We've lived together over 9 months and I thought we shared everything. However when I was looking at our combined cell phone statement, I find where his x girlfriend called and they spoke for about 20 minutes. He hasn't mentioned it to me, so should I ask him about it or not?
2006-10-02 12:36:59 · 32 answers · asked by still in there 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Sure, talk to him straight out, "Saw this on the phone bill...
2006-10-02 12:40:17 · answer #1 · answered by sadie_oyes 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't, unless you feel there is something bigger going on. It will make you look a bit possessive in my opinion.
If you feel you must bring it up for your own mental health, then I would try to do it in a positive way..."Hey. I noticed you talked with so and so...How is she doing?" This of course assumes that you don't hate each other.
If it was me in his shoes, I would wonder if you are reading my email or looking for other signs of ex-girlfriends. Could send him running the other direction.
Lastly, I can't help but say the fact that you are concerned enough to post it here leads me to believe there may be other issues in your relationship, trust issues perhaps. If you don't have trust, you don't have anything.
Good luck.
2006-10-02 12:44:26 · answer #2 · answered by ciscopro 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask him about it. If it's a shared phone you have a right to. It's not like you snooped on his personal cell phone bill and found the information out. Just don't be all heavy about it-- if he thinks you're angry and she calls again, he'll hide it from you and then you'll have a bigger problem to worry about.
2006-10-02 12:40:28 · answer #3 · answered by Scarlett_156 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You got the info honest. so just ask but don't nag. Like said it might be better to ask when doing other things so that it is not like this is a big deal. While washing dishes or something say that you have saw here number on the bill and se if he replys.
2006-10-02 12:39:37 · answer #4 · answered by ronnny 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
2 points
2006-10-02 12:38:50 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
been there. tell him he has a choice, and if he acts like he doesn't know what your talking about show him the statement. 9 months is long , but try 3 yrs.. You and know other woman (myself too) needs to put up with that.
2006-10-02 12:58:01 · answer #6 · answered by benniehotty 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you think and still believe you two share everything, this situation is the same. Maybe he feels the call was not important and that is why she only called once and the call was for 20mins.
2006-10-02 12:41:04 · answer #7 · answered by Mercedes D 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If it was just 20 minutes leave it alone.If her number appears on the next bill and the time is longer I'd ask him about it.
2006-10-02 12:39:24 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes. May as well get it out in the open now. Like Chris Rock said, you're only as faithful as your options. Sounds like he's chatting with an option now.
2006-10-02 12:39:04 · answer #9 · answered by davidu1138 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask him about it. It's just going to worry you if you dont. Might even cause some friction later down the road. But don't go into accusations and all that blah.....just simply ask.
2006-10-02 12:41:48 · answer #10 · answered by trixydaysy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If it is only one phone call then forget about it. If it is several then I would ask why the conversations are still happening.
2006-10-02 12:39:31 · answer #11 · answered by cremcharl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋