My brother recently broke up with his fiance of 13y, they have a son, were he is not the biological father. My parents worship the ground he and his once was family walk on. A few nights ago he asked my to go on a night on the town with him, which I did. He picked up a girl whom happens to be a friend of mine, went to her place and slept with her. when I got home my father shouted and screamed at me, calling me a @$#&, and GOD knows what else. When I got inside my mother started on my. Accusing me of interfering, causing trouble between them and also said that I was two faced. The next morning my brother started on me shoutong at me and swearing at me, for something he had done the previous night. I now do not talk to them anymore. They have also found out that my brother was the instigator, and I was the inocent one and now want to say sorry, but that is not an option after all they accused me of, not to mention all the hurtfull things they had to say to me. WHAT SHOULD I DO????????
2006-10-02 11:16:57 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
You have a very dysfunctional family, and they should not be concerning themselves with whom their son chooses to sleep with. It seems as though they are very into each others business. Not healthy. If you are grown i would move out and visit when i felt like it and try to break this sick cycle. good luck and God bless.
2006-10-02 11:21:55 · answer #1 · answered by ? 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is a big change for the entire family. This women and her child have been members of your family for 13 years.(come on already) I'm sure he calls Mom & Dad Grams & pop. Your brother obviously is very immature1. He hasn't really committed himself beyond a promise of. & 2.He has played Daddy to this boy during his involvement with his mother. Not to mention acting nephew to you. So can you wonder why Mom & Dad are a little confused. Tell your brother to step up to the base. Take responsibility. And S-it or get off the pot. And try taking some of this advice too. If you are old enough to be out getting hammered and laid then your old enough to wipe away your own snivels and kiss the Folks asses........
2006-10-02 19:13:30 · answer #2 · answered by quite contrary 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be an adult and accept their apology! I know what the said hurt you very much but they were speaking out of anger and hurt. 'Family' doesn't think when it comes to each other and we have a tendency to fly off the handle easily when it deals with someone we love and expect better things from them. Sit down with them and tell them how you feel in a nice , polite way and listen to their side too. i know it probably will not be easy but in the long run family is important (to you) and we need family in our lives to support, care for and most importantly love us.
2006-10-02 18:25:08 · answer #3 · answered by victoria b 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What on earth did you have to do with it? You were simply a tag- along and you cannot stop adults from doing what they want. Your family will eventually understand this. Right now, they are just worrying about the consequences. You are right for not wanting to talk to any of them right now, hopefully when they realize that they are blaming an innocent person, they will come to you and apologize.
2006-10-02 18:21:27 · answer #4 · answered by SmartyPants 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As hurtful as those things may have been, you may be suprised to learn that you need to be with them to heal and get over the pain. If they want an opportunity to apologize for their inexcusable behavior, it may be worth listening to. We all say stupid and insensitive things to our loved ones at one time or another. It hurts so much more hearing it from the people who are supposed to love you unconditionally, but everyone makes mistakes. Sounds like they've learned from this big one.
2006-10-02 18:25:04 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
let them sweat it out ,if your are strong enough,give it a week or two ,do not go to them let them come to you,it seems that your folks are ....OLD FASHION,NOTHING WRONG WITH THAT ,your brother ask for some company,but ended up with other things on his mind, 13 years is along time ,the seven year itch may have finally caught up with him,and after 13 years it seems it didnt bother him to find other companionship,your brother needs to approach you first and apologize and ask for forgiveness, he did put you on a spot,now your folks,they need not to apologize,they were only going on what your brother said and did...good luck
2006-10-02 19:04:03 · answer #6 · answered by Ralph 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think the reaction was do to the anger felt toward your brothers actions. I know the sot the messenger(you) But it takes a big man to apologize( and woman), but even a greater one to accept them-(you!)
2006-10-02 18:26:32 · answer #7 · answered by nv 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first thing you shouldnt have slept with the girl but they are trying to say they are sorry and with out your parents you would not be here so give it up go home give your momma a hug and a big kiss on the cheek go to your dad give him a hand shake and a hug then tell both of them you love them as of your brother he shouldnt have asked you to go so youll have to deal with that one GOOD LUCK
2006-10-02 18:23:59 · answer #8 · answered by tawni T 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
be the bigger man and take there apologies your brother knows he was a *** and i would not hesitate to remind him of that when necessary,some times family can make you crazy but when it comes down to it who else do you have right?
2006-10-02 18:51:19 · answer #9 · answered by just_me_1955 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
accept the apology.
2006-10-02 19:55:25 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋