I hav asked this question earlier but i might not hav explaned this enough.there is this kid named john. he is really annoying and he doesnt seem to get it. ive asked my teachers for help but they do not seem to help. i have e mailed the teacher that i have the class with and nothing has happened. he disturbes my concetration in band and he makes weird toung gestures. and when i am keeping tempo he tries to touch my foot and he really gets on my nerves i cannot move because this is band class, i am 1st chair and he is 2nd i hav already consulted my parents andthey hav given me confusing answers i hav e mailed my teacher but i dont think he wants to respond. he is popular and i am not, i am in the middle he knows everyone and i hav talked to everyone but they dont agree with me if u are one of the ahssholes that wants me to beat him up i am not going to stoop myself down to stoopidity.whut should i do?
2006-10-02 10:26:55 · 19 answers · asked by mhsportsfan 2 in Education & Reference ➔ Other - Education
Since you've tried to talk to the teacher without luck, and your parents seem to be uninvolved, try the school counselor next. Tell them exactly what is going on. If that doesn't work, go directly to the principal, and tell him/her you're being bullied. Try again to get your parents in on this with you.
In my city, there are laws against bullying. Your parents should be your real source of help, but if they won't or can't, try another grownup, or even a different teacher that you can talk to more easily. Don't give up! You shouldn't have to go through this sort of abuse in your school.
2006-10-02 10:33:48 · answer #1 · answered by Bad Kitty! 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like you have done most of the right things so far
some people are childish
often the best approach is to do everything you can to ignore the person
he is acting this way to annoy you, if you don't annoy, he will eventually quit
this is difficult
if it gets really bad, you can try the "gross exposure" method
that means you have to make a public request for him to stop doing something that is recogniseably over the limit
it works like this:
you are playing along trying to ignore him
he starts touching your foot with his foot
you try to ignore him but it gets worse
you stop playing, stand up, and say as loudly as you can
"Bill, PLEASE stop touching my foot all the time"
then you go back to playing and trying to ignore him
this may cause an unpleasant disturbance (especially if you have to do it more than once) and the teacher may not like it much either, but it will put the problem in the open
good luck
remember, ignoring is usually best
ignore, them, and they usually go away
2006-10-02 10:34:18 · answer #2 · answered by enginerd 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well this is an awesome problem you have. You will learn more about life from it then any class. Welcome to reality. It looks like you have done everything rational to do. At this point you have a simple choice to make. Its Bye Bye Band Class or hello to a game of Footsy during class. He may want first chair and it looks like he is going to get it. Welcome to upper level management. It is just like that in corporate America. Now what I would do may not be the best choice. I would mess with him in return and usually have a lot of fun in the process. Im talking no holds barred pratical joking. Thats just me. Same results you just laugh all the way there.
GOD bless ya
2006-10-02 10:40:31 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell your teacher again, talk to John, I know this is like a little first grade-ish u might think but he likes you...yeah he does think about it (WEIRD) tongue gestures? touching your foot? either he likes you or hes just like REALLY ANNOYING, maybe even both. If your teacher puts you next to eachother again ask for another seat, I would probably switch band seats with a friend and hope your teacher wont notice, good luck, sounds like some kid i sat next to in the third grade, thankfully we move seats every two weeks, soo anyway you might change seats, also AVOID HIM, HELLO? if he is talking to you walk away, talk to someone else, pretend you cant hear him or WHATEVER U NEED TO DO TO TUNE HIM OUT. goodluck
2006-10-02 10:32:05 · answer #4 · answered by Elena ♥ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't keep things in. He's relying on your staying silent and going through the channels to complain. He wants this to be your problem alone. The next time he touches your foot in band I would stop playing and address him in the middle of everyone else playing. The last thing he wants is for that to become everyone's problem.
2006-10-02 10:38:00 · answer #5 · answered by bardstale 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unfortunately, I think I was John in high school. I never knew it though. Find a time when you can talk to him 1:1 and let him know that you're bothered by these things. He may not know. I never realized how annoying I could be sometimes. If you tell him in private where he can save face, he may apologize and try to act better. Worth a shot.
2006-10-02 10:31:20 · answer #6 · answered by p4kphil 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I very much agree with what every one is saying. My advice from similar situations is that you do these things and you do them now. Things will work out way better if you start things now before the situation gets even more serious and bothersome. Do not try to see if fate or luck will work things out. Do not wait for anything. Start talking now so people know. That gives you more power in numbers and people who are aware.
2006-10-02 10:40:47 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First, stop being a girl. Second meat him afterclass and tell him to stop, if he makes fun of you just give him a nice strong grin or a punch or two. He'll stop.
P.S- Contact the Principle and report on the teacher, that'll also handle this mess.
2006-10-02 10:39:01 · answer #8 · answered by singh7e7 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are a girl, this could be considered sexual harassment. If you are a guy, the next time he does this, just stand up in band class and in a very loud voice say" would you please stop". Now that might be counter productive, it may be just what he is looking for. If you try very hard just to ignore his antics, he may get discouraged and just quit. I would try that first. People like him are just trying to get attention, if you give it to him, he will keep it up..
2006-10-02 10:35:12 · answer #9 · answered by loufedalis 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Look just ignore him--but do not do it in a way like you are being snooty or acting like you are all put out. Just treat him like anyone else. Do not show you are irritated.
I guarantee that getting the teacher or anyone else involved will only make it worse for you.
2006-10-02 10:36:44 · answer #10 · answered by beckychr007 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋