My boyfriend of almost 2 months is seeming kind of sketchy to me lately. Sometimes I don't think he wants to see me and instead of just being straight-forward he says other crap like I'm tired. Do he even want to be with me anymore? Granted, we do hang out 3-4 times a week. But it's that week when we miss that fourth day when I get the "doesn't make any sense" answer. Like tonight, I wanted him to come over but he hurt his back (i told him I would take care of him but he said there was no way he could just lay there and not move with me). But he's in a dart league and he is going to go to that and I am going to meet him there around 9. Doesn't make sense does it. Please help.
2006-10-02 11:43:00 · 10 answers · asked by Christina 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Christina,
You sound like a nice girl, but kinda young and maybe naive about relationship stuff. He may or may not like you but he needs the space to figure that out for himself. Let him come to you, or not whatever the case may be. Relationships move in cycles, time together, time apart, back together, etc. You each need time and space to explore your individual interests. So, to answer your question as whether to end it or not, it doesn't have to be an either, or... just take a couple of steps back. Develop some other interests, other friendships. When you see him, care, but don't cling. Let nature take it's course. If he wants to be with you, he'll come around. In the meantime, enjoy the time away, pamper yourself.
2006-10-02 12:04:07 · answer #1 · answered by shine_radiantstar 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to give him some space, it seems that is all he is asking for, be more considerate, just give the man a break! Why not stay in the relationship? he has done nothing wrong, you know what you have, you don't know what you are going to get! So just have fun, and try and be happy, it will go a long way!
2006-10-02 18:51:51 · answer #2 · answered by roseannetb@verizon.net 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think if hes dosent want to be honest with you and not spending the time he could with you he could then i think you should breake up. But before you do anything you should try and talk 2 him about how you feel and see what happends. If he dosent listen or just say **** like what ever or something like that i think its over. Hope you figer something out
~Kitten
2006-10-02 18:51:03 · answer #3 · answered by kitten 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My suggestion is for you to relax...and give him a chance to also. His excuses maybe because you are somewhat demanding. If you keep that pace you may loose him altogether. If the two of you are not in accord with how much time you spend together, then you need to talk about it and decide what is best.
2006-10-02 18:51:19 · answer #4 · answered by Robere 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
start blowing him off a tad too. Act like you things don't make a difference to you either and see what happens.
Stop being the one to ask and plan when yall are going to see one another, don't be the first to call him every time etc.
2006-10-02 18:49:00 · answer #5 · answered by josh/julie m 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
as sad as it may seem...give him some space..I was recntly in a relationship JUST like this...and a breakup was the end result because I pushed him to be with me all the time.....You dont want to seem too clingy..I know its hard...but its for the best...so just give him some time to think for a few days....I wish you the best with your relationship!!!
<333
2006-10-02 18:47:31 · answer #6 · answered by sara c 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
usually if you ask if you have to stay, that is a redflag. Seriously consider ending it.
j/k
give the man some space, you should keep seperate lives babe, don't cling.
2006-10-02 18:46:30 · answer #7 · answered by tonymandotcom 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
this kinda happened to me before.he might be bored with you or maybe he found interest in someone else.talk to him calmly and ask him if he still likes you.if he on that wishy washy stuff he probably lien to you so he don't hurt your feelings
2006-10-02 18:50:27 · answer #8 · answered by nova44307 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well ask him about it straight up first.If he tells you some other lame excuse then something is wrong and you would probrably want to get out
2006-10-02 18:51:20 · answer #9 · answered by krissa 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he dont like u
2006-10-02 18:45:58 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋