I have no reason to doubt my gf for at all, but can't seem to feel like she is giving me the whole picture of her, like she's holding stuff back. She is awesome and swears she thinks the world of me. I love to hear that stuff but feel like I need a deeper sign of commitment from her. Why do I doubt her sometimes? Does anyone else have issues like this? Is it normal to think this way when you really start to like someone? Any advice for getting past it?
2006-10-02 10:51:14 · 28 answers · asked by randyken 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Absolutely. It's definitely normal. You want some type of reassurance that she feels as deeply as you do. I felt the same way about a guy 9 years ago and confronted him after a few months of dating. He said he really liked me, but I wasn't really sure. That guy ended up becoming my husband and we have been happily married ever since. Follow your heart and your gut.
If it's early in your relationship, then it's normal to get signs of doubt because you don't know each other all that well. But if it continues like that, then I would be seriously questioning if it is worth it.
What kind of deeper sign do you need? Does she not act like she's all that into you? If that's the case, then yeah, actions speak louder than words. But if not, you have to trust what your girlfriend says is true, since there are no reasons to think she is lying.
Good luck honey.
LOL,
Sugar Mama
2006-10-02 11:02:10 · answer #1 · answered by Sugar_Mama 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had a boyfriend (husband) that was like that. It drove me insane, I really felt like I was giving him 100 percent of me. I felt like I wouldve done anyhing for him and I couldnt love him anymore if my heart were any bigger. My deeper sign of commitment was marrying him and even that wasnt enough. I dont really know how you could get past it just know that you could inevitably hurt her if you dont let your heart do a little bit more of the thinking. Its hard to remember this, especially when your heart is on the line and you could be scared of getting hurt...but you cant control other peoples thoughts or actions all you can really do is give them your love and trust wholeheartedly.
2006-10-02 17:59:54 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't want to encourage any paranoid behavior here, but I have found that my instincts are usually very good in situations like that. If you just have a strange feeling she is holding back, she probably is. The thing is, there is no set "timeline" for a relationship to follow. Which just means, you may be ready to seriously commit to her, to share your entire life with her, and she may be just a little bit "behind" you, and isn't quite ready to jump in feet first. Forcing her to "commit" to you will just cause resentment. It is ok to talk to her about it, of course... just don't deliver ultimatums, unless you are prepared to deal with all consequences.
2006-10-02 17:55:07 · answer #3 · answered by stillstanding 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It could either be that you have some insecurities, OR she IS holding stuff back from you. I would just talk to her, make sure you are both on the same page as far as liking or loving each other. Listen to things she says and make your own evaluation.
2006-10-02 17:55:24 · answer #4 · answered by ~~ 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you doubt her it is because of an insecurity you have about yourself. If she feels she can trust you then she will tell you more. When you doubt, she feels it and doesn't want to leave herself open for the hurting.
Basically, trust that you are enough. And the rest will work itself out.
2006-10-02 17:53:36 · answer #5 · answered by denverwazzup 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes it is normal. The only way that i know to get past it is to a) give her totally and complete trust and b) sit down and explain to her how you feel
2006-10-02 17:54:53 · answer #6 · answered by cowgurlofpsns 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is probably one of the most normal feelings in the world, specially when you start to like someone
2006-10-02 17:53:25 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you just started this relationship then it is normal because u just started and u dont trust her yet but u been dating awhile i think its a sign that u need to take a break for awhile and dont just leave her like that tell wha is going on if she say sumthing than all it meant was she need a push and trust me when a breakup is cuming u will ur heart out if you love that person
2006-10-02 17:56:55 · answer #8 · answered by Cloudz 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes I think it is normal but also listen to your instincts. Don't freak out though this will make her less likely to share with you. The more confident you are in the relationship the easier it will be for her to share everything.
2006-10-02 17:54:37 · answer #9 · answered by snschro 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well first of all you need to tell this girl that you have the deep feelings for her and you can see a future with her and you cant have things in between you all like that and yes it is normal everyone has somthing in there relationship that they question very normal GOOD LUCK
2006-10-02 17:55:11 · answer #10 · answered by tawni T 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋