Brother who drinks too much...how to help?

Question

Any one out there going through this? I need advice. I'm pretty sure there isn't anything I can do...but I thought it was worth a shot asking around.

Answer 1

he cannot be helped unless he admits that he has a problem

Answer 2

Soon or later he is going to be in trouble but that is the worse way to learn. You can find some real story from people on AA /alcoholic anonymous/ Internet sides and print for him.

Answer 3

Don't help him in any way. He has to reach rock bottom before he will change and realize that he needs help. You will be enabling him if you loan him money or provide shelter for him. Dick Van Dyke, the actor, said that he went so low that he was sleeping under bridges before he made up his mind to get help for his alcoholism.

Contact AA for more info.

Answer 4

How to Help an Alcoholic

1) What can you do if an alcoholic is unwilling to get help?
This can be a challenge. An alcoholic can't be forced to get help except under certain circumstances, such as a violent incident that results in court-ordered treatment or medical emergency. But you don't have to wait for someone to hit rock bottom to act. Many alcoholism treatment specialists suggest the following steps to help an alcoholic get treatment:

2) Stop all "cover ups."
Family members often make excuses to others or try to protect the alcoholic from the results of his or her drinking. It is important to stop covering for the alcoholic so that he or she experiences the full consequences of drinking.

3) Time your intervention.
The best time to talk to the drinker is shortly after an alcohol-related problem has occurred, such as after a serious family argument or an accident. Choose a time when he or she is sober, both of you are fairly calm, and you have a chance to talk in private. For more information about interventions, visit our page at http://www.addict-help.com/intervention.htm.

4) Be specific.
Tell the family member that you are worried about his or her drinking. Use examples of the ways in which the drinking has caused problems, including the most recent incident.

5) State the results.
Explain to the drinker what you will do if he or she doesn't go for help--not to punish the drinker, but to protect yourself from his or her problems. What you say may range from refusing to go with the person to any social activity where alcohol will be served, to moving out of the house. Do not make any threats you are not prepared to carry out.

6) Get help.
Gather information in advance about treatment options in your community. If the person is willing to get help, call immediately for an appointment with a treatment counselor. Offer to go with the family member on the first visit to a treatment program and/or an Alcoholics Anonymous meeting.

7) Call on a friend.
If the family member still refuses to get help, ask a friend to talk with him or her using the steps just described. A friend who is a recovering alcoholic may be particularly persuasive, but any person who is caring and nonjudgmental may help. The intervention of more than one person, more than one time, is often necessary to coax an alcoholic to seek help.

8) Find strength in numbers.
With the help of a health care professional, some families join with other relatives and friends to confront an alcoholic as a group. This approach should only be tried under the guidance of a health care professional who is experienced in this kind of group intervention, visit our page at http://www.addict-help.com/intervention.htm.

9) Get support.
It is important to remember that you are not alone. Support groups offered in most communities include Al-Anon. visit http://www.al-anon.org for meeting information. They hold regular meetings for spouses and other significant adults in an alcoholic's life, and Alateen, which is geared to children of alcoholics. These groups help family members understand that they are not responsible for an alcoholic's drinking and that they need to take steps to take care of themselves, regardless of whether the alcoholic family member chooses to get help.
http://www.addict-help.com/alcoholic.htm

Answer 5

set up an intervention. get your friends and family together and tell you brother you want to take him out to dinner. after you pick him up tell him you need to stop at you parents house, or where ever everyone is gathered together, and make up a reason why you have to stop there first. then once inside have everyone tell him why they think he drinks to much and how they see it affecting his life.

good luck

Answer 6

Talk to him about going to an AA meeting. Find an Alateen meeting in your area. Alateen is for people affected by alcoholism. I highly suggest it.

I hope things get better for you.

Answer 7

family interventions with a professional mediator. you can have everyone go around and tell him how much they love him and how much he means to them and how it hurts to see him hurt himself. then of course get the appropriate treatment. rehab or a psychologist to determine the cause of his drinking and why he feels the need to drink. but you've got to remember that if he doesn't want help, there's not much to be done.

Answer 8

sorry you cant help him unless he wants to help himself,and the more you talk to him about it the more he will drink,and ignore you.the best thing to do is be there for him but dont give him money to buy booze.

Answer 9

Be there for him. Try to talk to him about his problem. If he won't acknowledge it then you can't force him to do something he isn't ready to admit to.

Answer 10

my bro did the same thing a fifth a day all you can do is be there and tell them they are ******* up when he is ready he will stop mine did

Answer 11

Look for your nearest Al-Anon location and go there.
www.al-anon.alateen.org