Would like some general tips on having sex for the first time in a new relationship. Been dating a girl for a couple of weeks (4 dates) and we've really clicked - she stayed over my house on the 1st date and we slept in the same bed but did not have sex because we both felt we wanted to leave something to the imagination for a while. Since then we've had dates where we couldnt sleep over due to work committments, etc the next day.
I don't think it's a question of "if" - just when. She likes it when I take the lead on decisions but I don't want to pressure her into anything. I have a feeling that the next "sleepover" we have will likely be the right time.
Any tips on making her really hot and naturally progressing into the bedroom? The main reason I ask is because I really like this girl, want the relationship to last, and do not want to screw things up.
I know there's a certain amount of common sense here - which I have - but would like others opinions as well.
Thanks!
2006-10-02 10:57:56 · 12 answers · asked by D K 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
just keep doing what your doing. She obviously likes the way you are. So i dont think you can mess up in anything you do. You sound so sweet. Lucky girl!
2006-10-02 11:01:36 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I'm just impressed you slept in the same bed and didn't have sex.
She probably is too...lol. But you don't want to wait too long either. It's really all about if you feel comfortable with each other. Like you said, common sense. There are no magic "tips" anybody's going to give you on here for how to make her hot. You can feel comfortable making the first move and all that at this point, especially since she likes it when you take the lead, but you'll just have to feel out the situation and see where it's supposed to go (so to speak).
Beyond that, you know how to have sex...lol (I assume). Good luck
2006-10-02 11:07:25 · answer #2 · answered by jonjon418 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well from a women's point of view I applaud you for at least waiting for a 'decent' time. My question to you is do you plan on using condoms? Not to pry into your lifestyle by any means but first of all you don't want to get her pregnant, second of all you don't want to give/catch any STD's or even HIV/AIDS. I am not saying she has these things but to protect yourself you don't know who she has been with before (and she certainly doesn't know who you have slept with either).
If you want the relationship to last and you feel that she may be the 'one' to spend your life with (or at least part of it) then you have to think of the long run. Both get tested before you sleep together. I know this sounds crazy in this day and age but condoms are still not 100% safe. They are better than nothing but not perfect.
After you both get tested and are 'safe' then let things happen. don't pressure her or force her. Be kind and gentle and use foreplay. 'Quickies' are nice but long lasting foreplay is hotter if she is ready. Have fun!
2006-10-02 11:11:27 · answer #3 · answered by victoria b 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Certainly in your mind sex is a milestone, but try not to focus on this. Take things slowly and work on a long term relationship. Things are never the same after sex, so take your time and ease into it. Take baby steps.
2006-10-02 11:00:55 · answer #4 · answered by Cary Grant 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Yo ma man take your time it's all about patience and the mood, and if you push it too hard or let anxiety take over. trust me, you don't want to know. Oh and make sure your on the the safe side, protect yourself,you know what i mean.
2006-10-02 11:09:32 · answer #5 · answered by joe 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just let it happen naturally and let the excitment come naturally too. too much planning will kill the excitiment if it dont turn out well.
too much expectation will alos kill the next encounter. just let it happen and let a thing lead to another. becareful now of the...you know what?
2006-10-02 12:52:06 · answer #6 · answered by superyoyogirl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
take things slowly. follow your gut feeling and be respectful. do not assume she wants because you do. give her the chance to say no and respect her if she does. set the mood and consider her feelings. make it special. Cook for her and rent a girly movie. play some music and ask her to dance.
2006-10-02 11:01:59 · answer #7 · answered by me2 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
well...hmmm...i think that if the next "sleepover" is the time then both her and you will know...i don't know just give her signs that you want her and then slowly but surely i tink she'll get the point! but if you don't do anything then that will tell you that she's not ready yet!
2006-10-02 11:02:36 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
compliment her and say nice things...dont come out right away and say lets have sex but drop some hints..she might get scared if you ask right away kiss her for a minute then you can you know what
2006-10-02 11:01:51 · answer #9 · answered by Rachel M 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Romance.....light candles, play love songs, cook her dinner, or just get her favorite dessert. Then go from there. Good luck.
2006-10-02 11:01:16 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋