Okey here is the picture,im miles and miles away from home, i have noooooooo friends, no one i can talk to......i am by nature quiet and dont make friends, im a perfectinist and every mistake i make and anything i do short of perfect just kills me every day...and these days i feel so down that all i do is mess up.How can i regain my enthusiasm to work again..i feel completely spent ,emotionally empty alone and just feel like crawling under a rock and just hiding.any advices
2006-10-02 10:32:01 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Health ➔ Mental Health
You sound like an intelligent, warm and kind person. Nobody is perfect; trying to be all the time takes too much energy. Being lonely is rough, but you DO know that you will make friends and have fun. Friends just happen, ya know?
Being alone and lonely you're learning to be more self sufficient and learning to live with yourself. You can learn this no other way and will benefit greatly from these times. You don't need a psychiatrist you just need to learn to live with your self. Know you'll have friends soon.
Sometimes our lives are full of friends and good times and sometimes it is the opposite. We live on a planet of opposites and when the pendulum swings one way, it will also swing the other. Please be patient with your self; you are very important to you. Even if you're lonesome you are not alone.
2006-10-02 10:39:05 · answer #1 · answered by Freesumpin 7 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Don't be so hard on yourself. No one is perfect so stop trying to attain perfection. That could be one of the reasons you are so unhappy and you will always be unhappy if you keep trying. As far as not having any family or friends around that would be very hard. Try your best to keep in touch with family and friends back home until you make some friends where you live. Try new things join a club of interest to you. I know how you feel I would not want to be away from home and I am shy when it comes to making friends too, but lately I have been trying to be a friend to a few girls at work and so far it is going well, but I had to step out of my comfort zone.
2006-10-02 10:42:23 · answer #2 · answered by summer sunshine 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should join a band. Learn to play a musical instrument like drums or guitar, but it doesn't have to be a rock and roll band so you could try learning the piano or saxophone too. This will get you out to socialize with, in rock bands, generally 3 other people and even patch you into a network of friends. Just place an add in the paper: guitarists seeking drummer and vocalist. Or alter that to fit the instrument you learn to play. And what am I doing on page 29 of mental health anyway?
2006-10-05 09:44:31 · answer #3 · answered by Professor Armitage 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is very natural you should feel like this under the circumstances. First of all do not beat yourself up over it...second, what are some things you are interested in doing, hobbies? Maybe you could join a group and make friends that way. Also you should talk to a councilor about how you are feeling and they could suggest some concrete ideas that would help you where you are geographically. Hang in there darlin!
2006-10-02 14:37:32 · answer #4 · answered by tigerlily_catmom 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-08-29 09:03:08 · answer #5 · answered by cerenzia 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok Sara, the first thing is DO NOT take Austen seriously. He is obviously lots of trucks shy of a full convoy. The next ting I suggest is you talk to a therapist about your depression. Lastly, you should find something that would make you very happy. Good Luck.
2006-10-02 10:58:09 · answer #6 · answered by Mike M. 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Do something that gets you out your apartment, and around people. Volunteer, perhaps helping children in poor neighborhoods. Join a health club and work out. Play a sport, if you can. Be friendly with those you meet, and smile! Act cheerful and cheerfulness will follow - try it, it really works! Good luck to you.
2006-10-02 10:42:37 · answer #7 · answered by Crazy Eagle 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Go to a funny movie and laugh or go to a store and chat up the sales people. If you're shy, just think you won't ever have to see them again and you can talk to people more easily since there is no pressure to be liked.
2006-10-02 11:09:53 · answer #8 · answered by Jo 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Two things I can recommend to you. Start working out. You can jog around the park or involve yourself with any other physical activities. Second one is to get a pet. A dog perhaps. I know you will change your feelings when you get a dog and start walking and playing with him.
2006-10-02 10:42:53 · answer #9 · answered by steve 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I know what it is like to try to be a perfectionist and if you fail you feel crappy. Also, if you are sad alot , maybe you have some hidden depression there. Go into a depression website, answer the quiz and see. If you are , print your answers and take them to your physcian and see what he/she says. You may be just flat out depressed.
Give it a shot and see what your score is
Good luck!!!!
2006-10-02 10:43:22 · answer #10 · answered by Kay M 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋