Advice needed on how to live a life that is too much pain to live?

Question

I am 24 yr old man who is struggling to live life at the moment. I have faced numerous obstacles and challenges in my life but none greater than severe depression and lust problem.
Why couldn't I resist or overcome them just like I did against drugs, alcohol, tobacco, sex? That is beyond me to answer. All I know is I tried my best and worked hard to become a good person and the best person I can be. But still, I couldn't overcome severe depression and lust problem.
I have been living with those 2 problems for the past 8 years on daily basis. And to put it bluntly, I am just sick and tired of living with them. I am tired of being bothered by them, my life being robbed of happiness and enjoyment no matter how hard I try.
I tried nightly praying, writing daily journals, posting on support board, asking for advice, reading self-help book, getting new hobbies.
What more can I possibly try? Why does it have to be me who endures this?

Answer 1

Wow, that's a tough one. Have you spoken to a professional? You might want to do that, and maybe get some meds to get you over the toughest part of it. Good luck to you.

Answer 2

There was a time in my life when I wanted to end it. I had it all planned out I would go to an underpass where no one was, call the police from a cell phone and let them know where I was, so no one would find me except the police, then I would shoot myself in the head. Seemed like the thing to do. Well, I was wrong. Over time the depression got better, and now I am thankful I didn't end it. I'm not sure about the lust your having, as you didn't go into details, but we humans have the ability to desensitize those feelings and become comfortable with them, no matter how strange they seem now. Kind of like guys using pornography. With time, they no longer feel guilty and it seems normal. The depression could be caused by any number of things, like a potassium deficiency was causing mine. Why don't you give it some time and I guarantee you it will get better.

Answer 3

You appear to see what you have given up as some sort of punishment for you alone and those things you have not been unable to overcome as a personal judgment against you. Understand this: you are not being punished. If you feel the struggle is becoming too difficult, ask for help from God. That's not an easy thing to do. The way I did it was to keep reading the Bible from front cover to back and then praying that God would take some of the burden from me. God does still perform miracles today... I am one. The choice is yours. People will tell you answers don't come, but I am proof that they do. There is help and it is available to you. Ask for it with a real desire to receive it... spiritually and psychologically.

Answer 4

Everybody endures the same things at different times.

Jesus dealt with lust - he was a human man, wasn't He?

And, don't you think, as a man, He was a bit depressed, thinking about dying for a bunch of ungrateful, hateful heathens?

You said you "tried nightly praying." First, I assume you were praying to God? Second, why did you stop?

Just because we don't get the answers we want, WHEN we want them, doesn't mean we stop talking to Him. "You're not doing what I want You to do, so I'm not talking to You anymore..."

Have you sought professional counseling? For either the depression or the lust...

I'm not certified, but I'd say the lust issue probably has a great deal to do with the depression.

These aren't vices, like drugs, etc. They're emotional issues. They can't just be turned off - you can't just throw them in the trash, saying, "No more."

There's lots of options available....

Answer 5

They are right, you do need more help that you can get here in this forum. (Even tho we may all care.)
Your issues are not unique, realizing that may be helpful. You need structure to occupy your mind so your time to muse about your misery is very limited. I feel for you, but I know to end your misery will take your own choice. It is you who must recognize your strength and take control. It is possible, you don't need drugs, you don't really need counseling if you are strong enough. You just need to nurture your own strength.
Any young man has the obsession of lust. So what? Watch porns and beat off, then go out among people and be a relaxed happy guy knowing you are truly no different from your peers.

Answer 6

Everyone has his or her own demons. This is a personal battle, not to be blunt Buddy, but you either beat the bull or the bull beats you. Discipline is the key, maybe prayer is not what you need. Maybe you need in site into your self, self examination. A Buddhist monk may be able to help you with this, through an intellectual understanding about your self and the way of the world. Try and look at the world from a different perspective, and not think of your self as a failure, maybe the only problem is not understanding who you really are. Religion can be harmful in cases like this, sort of like treating the symptoms and not treating the cause.

Answer 7

I just want you to know that I know someone who had similar problems and there is a way to defeat it. I don't know if you are a born again Christian, but if not you have to repent and ask God to forgive you and save you. Once you have been born again, the way I believe you can break any strong hold is through prayer and fasting, I have personally seen many awful things broken off of myself and my family by PRAYER AND FASTING.

There is a scripture that says about a particular problem, this kind goes out not but by prayer and FASTING. IT WORKS, YOU CAN START OUT SLOW, AND GROW FROM THERE.

I PROMISE IT DOES WORK, It has worked for me to many times to count. Rebellion, lust, generational curses, oppression, which is another form of depression and most likely where depression comes from. God will help you don't give up. If it wasn't for fasting Satan would have defeated me long ago.

Answer 8

Think of this... Jesus, a perfect being, livbed died and rose again for you. Before that He went through everythingg we do. He was 100% human and 100% percent God. Be awful big waste to throw away your life when He died for you to live forever. Nobody is perfect, I aint that old, I havent been through any of that but i can say that your reward in heaven will be that much greater if you TRY at least to make it through. God forgives everything. No matter what you do, as long as you are saved, you go to heaven. it is a lot better than Hell even if your neighbor's palace is bigger than yours.

Everyone hates you??? I dont and the most important thing is that God doesnt either. Perservere and He WILL help you.

Answer 9

Grace unto you, and peace,
from God our Father and the Lord Jesus->Christ.

Ever heard the song: I fought the law and the law won? Kinda sums up your l-o-n-g-suffering gospel of sorrows.

If the law is both the source of sin and the "strength" of sin's death sting, the "strong man" of the house of sin and death, well then, perhaps it reasons law is the problem, not the solution.

Solution is Christ: the end of the law. Simply flush all this law (torment) you been mouthing, then grace will be sufficient. For adding law to grace is sufficient makes grace "no more grace".

Consider JC went about healing all "oppressed of the devil(law)". Depression is another term for oppression, which the law does.

You're another victim, of evil(law) concupiscence:
(an ungovernorable desire to do what's forbidden)
http://www.godshew.org/Concupiscence.htm

Law is so tormenting it will demand dos and don'ts,
then hinder you from doing what you would do,
and hinger you from not doing what you wouldn't,
and then torment you with guilt is not from God.
God did "not" impute their trespasses to them.

You probably got this way by going to churches.
Biblical Advice is: "come out from among them".
As in Adam(them: Gen 5) all die = extinction.
Even so in Christ(us) shall all live = salvation.
By law: all perish. But by grace: none perish.
Pst - the end, written in the Bible, is grace us.

1John 4 notes two spirits to try (to test drive).
You've test driven one and found it tormenting.
Why not also test drive the God of all comfort.

If you'd rather remain anon, feel free to lurk at:
http://pub30.bravenet.com/forum/2526810710
If you need more explaining, simply email me:
I'm Daniel, avail at: [e-mail]
I was born exact moment Israel was in 1948.
I've been to the end, came back for you.
As the "you all" thereof begins with "you".

The GRACE of our Lord Jesus Christ with you all. Amen.

Answer 10

Lust generally isn't a problem. That's an emotion most people have. As far as your depression is concerned, you should see a professional. They might be able to help you get over your depression.

Answer 11

What you need is for Jesus to come into your heart, and take away your pains. You are in a depression, and I have been there. I wanted to kill myself and end it all. But I kept praying and praying. It took years and after I let Him take control of my life, I felt I had a purpose in my life, not so much for my own purpose, but His purpose. God our Father loves you and has so much planned for you. He wants to Bless you, you just have to let Him.
If you don't have a Bible get one, visit a church (no particular religion)that makes you feel the presence of God, and do not give up as that is what Satan wants you to do.