I'm 18 and my GF is 19, I'm starting to just think not formally go through the motions of buying things and asking her to marry me but I just want to know what you people think.
are we both still to young even though we are inseprable?
cheers.
Mitch
Launceston, Tas
Australia
2006-10-02 11:43:22 · 25 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
if it feels right then go for it.im getting married.im 22 and my fiance is only 18...he'll be 19 when we get married.we've travelled.we've finished school.i make good money and we both know we want to be together always.whos to say if you wait until your late 20s your marriage to this girl has anymore of a chance of survival.i know peope that met when they were 16 and are now in their 60s and still happily married.i also know people who got married when they were in their late 20s and early 30s and they were divorced within a couple of years.yes getting married young has a higher divorce rate but if it feels right and you are ready to make that commitment then go for it!
:) J's Girl
Sydney, Australia
2006-10-02 23:11:24 · answer #1 · answered by J'sGirl 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Just my opinion here, based on my own life experiences, but I started out getting married way too young (at age 19) and at the time I thought I was ready to take on the world. What I didn't realize then was that people change as they mature, and even though you might feel inseparable right now.. give it a year, or even 3 , and you probably wont have all the same things in common anymore, or worse you might not even LIKE your then spouse... and that is just not fun! Or worse, they may not like you!
If your meant to be, you will stay together even if your not married over the next few years. And there is no rush, no hurry, nothing says you have to get married right now :) Take your time, and don't get tied down by something you might end up regretting later on!
2006-10-02 12:20:41 · answer #2 · answered by shezapistol 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is your decision, but I personally think that 18 is way to young, from the time I was 18 till I was 21 I changed Alot, and that is only three years. I think I would give it until you are in your 20's, that way you both would of grown up and matured a little more, maybe even accomplish some things, like going to college that would be much harder if you were married.
2006-10-02 12:24:25 · answer #3 · answered by christy_2125 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I got married at 19,my mother at 16(lol and no we're not white trash from the sticks) in fact when i think about it,out of 8 women in my family not one of us got married after the age of 22.It has worked for all of us,none of us have been divorced.
Is it hard at times,yes it is,but anything in life worth a dam takes work.I knew i loved my husband the second we met.The thing is to know the difference of do i really love this person, or am i infatuated ,or am i just used to them.These are the question you should ask yourself.No one can answer that for you.It isn't bad to wait until you know for sure,but if you think you already know,then why can't you get married.All the people at my and my mothers wedding's that talked about when we would break up are all now divorced themselves.My parents are going strong at 30 years and i am going strong at 8.Good luck with it no matter what you decide.
2006-10-02 12:40:22 · answer #4 · answered by just wondering 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Most of the answers are telling you to wait and that you're too young, but I would say just the opposite. If you truly love this girl, then go for it. This is a question that needs to be answered by your heart and not some stranger on-line. A lot of people told me when I got engaged (I was 23) that I was too young and I was throwing my life away and that there was so much more of life to experience before you get married. But really, in the end, I couldn't picture going through life and enjoying any of those experiences if I didn't have my fiance to experience it with me. Another thing to consider is to discuss it with your girlfriend. You don't have to go into details about when and where you're going to propose, but you can bring it up and then gage her reaction. If you mention the word "engagement" and she looks like she wants to vomit then maybe you should reconsider. But if you get a positive reaction then I say go for it. Good luck!
2006-10-02 12:26:44 · answer #5 · answered by toast413 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I have a friend that has been married out of highschool and they are still togeather. It was tough at first but well worth it for them. Family support was a plus, eventhough they made it on their own. They have two beutiful kids and a huge house. The cool thing is that when their oldest kid is 18, my friend will be 38. Money wan never an issue, if they needed it they would work hard to get it. There carrier took longer because they had kids after they got married. But they both supported eachother, and that made it eaier to pull through it.
2006-10-02 11:58:04 · answer #6 · answered by Jeffrey H 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Personally, I think it should be illegal for people to marry before age 30. It would cut the divorce rate by about two-thirds if we eliminate all these teenage and early 20's "starter marriages" that always prove to be a mistake.
You will both go through drastic changes in personality and values in the next 10 years, more so than at any other stage of life. If this is really your partner for life, she will be there when you are in your late 20's, financially secure, and in a position mentally/emotionally and financially to really put some solid family roots down. Wait.
2006-10-02 11:56:41 · answer #7 · answered by Fogjazz49-Retired 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well, 18 is the legal age to get married. Honestly, i personally don't think it's old enough. Yes, you're considered an adult...but technicall you are still in your teen years. It's really hard to know what is best for your future or exactly what you want until you turn 21. But if you think that you both a serious about each other and ready to tackle the obstacles ahead, go for it :]
2006-10-02 11:46:58 · answer #8 · answered by jazz 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Too young to tie the knot but not to young to make a PROMISE! I know this sounds childish but give her a promise ring. Wait until you're at least 23 to formally ask 'cause by that time, you'll be graduating from college and you'll be making your career choices. College is EXPENSIVE and STRESSFULL and you don't need the stress of tests/finals and planning a wedding! And you both are still growing (psychologically) and maturing. So wait for it...at least for a while! Hope this helps!
2006-10-02 16:41:25 · answer #9 · answered by Miss K 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you need to bear in mind that a girl's fertility progressively declines after age 30. What in case you had fertility issues and it took 5 or 6 years for you to have somewhat one? It took place to me. My son took 4 a million/2 yrs to be conceived. So i might say too youthful for me, could be something in the previous 23. For me an prolonged time 24-30 are appropriate an prolonged time to get married. of path, we gained't continuously administration the age.I married at 25.
2016-12-15 18:37:03 · answer #10 · answered by gambrell 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋