and what can i do to make him have a good time...he likes the candy...but hates even going out ...he even acts up when we go to the stores and he sees the displays...help me please!!!!
2006-10-02 11:13:51 · 21 answers · asked by goodnessmeimfine 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
Let him be. He's 4, he doesn't need all that candy to rot his teeth out of his face anyhow. If he's scared it's probably because most everything having to do with halloween is creepy like skulls and witches and spiders... and also the thought that someone can just put on a costume and completely change who they are can really mess a kid up. Ask him if he wants a costume and ask him if he wants to be Bob the Builder or a Teletubby or something fun that's not scary. Celebrate halloween at home with a small mommy and kid party where you have some cupcakes and read stories about halloween (fun stories with no scary pics) and mmmm candy corn. He'll grow out of his fear... and maybe as the night passes he'd like to hand candy out the door to the little kids dressed up.
2006-10-03 09:44:18 · answer #1 · answered by momofthreemiracles 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is normal my 9 year old nephew is freaked out about Halloween and god forbid we drive by or walk by a store that sell anything that has to do with Halloween.. Talk to him if he's not comfortable don't push him to going trick or treating instead stay home and give out candies so that he can see that there are people behind the mask not monsters.. Make it fun for him like play "Guess Who They Are" and afterward reward him so that he can get more comfortable with the whole idea of Halloween... GOOD LUCK!!!!!!!!!
2006-10-02 16:38:11 · answer #2 · answered by mysteriouskisses12 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok I read about this in a parenting magazine one yes this is totally normal and if your son is afraid try trick or treat as soon as it starts and quit at dark thy say 3-5 year olds should be out 30 mins 6-8 1 hour 9 and older the whole time. Also try using books to show your son what is real and what is pretend. Otherwise maybe you should only go to family and friends house to trick or treat before it opens to everyone else. last idea is to let him hand out candy and give him what is left at the end of night but whatever you do dont force him to participate it could make it worse! good luck
2006-10-02 12:53:21 · answer #3 · answered by LaceyandSamsmamma 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its normal... a lot of kids are scared of Halloween just like some kids hate Santa and the Easter Bunny. My son sat on Santa's lap fine when he was 2 but then when he was 3 he freaked out. Kids are funny like that sometimes. Its only one year. Try and explain it to him the best you can and if that doesn't work... oh well, there is always next year. Trust me at 5 he will love the idea a lot more!
2006-10-10 02:36:57 · answer #4 · answered by exotic69n 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ha! is he scared or just excited?
I remember we set up a haunted house in our garage one year and there was this adorable little girl in a kitty-cat costume and she was SOOO scared. We couldn't lure her in with candy or anything to save our lives.... we all wanted to be nice and give her a good experience but we were all in costume so she didn't recognize anyone and it got worse and worse the more we tried to make it better. she cried so hard that we all felt so bad that we just didn't feel like doing it anymore....
Not the best Halloween experience....
I guess the idea is to creep people out without permanently damaging their psyche.
I agree with the others on here too.... when you have little kids, you should put more emphasis on "fall harvest fun" and less on the spooky stuff... people forget that Halloween is a Christian/Wiccan holliday that has other traditions aside from Trick or Treat.
2006-10-02 11:18:33 · answer #5 · answered by rabble rouser 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Any young child will have trouble discerning fake from real. To him, these creatures are right out of his Disney books and movies, and they scare him.
Fear in a 4 year old is very REAL. Do not make light of this, call him a sissy, or keep him secluded.
You as his mother needs to gently, and firmly, remind him that they are NOT REAL (prove this by touching, and talking him down calmly).
This happens more often than not, and by next year, it may all be a thing of the past. It will take repetition, repetition, repetition. And patience.
2006-10-02 11:23:18 · answer #6 · answered by rouschkateer 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If he doesn't want to go, why do you feel the need to make him? Get him some candy and let him do his own thing and go out for Halloween when he is ready for it--maybe he will never want to and that is ok.
2006-10-02 11:15:50 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
if he does not want to go out don't make him. you could let him dress up, if he wants to, and have your own little halloween party at home. play a couple of games, make special treat bags-with candy-, glow stick are great-and cheap-,put music on and dance, rent a halloween cartoon with his favorite character in it. invite a playmate to come over and join the fun. halloween is for the kids, not us. lol it is hard for me to remember that sometimes. good luck
2006-10-10 08:59:20 · answer #8 · answered by jakes mom 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe he is frightened by the concept or visuals of halloween. you should not force him to go if he does not want to. be kind and ask him why he fears it and try to understand his reasons. it's not unusual. maybe he had a secret/bad experience with something spooky realting to halloween. my dad freaked himself out for months by watching a scary program when he was little yet he never told his parents. just be kind and maybe buy him some candy. do something different and special for halloween for both of you.
2006-10-02 11:19:17 · answer #9 · answered by Roxy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe take him out early when there is still light outside and only do a few houses...maybe invite a couple of friends over so he feels safety in numbers? idk...but i don't think its that abnormal for someone so young to be scared of Halloween...maybe he saw a horror clip along the way...or some big kid said something to him...it could be a nightmare...so don't worry too much about it
2006-10-02 11:18:18 · answer #10 · answered by Natalya 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋