i feel like guys don't notice me. is it because i dont have confidence in myself because i've had a lot of people tell me "you have to believe in yourself before others can believe in you."
2006-10-02 11:15:24 · 17 answers · asked by (((uniquely.me))) 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I think we can see the reason you're feeling nervous by the line in your question which reads, "i feel like guys don't notice me". If you're expecting to be judged and chosen by someone else's standards which you don't understand, then OF COURSE you're going to feel a bit off. You will also be missing at least half of the game.
Contrary to what you may see on TV, women pick men at least as often as men pick women. Sometimes they are very subtle about it, but if you look closely it's definitely there. So this takes some of the pressure off one area at least - guys don't have to notice you... you can just as easily ATTRACT their notice.
But you're right in the other regard. Self confidence is a very, very good thing. How can you know whether a guy is good for you until you really know who YOU are? If you spend a lot of time learning what you're good at, it can also have fringe benefits - whatever it is you do, there are probably guys who do it too, and you'll see each other a lot when you do it and have something to talk about!
So go out there, experience life, and have fun! You'll know who the right guy is because he'll be out there having fun with you already! ( :
2006-10-02 11:25:02 · answer #1 · answered by Doctor Why 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, confidence is good but you shouldn't have to worry about hooking up with a guy. You should get to know them a little more. In class strike up a conversation and go from there. You will build confidence if you can do that. To be honest you shouldn't worry to much about the guys right now. I met my boyfriend when I was 15. I broke it off a year and a half later. I shouldn't have broke it off because it made my life worse. We got back together and to two months later I was pregnant. We are still together right now and I am grateful that we are but it has't been the prettiest relationship. Boys really are distraction. Don't get serious too fast. Take it slow and wait for a good guy that won't break your heart. Good Luck/
2006-10-02 11:24:23 · answer #2 · answered by wishbear3687 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're 15--at 15 I was unsure around boys too.
Sadly, one of the best things to do is just to wait and learn. Believing in yourself is important, but so is just taking your time and learning the ropes.
LEARN who you are--it took 4 years to even BEGIN to unravel who I am as a person. When I was 18, I was shy and quiet. Now at 22/23 I'm assertive and confident in who I am. I didn't date of 17 years, and I didn't get a kiss for 19. But you know what? I'm about to get married (in 6 days) to a wonderful man!
Learn to love yourself, and don't be afraid to try new things. You never know what will happen if you push yourself to try to talk to someone.
2006-10-02 11:20:16 · answer #3 · answered by FaZizzle 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
That may be part of it but really at 15 you don't need to live your life just about boys and let your happiness and self esteem depend on what they think or how they act towards you. Really you are a baby in this life of yours and having fun with girls and boys, hanging out, being friends and getting to know yourself and what you like and dislike in boys is about all you need to be doing right now. Confidence comes with knowing who you are and not what others think of you. Be a good human being and be kind to all people, that's my motto. Being single is the only way you should be....play at having fun in groups and spending time around different people. Who needs all that pressure at your age...you'll have that when you're older and married. Don't rush life.
2006-10-02 11:29:03 · answer #4 · answered by MISS-MARY 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Congratulations my dear you're a typical 15 year old girl you're suppossed to feel that way. Now here's what to expect.
You're going to meet a few guys and you will learn by experience what works and what doesn't. You'll think that one is your destiny and you'll pick kids names and what your house will look like and then you'll break up cry and move on to better things. You'll have your heart broken and you'll break hearts even accidentaly. You'll be swept off your feet and sorely disappointed. You will feel the highest highs and the lowest lows. I say just talk to them and be casual trust me they're probably just as unsure around you as you are them.
You will love in your own time and in your own way.Don't force it and be patient believe in your own heart and follow your conscience. Just be.
The rest will come.
They say learning to love yourself is the first step that you take when you want to be real.
Flying on planes, to exotic locations won’t teach you how you really feel.
Face up to the fact, that you are who you are and nothing could change that belief.
Just be, Just be
2006-10-02 11:34:47 · answer #5 · answered by sprydle 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Confidence can help you conquer many obstacles. Try to be an expert at something. Study all you can about a certain subject and know it inside out. Then when someone asks you about it, you will have the answers. Also, try talking to yourself in the mirror. I know, it sounds odd, but you can look at yourself and check your expressions out. You already said it yourself, "you have to believe in yourself before others can believe in you."
2006-10-02 11:19:29 · answer #6 · answered by tko43078 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
at the first u r 15 u have all ur life to live so if no one noticed u now will noticed u tomorrow but the most impotent thing that women should not wait boys to feel it salve exist woman should have faith in here salve like u said before any thing else
and all ways remember the most beautiful rose the one not been exposed yet and not seen yet
2006-10-02 11:29:01 · answer #7 · answered by as.jouhar 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
this is very normal. Why don't you try something simple. Like asking a guy for help in class instead of a girl. Also joining an organization like student council can help you meet some guys and might help you feel more comfortable.
2006-10-02 11:19:27 · answer #8 · answered by ly 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you have to do what you said believe in yourself. meaning you shouldn't care what others think.... My baby dies and that is when i realized things like that are really not important don't let it end up being something like that to teach you that others opinions of u don't matter, it's what u think of urself....my 15 yr old cuz lost her mom this year, and she's now at the point that she doesn't care what others think either, i know this won't give you the attitude u want carefree and sure, but think about what others go through to end up realizing that.... u can learn from our experiences.
2006-10-02 11:19:36 · answer #9 · answered by harmonieclark 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no disrespect but sometimes people look and judge the outside of a person before getting to know them. But females should not have problems getting guys att.. or even have problems approaching them. THE FASTER YOU GET THE NO'S OUT OF THE WAY THE FASTER YOU WILL GET TO THAT YES.
2006-10-02 11:53:13 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋