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Question

I was wondering if there are any witchs/wiccan/pagan parents out there. Are you very open with your children about everything? I am 36 weeks pregnant and very worried about the future. I have a house beside my parents who are needless to say super christians. They dont know of my beliefs and I dont want them to. We have a great relationship right now and if they were to find out then it would destroy everything. Its not worth it. How would I go about teaching my son and being active in this position. We live in an extreamly small community and my parents know pretty much everyone, so it makes it even harder. Any advice would be greatly appreciated!

my friends know..my parents are just old timey and I dont want to ruin my relationship with them and I know it will

Answer 1

Hi there,
What I do is allow my children to be exposed to lots of different religions, because I don't intend to force them into any specific one. I don't label myself "Wiccan" (to the children) specifically, but if they ask to be taught something, I'll teach them--within reason. My son still prays at dinner each night. Truly, we Wiccans still believe in "God"...we just also believe in "Goddess". Anyway, my kids are fine. They are exposed to one religion through a relative who is a Christian minister. They're also exposed to Catechism through their paternal grandma. They have friends of various religions. I just want them to be able to make an educated decision when they're ready. As far as "magick" goes, we do a little together, but nothing crazy. Just like holidays, sabbats on occasion...always simple kid-friendly stuff. It has worked great for us. If you want to talk more, feel free to email me.
Good luck!!
Blessings to you and yours.

Answer 2

If you are going to be true to your child, then you're going to have to be true to yourself. You can't raise your child in an environment cloaked in lies and deceit. What type of morals or ethics do you think you can teach in that type of environment?

You have time before your son is even anywhere near old enough to understand, so now would be a good time to start softening your parents up to the idea. Just explain to them that you are an adult making her own way in the world, and although you don't share the same beliefs as your parents, you are still the same daughter they raised.

I went through the same thing (atheist) but after awhile they tend to come around. Especially when there are grand kids involved. Stop being so concerned with what others think, and concentrate your efforts into being the best mother that you can be. They'll see the fruits of your labors, and they'll learn to appreciate you for being the fine daughter that you are.

It won't be easy, but it can work if you take it slowly, calmly, and respectfully. Best of luck to you, and congratulations on your new arrival.

Answer 3

I am not a witch/wiccan/pagan, I am a Christian but I would like to say that You have to be true to yourself and how you feel inside, no matter how your parents feel. You are fixing to be a Mom yourself. Even though it may be awkward at first but as in any relationship, love will prevail. If you feel that you are leading your life in the right direction, then you need to be strong about it.
My parents raised us a certain way and when I became an adult I made my own decisions regarding my faith that were not the same as theirs, and although sometimes I get treated differently, I know that they love me.

Answer 4

Tough one for you, Witchy. How about you take the stand for now that you want your son to understand and accept all forms of religion, and make his own decision in his own time. This may cause a small amount of conflict, but good parents cannot expect you to follow their belief system without question.

You don't have to come out and shout about your own beliefs, only ask (EXPECT!!) folks to accept that you want your child to be open to all things spiritual, and come to his own conclusions.

I wish you well - your son is already blessed with a loving Mom !

Answer 5

First of all, Hon, you aren't being true to yourself or to your religion. You shouldn't have to hide your beliefs simply because your parents don't agree with it. Possibly explain to them that just because your religions differ doesn't mean that you don't love them. As for your own children...I'd be open about your religious beliefs and also let them know about Christianity...let your child choose which path they choose to follow as they become of an age to make that decision. I would seek advice from your individual higher power as well (God...Goddess....whichever). I, myself am a Christian but also have some Wiccan beliefs...I don't quite fit into either catagory lol.

Answer 6

it seems you have two options babe
you come clean about your religion and be proud of it and share your beliefs with your child

or you can hide it ... but then you have a problem ...
do you raise your child in your religion .. knowing children cant keep anything secret for long ... would you even want your child to hide things from anyone

i feel in this situation it is time to say ... ok i am an adult .. i am going to be a mommy and i can believe what i like

i do wish you well in whatever desicion you make and enjoy your pregnancy and your baby when it comes along xx

Answer 7

Wow. I'm not a parent, yet, but I see your problem. You either have to keep it on the down-low, like totally secret, or find a way to live without their support. I've known professional 'psychiks' who didn't talk about gods, but talked about spirits. She even had an altar set up in the room, facing east, with all the 'basic' tools, but she just kept going on and on about Jesus and saints. There can be ways to cover it up.

Answer 8

Just remember TRUTH CAN ONLY LIVE IN THE LIGHT. Anytime I want to hide something for any reason, I begin to question whether my heart is pure and clean.....just an idea....

Answer 9

If your religion is right then what is there to be embarrased about. If you know you are right - tell your parents. If you love someone wouldn't you want them to know the truth?

Answer 10

Here's the best advice for you, return to the truth which you were told from your youth young lady. Stop hanging with losers who wouldn't pee on you to put you out if you were on fire. Your family loves you and will always be by you, you know in your heart you are believing a lie and only doing it get attention from others, who again have no love in their heart.