I know my mom loves me and just wants the best for me, but she's scaring away all of my boyfrineds. At first she seems to like them and then out of no where she starts finding anything wrong with them. I went out with this one guy and about the third month, she went through my stuff when I was at his house. She found a note from him to me and didn't agree with what he had said to me so she confronts his parents instead of coming to me! That was really humiliating having to stand in front of his parents and tell them nothing even happened. After that our relationship went down hill. I need some help. I have tried to talking to her about it, but she sees what she did as the right thing to do. What can I do to get across to her?
2006-10-02 10:58:51 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
What was in the note that mom found that was so bad?? Did you guys do something you shouldn't have done and then spelled it out??/
Number one rule that I learned from my parents when I was very young (pre-teens actually)......
DO NOT EVER PUT ANYONE IN WRITING THAT YOU WOULD NOT WANT TO BE READ BY A PREACHER OR IN FRONT OF YOUR THIRD GRADE TEACHER!!!!
(Why third grade I have never figured out, but it worked..it scared me anyway!)
Are these b/f's getting abit too comfortable and familiar after they have been seeing you for awhile and maybe mom then begins to see them as they really are and no longer with the phony front that guys tend to put on when first meeting a girls parents?
There has got to be a reason why she is changing her opinion of these guys after you have been going with them for awhile...I would try talking to her and finding out what the reason is.
Good Luck!!
2006-10-02 16:58:17 · answer #1 · answered by lildragonlexi 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's a trust issue, not with you but with your boyfriends. Talk to your Mom and see if she would feel better if they came over to the house for dinner and a movie once in a while so she can get to know them. Or, if she would feel better if you would call when your running late (my son's girlfriends father even went out to check to see if there really was a flat tire when they were late - here was).
2006-10-02 11:04:17 · answer #2 · answered by kny390 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your mom is just over prtective of you and that most likely won;t change. So instead of trying to talk to your mom you should try to talk to your boyfriend and his parents so that you can explain that your mom doesn't is just being over protective.
2006-10-02 11:26:17 · answer #3 · answered by Baby Gurl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My mom does the same thing but she only lets me date people she likes and well i dont like them...so its hard then when well i date the guy she likes i find out they arent to great but when i date the ones i like they are great...i asked my mom why she wont let me date who ever i want and she told me cause i pick who you hang out with and i was like you cant do that and she was like i can do whatever i want missy and i was like but you cant make me like them and she was like but i know your safe...and i know my mom wants the best for me but it is annoying....well you should just go up to your mom and be like i know you love me and want to see me happy but your not making me happy scarying off my bf's and this onlys works even though i dont think you did anything but be like i have to find out things some how how can i learn from my mistakes if i dont make them( worked for me)
2006-10-02 11:05:36 · answer #4 · answered by leslie s 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you have to beleave she is doing it for your own good , after all she is older and been there before so she does have soom insite to what your going through and is looking out for your best interrest , you could always be more up front with your mother and be open to her to let her know how grown up you are and then maybe she'll trust you more
2006-10-02 11:08:28 · answer #5 · answered by wilco254 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
is the law of the life parents always mist with kids
2006-10-02 11:03:19 · answer #6 · answered by chuco 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell her that either way it go you
gon have a bf its better for her to
know who he is instead of keeping him
in the dark
2006-10-02 11:04:20 · answer #7 · answered by girly_down_n_south 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
deal with the fact that she knows better then you do. the problem with kids is they think they know better then people that have already been down that road.
listen to her
2006-10-02 11:01:18 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
don't take it all personally, she loves you & wants the best for you, as you know. Don't say anything you'll regret, you'll miss her when shes gone
2006-10-02 11:16:39 · answer #9 · answered by sherriecrazyhome 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋