I decided to take the advice of many people on here about what I should do as I am really depressed and worthless.Many told me to get out and go for a walk alone and reflect on my life.I woke up and thought,yeah, I'll go out today and spend some time alone.I did.
I went into town and sat alone outside the cathedral.I got several dirty looks from passers by and two chav's called me a queer and a goth.I am not a goth,I am emo.Anyway I told them to **** off and they followed me all the way to MacDonalds.I was hungry anyway so I stood in the queue which was really long.Everyone was pushing into the queue. i finally got served and the woman short changed me.I couldn't prove later that she had so i didn't get my change back which was my bus fare home.I went to eat by the water feature in town as it's really nice down that part.Some people were taking a picture and I had to move,as i got up my phone fell in the water,now it does not work.I walked home and my parents are out.
I hate my life
2006-10-02 12:20:40 · 23 answers · asked by Anonymous in Health ➔ Mental Health
I am really sorry about your bad day... but... you are really focusing on the negative.
You woke up (that's a good start), you got to spend the day alone (I wish), you saw cathedral (I imagine it was beautiful), you had money to spend, you ate by a water feature in a nice part of town, you had a nice walk and get the place to yourself when you got home.
Sure a couple of idiots commented on you but are they really worth listening to or even responding to? Yeah you lost some money but you had enough to eat. As for your mobile phone try taking it apart and letting it dry for a day or so then putting it back together... worked for me... but if not it really is a material possession and if its under a year old you may be able to get it replaced.
Sometimes when you feel negative that is all you see. Try looking for the positive no matter how small. In my darkest time I use to keep a book of appreciation which I know sounds a bit daft. Every evening I would write 5 things from that day that I was thankful for. It really did make me approach the day differently. I remember one day a women was wearing this beautiful red silk sari and just seeing it cheered me up... previously I don't know if I would have even noticed her. I bet you don't even see the smiles :-) I also used to let things really get to me... dirty looks, being shoved, missing buses. Now I ignore the looks if I even catch them, I step aside when shoved (I am not that desperate for anything)... And if I miss a bus that's the way it was meant to be. I worked on Tavistock Square on 7/7/05 and I know lots of people who are very thankful for missing buses and tubes.
I smile at people now whereas I used to walk around like a grumpy so and so. Most people smile back. When I frowned I think I was attracting a like response.
I don't want to go into details but on paper I have had a really rubbish life. (Briefly) I had buried all my family by the age of 27 and found myself with no one. I don't have a single relative in the world other than the odd third cousin 5 times removed. It took me a long time to be happy again but you do have to work at it.
There is a saying 'Don't sweat the small stuff! And remember it's all small stuff!' Seriously shake off the negative people, comments and only positive will remain.
We all have days where we feel like **** the key is to not let it control you.
I would love to know what you think would make you happy?
If you could wake up tomorrow and be happy how would you know? I mean what would be different in your life?
Take care and I hope you get a smile tomorrow! If I were to see you I would promise you one.... For now :-D will have to do!
And keep on being emo! Knowing who you are is a good start.
2006-10-02 13:05:58 · answer #1 · answered by â?¥MissMayâ?¥ 4 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Well, it sounds to me that you have let yourself think negatively about every aspect of your life. You can change your way of thinking.
They say that a truly happy person can enjoy the scenery on a detour. In other words, they are finding the good in the bad. There are some things in life that are bad no matter how you look at it, but some things you *can* find the good in.
For instance, if you drop food in your lap, don't get all down about it. Laugh at yourself! I'm sure that every person has dropped food in their lap. If you fall in front of people (at least family), laugh *with* them, cause I'm sure they are laughing too. My mom made the comment once that she didn't understand why everyone laughs when someone falls because everyone falls at one point in their life.
I am not "emo", but I do have days when I am terribly down. I would consider myself mildy depressed. What's best for me is, I try to get out of the house. This morning I got up, got showered and dressed, then drove to a couple of places to apply for a job. I have been out of work for about a month now, and I do better when I have a job where my mind is occupied.
That's another thing that would help you, my friend. If you go to school, you should try to fit in a part-time job. This will help keep your mind occupied. An unoccupied mind is the devil's workshop, they say.
Try to keep yourself busy! I'm proud of you for getting out and trying to help your situation. This is your first step towards helping you.
Another thing you should do, no offence, is to not dress all emo. You could eliminate two insults right there, queer and goth. Dress like a normal guy! Maybe you can attract a girl that you can pursue a relationship with!
2006-10-02 19:38:29 · answer #2 · answered by New mommy 2010! 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I am assuming that you are in your teenage years. I have been battling with depression since I was 11. I have felt worthless, ugly, crappy and every other word in the book. I know how it feels and I am not just saying that.
I am 27 now and still have horrible days where I just want to give up. I was afraid to tell my parents when I was younger that I felt like this because I knew they would tell me to just shake it off.
If you are in fact in your teenage years, its a rough time. You are learning who you are and what life is going to be about. Forget what others think of you. Usually they are the ones who are the ***holes.
I found when I was younger that writting in a journal or listening to music 24 hours a day helped me. You need to find something that you love, and take it to the next level. You will be amazed at what that one little thing can do for you.
2006-10-02 19:33:29 · answer #3 · answered by sherichance79 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Babe we all have days like that but the great part is it will pass and you have tomorrow. Sure at times we will hate our lives for an instant but you very quickly get over it and learn that life is way too short for dwelling on the bad things that happen...remember some of the good things that have happened in your life at times like that and the down times may be so bad. You could also talk to a therapist to get an idea of just what is causing you to be depressed. It really does help to talk. Also do not worry so much what other people think...it's what you think of yourself that is most important.
2006-10-02 19:31:41 · answer #4 · answered by tigerlily_catmom 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I hate my life to, or I hated it anyway, I'm so optimistic that no tw*ts going to take it away from me! Take small steps in making your life better and doing the thing that you love. By the way, are you talking about Manchester city centre, Manchester cathedral, McDonald's in saint Anne's square next to the fountain with a big rose on it. I like that place to, and i also go in to the borders bookshop and read some stuff for free sometimes!
2006-10-02 19:48:08 · answer #5 · answered by Mr Slug 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I have had four heart attacks, a double by-pass, kidney failure, diverticulitis, brucitus in my left elbow, ruptured left Achilles tendon, torn left shoulder ligaments, (done at the same time), gout in my right hip and foot, arthritis in both hands, just lost the sight in my right eye caused by a detached retina, (repaired and slowly improving), am diabetic, take 17 tablets in the morning, 9 in the evening and 1 at night. This is every day not just one. I woke up this morning, saw the sun and thanked the Lord, (if there is one), that I am alive to see another day. Enjoy your life. It is too short without living it in misery. Your problems are minor ones that you can ignore. They are not important to you. Forget them and enjoy what you have.
2006-10-03 07:26:12 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You don't. Everyone has a day like Your Day. At least you are healthy, and alive. You don't have any major disease or illness. You have both your legs so you can walk and get around. You can eat food, real food and not fed by a peg tube that is inserted into the abdomen. What you need is a hobby or one good friend.
2006-10-02 19:29:28 · answer #7 · answered by nytrauma911 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Everyone has had a few bad days!! Humor goes a long way. Try that instead of cursing at people, because they are immature enough to call you unnecessary names. Coping skills could probably be improved. Decide what you want to be when you grow up and by getting on that path, it will make you feel much better about yourself and your life. Life can be lived or wasted..your choice. Good Luck!!
2006-10-02 19:49:43 · answer #8 · answered by pdubie2005 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
hey i cant tell you whats its like to be emo but i can tell you why people judge you
1:your style!!!!!!! cut the hair take the piercings off and dont look like an emo person because they will judge you! i know i used to judge emos and im not proud of it but it is true
2:get some normal friends.friends that arent depressed are the best!!!!!!!!!!!
3:join some sports club or something to take your mind of things
4:be nicer and try to be more happy and optimistic
hope it helps!!!!!!! and that most had been a rough day
2006-10-03 18:55:42 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Thats a bad day,what about living in Africa not much food,crap or little water and then slowly dying of aids.We all have our ups and downs in life,but there is always someone worse of then yourself.If ya wake up tommorow thats a blessing,so you live but once so dont winge on about your life enjoy it.
2006-10-03 15:37:06 · answer #10 · answered by iwillifuwill 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋