My 9 year old daughter wants a cellphone, what should i do?

Question

she said she wants or she's gooing to get mad

Answer 1

Well if she is going to get mad, let her throw a fit...who is the real parent here?! The minute you let her threaten you is the minute you've lost control. I suggest you gain all that control back and tell her when she's ready to stop demanding things and threatening you, you can have this conversation another time. Make her earn the cell phone, tell her to help out around the house. My 3-year old niece helps my sister "fold" the laundry, pick up her room and toys, help with dinner, and she got the pink jumprope she wanted. I would suggest the disney phones...they let you monitor where the child is at all times, who they call and how many "minutes" they can use. i don't know anyone who has it, just seen the commercials, so i would suggest that when she has proven to you that she can act like an adult instead of a brat!

Answer 2

Then let her get mad.. she is nine years old... If anything I would get her a cell phone but one that has limits.. the parent can program in the only numbers that the phone may dial out or receive. I believe it is call a 'firefly' but I am not sure, I have seen ads for many different ones starting to hit the market. This way you have control over who she can speak with .. and would be useful in an emergency ... she can call someone where ever she is on the contact list.... but under no circumstances would I get her cell phone on a plan... you will be paying huge bills.... good luck and remember you are the parent

Answer 3

Don't get her the cell phone. I would have said to get her the Disney phone where you can monitor the calls she makes, what time she can use it, her text messaging, etc. But if you get her the phone, especially after her threatening to "get mad" if you don't, it will only escalate from there. "Mom, get me these jeans or I'll get mad." "Mom, if you don't let me go to this party, I won't talk to you again."

Set boundaries with her from the beginning. You are the parent and her little threats if she doesn't get what she wants don't mean anything. Let her get mad, stomp around the house, close herself off in the room. She'll get over it.

And if you do decide to get her a cell phone, my opinion would be to wait until she's about 11 or 12, or get her one of those TicTalk or Firefly phones. But only after you let her know who the parent is.

Answer 4

Get her a pre paid cell phone. They have a cute motorola one from Tracphone for 19.99 at Walgreen's, Target and Sam's club.
Then only let her take it certain places, like if you drop her off at practice or a friends house. That way she can call you when it's time to come and get her.
You buy her a certain amount of minutes on a card. Tell her these minutes you gave her have to last until a certain date(whichever you choose) if she uses all the minutes before that date then she has to wait and have no minutes to use until the pre determined date.
Once she uses up all her minutes too soon and has to wait ,you can bet she won't let that happen again.
Also you can take away the phone for bad grades/behavior and add more minutes for good behavior/report card.
If it gets lost or damaged you're not out too much b/c it only costs 19.99.
It's also good for crowded places, like amusement parks, big malls in case you get seperated for any reason she can call you and find you.
They are too young at 9 to have a phone to just call people to talk for no reason. Limit when you allow her to take it.
I have one for my 7 year old and that's what I do. It's more for my needs than his.
I got it when we went to disneyworld, in case he got seperated from the group. I just put the numbers of family members in there, .

Answer 5

i think 9 is way too young too have a cell phone! she shouldn't have one untill she can understand that it's not a toy and it cost's money! she will not be carfull with it and break it lose it or just get tierd of it then it will go too waste! don't get her one till she can take care of it well! like in her mid teens would be fine.14,15,16.
and if she get's mad tell her sorry your not getting one no matter how much you beg and scream and cry! YOU are the parent! you decide what is best for her. if she throws a fit tell her that is one more point towards not going any where for a day and not watching tv. tell her simpley SHE IS NOT GETTING A CELL PHONE!

Answer 6

Let her get mad...who the HECK is the parent here? Haven't you heard of setting limits for your kids??? Yeah, they get mad, they don't like them, but it's called being a responsible parent. Or, go ahead and get her a cellphone, and then get her whatever else she wants, and 1 of 2 things will happen. Either she'll get involved with drugs, or get pregnant at 15. BUT SHE WON'T BE MAD, will she???




good grief.

Answer 7

The answer should be NO! What does a 9 year old need a cell phone for? Tell her to go ahead and get mad. Life isn't always fair. Tell her when she is old enough to get a job and pay for her own cell phone she can then get one. Just reminder her she will also have to pay for car insurance and car payment. Don't let your NINE year old boss you around. Good Luck and PLEASE don't get her that phone!

Answer 8

in my opinion NO WAY!!!! A nine year old has no reason to have a cell phone. She can use the house phone and you can get her her own line if it is that important. If you are worried about her safety and wnat to get her one get her one of the phones that only calls 4 pre-programmed numbers. That way you don't have a 9 year old walking around talking on her cell to God knows who, meeting them God knows where. She is still too young to have that kind of freedom. Even in today's world where everything is electronic and everyone's "connected".

Answer 9

Who is in charge here? She should not get everything that she wants, I could see if it is needed, because of picking her up from a certain place, at a certain time, or her having to get you, because of activities, or so on. Cell phones cost money, and then their is a bill every month, does she have to have everything that she wants. Who cares if she does get mad.

Answer 10

Hey hey, you are the parent: get a grip over your child. If she is still 9 and you expect her to go mad over you not buying her a silly mobile phone, what would you expect for a more serious matter?
Say no. Not until she is more mature. You don't play according to her tune, it is, as you should know, the other way round.