I don't want my kids to be teased for having two gay parents and have them be angry with me for my life but I don't want to potentially be resentful of my kids for giving up a part of myself by not being with a
man. I am seeking honest suggestions and not hate mail. Thanks.
2006-10-02 11:44:49 · 26 answers · asked by Francis 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
First of all, if you have a significant other who wants to have a family together I'd suggest adoption, many children just want a loving and stable home and as long as you lavish your children with love and stability they shouldn't have any reason to be angry about your sexuality. It may also teach these children not to hold prejudice in regard to someone being "different" than themselves. My son's cousin is also a homosexual man who has a life partner and are raising a beautiful little girl together and they're wonderful loving parents.
2006-10-02 11:51:58 · answer #1 · answered by the_mystical_runt 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When you are truly ready to become a parent, you should adopt. There are so many kids that need good homes. Please remember to adopt within your own country before going to another one. It seems like people forget our own country has problems too. Even if you were not gay, your kids would probably be teased. Being teased is a part of being a kid. I was teased from day one, and my parents are heterosexual. If it becomes a major concern, you can always take your kid to a child psychologist to make sure they are handling everything in the right way. You may also want to seek professional counseling yourself before you make any decisions. At least you can discuss your concerns with someone that will be able to help you. FYI there are plenty gay parents. Look at Rosie O'Donnell or Sara Gilbert. Don't worry.
2006-10-02 18:52:24 · answer #2 · answered by vmarie84 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Adopt, I think the important thing is that the child have two loving parents. It is 2006 and you wouldn't be the first gay couple to raise a child. In my eyes sex doesn't matter. I think you need to be okay with it first. It sounds like you are worried what others might think. Ask yourself if you would be a good parent? Will you both love the child as if it were your own? If you know that you will be able to do these things then go for it! Don't give up your dream to have children just becuse your gay.
2006-10-02 18:50:20 · answer #3 · answered by faith 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You aren’t going to get any ‘hate mail’ from me…
But I will find it hard to give you a ‘sympathetic response’ !
You mentioned that you don’t want your kids to be teased for having two gay parents…
How do you think you are going to avoid that happening?
I’m finding it hard to give you a sympathetic response because I was molested (by males) as a child, and I am very wary about suggesting that a child should be allowed to be brought up in a relationship with ‘male only’ parents.
Perhaps someone else can give you the answers you are looking for… I can’t !!!
I just checked your Profile, and I can’t work out whether you are a male or a female…
If you are ‘female’ then I would suggest you consider adopting or fostering a child !!!
2006-10-02 18:51:12 · answer #4 · answered by I_C_Y_U_R 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Adopting a child would not be a good idea. You are gay because you want to be but what did the poor child do. He will be teased and his mind would not be like the other normal children and he might also become a gay.
Choose, whether you want a child or you want to be gay.
You have to lose one to get the other.
I think you should start liking a woman. Being gay is wrong as far as I am concerned.
Don't wast a child's life
2006-10-02 18:59:27 · answer #5 · answered by Mr Business 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If you raise your kids to have open minds then they shouldn't hate you for being gay. It will be hard because it is not yet fully accepted to have a gay couple raise a child. If you can't deal or help your kids deal with the adversity then you should probably go with the life you are leading and borrow kids from friends and family to spoil. : )
2006-10-02 18:48:02 · answer #6 · answered by vancie121 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
If your a male I would suggest adoption. Getting a surrogate mother could turn into some problems (if they get too attached).
If your a female, either adoption or artificial insemination from a sperm donor/bank.
Good luck with your parenting.
2006-10-02 18:54:22 · answer #7 · answered by Kevin J 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it's awesome that you want to have children.
If you and your partner think it's the right thing to do, then go for it.
I think we all know that there are going to be some tough times when your kids are going to ask why they have two fathers and such, but just because you're gay doesn't hold you back from being a great dad. ^_^
Good luck with your decision!
2006-10-02 18:48:20 · answer #8 · answered by La Reina 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
adopt a child from a 3rd world country like Africa, South America, Middle East, or India.
2006-10-02 19:36:22 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
It will be hard on any child. How well would you have done. How well have you faced what happens to you now? Because the child will face that as well but with one more problem. That child will love you and that will hurt too. Because you will be the direct cause of their pain.
2006-10-02 19:15:39 · answer #10 · answered by rangerhonor 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋