My Significant other's daughter has moved in with her boy freind and now engaged and living together. Even though her daugheter has moved out of the house over 19 months ago, my Significant still continues to be at her daughters beck and call all the time. I have requested her and asked her to leave her alone so that she can lead a lif of her own with her man. But my signicant for reasons unknown continues to baby sit her at all times.
Is there a problem with my Significant ? Will this ever stop ? Will this destroy my life ?. Each time I bring this subject my Significant never bothers to look deep into the problem that she is creatig for herself and to others.
Incidentally my signifiacant is in her mid 50's I am nearing 60's and her daughter is 27 and soon to be son-in-law is in mid 30's. Do all of you feel that Ms.Significant stop baby sitting and nurturing her daughter each and every day?
2006-10-02 12:11:22 · 5 answers · asked by US 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
All I am saying is that the daughter needs to take care of her future and make her parents proud of the accomplishhments. Instead Mom keeps on worrying about her 24/7. I understand the feeling of Mom and daughter. My question is does the daughter has the same problems of worrying about her mom each and every day?. If then she will create a problem to her as well. Mother-in-law should stand and be recognized and not push herself into recognition
2006-10-03 03:53:53 · update #1
Coming from a 26 year old daugher, don't try to get between them or else you are showing your own self out the door. Even before I moved back closer to my mom, we were on the phone at least 2-3 times a day. Its a bond that you will never understand, you just have to live with it.
2006-10-02 12:15:52 · answer #1 · answered by Casey M 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You didn't give an example of what your significant other does when she is at her daughter's beck and call. Baby sit her all the time? What is wrong with her visiting her daughter? I mean, I completely understand the "each and every day" issue. But, I don't think it will destroy your life! Is it that your significant other is not paying attention to you? Is it that your significant other brings her daughter's problems to you and this stresses you out? What problem is she in fact creating? Is it that she just enjoys her daughter's company? When did the daughter leave the nest? It is probably a problem of empty nest syndrome...and you feeling neglected. If this is the case, you feeling as though you could use more "us" time with your significant other...try setting a weekend aside and take a trip together...go to a concert...whatever it is that you both would enjoy. Don't nag her about her daughter...let her daughter do that. And, just be there for your significant other...and communicate with her that you love her and would like to spend more "us" time with her.
2006-10-02 19:25:44 · answer #2 · answered by What, what, what?? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes it is time to let her go b/c she needs to start living her life, she cant be in your house forever. im sure you wanted to move out before she did when you were a kid.....right.....!?
Look all im saying is tou need to to let her go!just stop worrying about her even though its hard,and youll be fine b/c she can take care of her self...........shes old enough NOW!
2006-10-02 19:22:58 · answer #3 · answered by ♥janelle♥ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is time to let her daughter grow up. she doesn't want to be a buttinsky mother-in-law does. she?
2006-10-02 19:15:38 · answer #4 · answered by nancy e 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes
2006-10-02 19:12:49 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋