My son started Kinder this year. He informed us about a bully in class. We told him to walk away from any comments and if anybody physically hurt him, that he is allowed to fight back. One morning he didn't want to wake up and started crying hysterically because he did not want to go to school.
2006-10-02 10:46:19 · 8 answers · asked by jonjanjus 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Grade-Schooler
talk to the teacher first, if still having problems, talk to the principal. Most of all, talk to your son about it. Let him know that bulling is wrong and his hurt people's feeling. If someone should bother him, he should tell the teacher, because it is the teacher's and the school job.
2006-10-02 18:34:56 · answer #1 · answered by timer 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm so worried about this with my son! I was bullied when I was in school. My husband was, too, but he always seemed to fight back.
You really should talk to the teacher. I know it may be hard to believe, but the teacher doesn't always know this kind of thing is happening. A "good" bully wouldn't do it in front of her and the "bullied" might be embarrassed or afraid to say anything. (I was always afraid that if I told the teacher, it would get worse.)
I have been a teacher and I have had parents coming up to me and yelling at me because it was going on when I knew nothing about it. They usually didn't believe me. I would then have a stern talk with the class and I'd pull the bully aside and tell him or her that if I heard about or suspected it again, they would have to answer to me. Honestly, though, there weren't many consequences in the pubic school I taught in for anything so I had to look like I'd do something when, in fact, I couldn't do much of anything. It did usually stop, though. (I've taught second through eighth grades.)
If that doesn't work or maybe in addition to it, you could speak with his parents. Maybe the teacher could arrange a meeting. It may seem like a meeting rather than an accusatory thing that way. People don't react well to that.
Hopefully, the teacher can do a lesson or so on bullying and bring the class together over it. I guess the last thing you can do is encourage your son to win in a fight like my father did when he was a kid. Bullies would leave him alone then, but that was in the 30s. These days the bully's parents would file assault charges or sue instead. (The police can right a report and keep it on file but they can't actually arrest anyone under ten. I learned that at the no-consequences school I "taught" at.) Good luck!
2006-10-02 18:04:41 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Bullies are children who have low self esteem and want to be loved. They feel little control in their lives and need a positive role midel to show them how to act appropriately. Why not volunteer to be his/her mentor at school. Build a meaningful relationship with the child and model appropriate ways to deal with problems while building their self esteem.
2006-10-02 19:44:51 · answer #3 · answered by heartwhisperer2000 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk with the teacher and principal to see if they are able to watch out for the bully and see if they can talk with his/her parents about the situation.
There is really not much because they are so young and kids will be kids.
You can also see about transferring him to another class.
2006-10-02 17:50:54 · answer #4 · answered by medevilqueen 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Sorry, but I can only offer a suggestion that involves pain and the drawing of blood. Not a lot, but enough to get the other party's attention.
2006-10-02 17:54:45 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
just tell him to go to school on the other and tell him to give that bully a taste of his own medecine
2006-10-02 17:54:35 · answer #6 · answered by SNAKE 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
ignore those bully people
2006-10-02 18:15:07 · answer #7 · answered by rica kristel p 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
talk to his teacher / head teacher.
2006-10-02 18:06:57 · answer #8 · answered by ry_shadow_tamer 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋