all this he wasn't in love with her any more and he wanted to be in love and feel love again. so things happen we can't always blame one person. things evolve things happen over time. and people part or get distant.
It's been 6 mths for her and her first time out was last week and she said she loved it and felt alive again. So try that just get out you'll see you will start feeling better about yourself. and dont' blame yourself and with what if'ss its happened and its nobody's fault people just change just like everything else in life. life doesn't stop or stan still. were always moving and growing. who knows what your next chapter in life will be could be very exciting. Its what you make of it that will count.
Enjoy this new found freedom and get to rediscouver yourself again
Good luck!
2006-10-02 20:18:49 · answer #2 · answered by For ever in my Heart 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your mourning period should have passed by now. It's a very difficult thing to lose a loved one. Did you ever consider some sort of grief counseling. That may help. You may meet a good guy when you least expect it. Hang in there! I'll be your friend.
2006-10-02 20:01:29 · answer #3 · answered by STONE 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
oh man thats sad please dont isolate your self like that he has moved on so should you hes not as special as you belive if so he would have married you instaed he married someone else im sure he knew you loved him so get out have fun meet that real special man. are just a friend and you will see what you have missed out on
2006-10-02 20:00:37 · answer #4 · answered by ladyrena12 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
one day at a time
2006-10-02 20:02:00 · answer #5 · answered by waiting for baby 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋