Do you think this is rude? And if you do what should i do?

Question

My wife and I just had a baby (she is 4 months old). My wife has three classes left to finish her degree we only have one car and I have to drive her to class. So for her night class I stick around campus and I go to the computer lab. I make sure I go to one that is not quiet study it is marked as group and you are allowed to talk openly and loudly. If she cries I take her out but she is babbling and talking allot. I have not gotten any rude looks or remarks but I wonder what people think. What would you think if some guy was in the back of the lab with a baby that is talking and playing with her toys?

i stay because the drive is a half an hour each way by the time i get home it is time to go back. Also my wife does not drive so she can't go with the car and leave me at home

i just graduated in May so technically not a student here any longer. My campus log in for the comp still works

Answer 1

I do not think this is rude in fact I think it is wonderful that you support your wife in this way. Opinions and reactions from people in the lab will vary and cannot be helped. I would suggest that your wife post a request for rideshare at the college and possibly community bulliten boards in your area to find out if there is anyone from the area in which you live that might be willing to share the ride.

Answer 2

If it's a computer lab, library or any other place that's designated for studying or working, I'd defintely keep the baby out--even if she's only babbling. While most people who have children realize how incredibly cute babbling babies can be :), those who don't have children probably don't appreciate it. Even though she may be doing so quietly, the people are there in the quite place for a reason--studying for a test, perhaps? Working on some last minute homework they didn't do because they're recovering from the flu?

I would suggest (while the weather is still nice) taking the stroller along with you and walking the baby around campus. Fresh air never hurt anyone. :) When it's about time for your wife's class to end, head back over to her building and the three of you can walk to the car together.

Answer 3

This isn't necessarily rude, but is inappropriate. People may be completing work, and it is quite distracting. When I was in school, I would not have brought a child of mine into the computer lab. You are also not a student there, and it is not appropriate for you to be using the computer lab. If I were you, I would take the baby somewhere nearby until the class is finished. Bring a stroller and walk around campus to get your excercise. This is common courtesy. It is just poor manners to impose on a group of students who are there to complete work, and the computer lab is for the students, not for your use.

Answer 4

This is not rude but I would consider how you felt when you went to lab. The is a time and place for everything and I don't think the baby belongs there. Consider getting maybe your parents or you wife's parents to sit with the baby for that hour. If you don't' have them available then at least try and be as quite as possible because people are studding and writing papers. It's hard knowing exactly what to do when you don't have many options. But I'm glad you are their for your wife and baby. Your intentions are in the right place. Good luck.

Answer 5

From your description, your actions are not rude. In fact, you are being considerate of the other students by taking your baby away from the computer lab. You brought toys for her to keep her busy.
If she gets too loud, then, take her outside or to another area where noise is not a problem. Your baby may get more talkative as she gets older. The babbling is not as bad as crying. You may find that people are more tolerant and accepting if you try to keep her quiet by doing what you're doing.

Answer 6

Well-

If I were a student there I wouldn't appreciate having a baby sit in the room while I'm studying.

What would bother me most is the gall that you have doing that more than a babbling baby! I'm sorry if that sounds hateful but it's like at the movies when you see people come in with babies in carriers- they can't watch the movie and if they start crying and you leave you have still disrupted the movie- same for the class.

Answer 7

No, you are not rude at all. You worry too much about what people think in fact. You might want to try and go else where every now and the, maybe a litle cafe, or something more enjoyable for yourself actually. If anyone has a problem with you and your baby, they are the ones being rude.

Answer 8

You seem like a caring concerned father. Keeping her to the back of the lab should show others that you are trying to be respectful of them. Yes they are there to study, but the lab is clearly marked as group. I think you are fine. And enjoy that little one - they grow up way too fast!

Answer 9

It is they who are rude. You are committed to helping your wife finish her schooling and take care of the baby. They should be praising you for the example you are presenting as a husband who is "honoring thy wife" as the Lord tells men to do. I'm certain she has or would have made whatever sacrifice she could to help you get through you schooling. Shrug it off, they are still immature and foolish, high minded people tend to look down on anyone who is devoted to their family.

Answer 10

I think as long as you are not being disruptive to the people that belong there, you arent hurting anyone. If you do disturb someone, I would apologize and leave immediately. I commend you for supporting your wife like that though, but hey buddy, teach her how to drive! LOL!