My friend is on the verge of anorexia. My other friends and I have tried talking to her, telling her that she was only hurting her body, we are gentle, but she will not admit that she might have a problem. How can I help her?
2006-10-02 11:58:18 · 12 answers · asked by cutiepie ;) 2 in Food & Drink ➔ Other - Food & Drink
Don't hound her on it or it will push her away, but stay with her.
2006-10-02 12:01:23 · answer #1 · answered by Shawn_small 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I use to be in your friends shoes. I was at one point on the verge of anorexia. My family and close friends knew that I had a huge problem and they tried talking to me about it, but I was in denial. The more they mentioned it to me the more upset I would get because I thought they were crazy. I had distance myself from everyone. I realized I did have a problem when I physically started feel ill. I had no energy, no strenght, and there were times that just by walking my body would hurt. It's a terrible feeling, and a deadly condition, so please do not give up on your friend. You guys need to talk to her parents and everyone that truly loves her and care for her well being. You all need to have an intervention. Convince her to see a doctor immediately! One thing that really helped open up my eyes was watching videos of woman who had eating disorders. Watching these woman suffer and seeing how they were losing control of their lives and basically letting themselves die was my turning point. These are a just a few suggestions on how you could probably help out your friend. Just make sure you do something to help her out. Do not give up on her and stay by her side. Good luck!!
2006-10-02 12:44:37 · answer #2 · answered by M & M 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I had this same issue when i was in middle and high school. Don't push her into telling you what she has or does not have.Don't keep telling her we know, because to her it's like you're just judging her decision. I think the only thing you can do is help here understand that you are there for her no matter what, and if she needs anything she has you guys to count on.
2006-10-02 12:11:02 · answer #3 · answered by didi 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I feel you have already done all you can do. As others have suggested you can go talk to her parents as a last resort.
Do remember this rule: you only can help someone if they want to be helped. This may seem very harsh, but your friend will only open to help at the moment she realizes she's got a problem!
2006-10-02 12:07:22 · answer #4 · answered by alternative_be 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if she will not listen to you then try and talk to a counselor or her parents and get her help the first part in dealing with any kind of problem is confronting the person and since you have done that the next step is get her help beyond what you and your friends can give her.. BUT ALWAYS stand beside her so that when she needs you you are there.
2006-10-02 12:13:24 · answer #5 · answered by willow7186 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would talk to an adult (parents, your parents, her parents, counciler, ect.) tell them about your worrys and they should be able to help her.Don't be afraid that she will get mad your only going to help her in the long run, ya know? you will be doing the right thing, If this is true she needs help and quick before it goes to far and is almost unreversible. Sorry to sound bossy but this is true and I've seen many casses like yours.
2006-10-02 12:04:47 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I suffered from bulimia for 2 years. I was also taking stimulants to make me not hungry. It took my best friends (2 of them) talking to my parents to get me help.
2006-10-02 12:02:34 · answer #7 · answered by Candycane 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you know what? i don't really know. i think that you should keep telling her and maybe [yell] at her or lay down the line. not neccisarily yelling but just telling her firmly! tell her that she's beautiful the way she is and that you will always be her friend even if she is really fat or really skinny. but she needs to gain weight. you should get some food with calories in it and mix it into her food too. not to be sneaky. but she needs to gain some weight.
2006-10-02 12:02:31 · answer #8 · answered by Grilled cheese lover 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
it might not seem this way to you, but honestly the best way to help her is to totally go behind her back and share your concerns with her parents. especially if she won't listen to you. they can get her medical/psychiatric help and she can overcome her problem.
2006-10-02 12:01:40 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Intervention, with her family, friend and (if possible) a health care professional present.
2006-10-02 12:05:59 · answer #10 · answered by Liligirl 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋