Wondering How Many Of You Parents View This Situation? What's The Best Solution?

Question

I notice a lot of questions on Yahoo Answers, from pre-teens, and early teens, asking about having sex at any age from 11-16 and so on, and asking if this is okay. Some of these questions are probably coming from people just trying to get a rise out of others; however, I do believe that some of these questions are legitimate questions from young children that really want to know about it. Although some of the times, the answers are from more mature people who discourage them from doing anything, some of the answers these children get are from people who are a lot of the times their peers or immature people, who encourage them to go for it. If I were a parent, I definitely would not want my child getting these answers. Do you feel that this is because they are not getting enough discussion from their parents about the issue of sex, and they don't feel comfortable asking them? What's the solution here? Stricter computer monitoring, or parents being more open about sex with them?

Answer 1

It is both. Stricter monitoring and parents talking more. I really have the feeling kids don't think they can talk to their parents. I have answered a lot of sex, ovulation, period type questoins for teens. I always say talk to your parents. One girl, who chose me for best answer wrote back and said, you were right, I found out talking to my mom was really the way to go.

It is awful how teens think their parents are the enemy. There has always been a gap between teens and parents, but I think all this technology makes it even bigger and more determental to the kids.

Internet filters, stuff like that, I am not sure how helpful it is. On ours you can either allow myspace or not, it doesn't filter the "content". I don't mind my sd being on there, just don't want her looking at the raunchy stuff. There is a good bit of raunchy stuff here too. Dunno the answers.

Answer 2

I believe that it is the parents jobs to talk to their children about sex, not the net. If the child has already had sex, they need to try to be supportive since it has already happened. I think that the schools, clinics, and other people and places that give condoms, birth control pills, or anything like that should stop and see what they are doing to the children. They are basicly saying hey don't do this, but if you do then here take control before something happens. But then the girl get pregnant or the boy got a girl pregnant and still wind up in the same boat even if they didn't have protection. prevent early sex, talk to the children, parents sit down and help you children understand before it is too late.

Answer 3

Probly just a product of bad parenting.

Children that young are probly not gonna ask their parents about sex anyway. And YA creates a more anonymous medium to ask a serious question like that.

Dont' forget peer pressure.

It's quite a shame that anyone younger than 16 would even consider it. But that's the world today.

Now I'm going to the mall to walk around and point and laugh at all the teen mothers.

Answer 4

Yes, definitely. I was an immature teen 4 years ago, and now I'm a mother with 3 children, and am happily married. My views have really changed. My parents were old, uncool, and they didn't have a clue what I needed. That is what I thought, anyways. Now that I'm a parent, I realize that they were right all along. I needed to hear personal experiences. And, of course, my parents never told me any of theirs (and I really didn't want to know, either). But if they could tell me that something was bad, I needed to know why, and how they knew. I just wanted peers that understood what was going on in my generation. I thought that their ideas made the most sense to me...Now, I wish I would have just been smarter. I wish I could have gone to college, but I had a baby when I was 19 (because i didn't listen to my parents). I love her, and she is the light of my life, but I really could have done something with my life if I hadn't made my mistakes.

Answer 5

I think its from not getting enough discussion anywhere.....kids talk more about sex in there notes then they do at school with teachers...thats what teachers are there for is to teach...i think if everyone stepped up including the parents and started talking more to there kids about it....they wouldnt be online looking to know what it's about...i dont think computer monitoring is really going to do anything because then there just going to go to there friends and ask lol and would you really want some lil boy whos 13 telling your daughter mm yeah it feels good wanna try after sc hool? no i dont think so....i think its better then on here reading about hey all these kids think there pregnant..thats nuts......there are future adults we all need to step up

Answer 6

This situation is very serious. I believe that we as a society are too open about sex and that our kids are learning from sources other than parents. We as parents need to be open, honest, and willing to listen if we expect our children to listen. I believe that our children need to be taught that intimacy should be reserved for a marital relationship and should be respected and held sacred.

Answer 7

Society needs to not lie about or omit information from kids. They need to know this stuff, or we are preparing them for failure involving pregnancy's and STD's. Oh, and America has the highest teenage birthrate, so the "Family Values" they teach in school is really helping.

Answer 8

I think it has to be a combination of the two. Parents have to be more open but also more vigilant. When my children reach that age, I want them to be able to come to me with any questions they have.

Answer 9

It's from society becoming more lax and putting sex into everything.

I would not let my child on Yahoo Answers until they are 18.

Answer 10

I think that teens think about sex all the time.and it needs to be addressed but I feel that school is not the place, they can't even teach what they are there to teach so how can they teach sex