I've been on a few dates recently with a divorced woman that i've known for years as a pretty good friend. She is my hairdresser in fact, which complicates things.
Anyway, the last few times I've asked her out, she agrees but then cancels at the last minute. So the other day I asked her for the second time about this trend and said "Hey if you don't want to get together just tell me and that's cool." She said, "No, its not that I don't want to, I'm just very busy." Well she is busy at work, I know that for a fact, and she has kids at home. But still I don't feel like I am a priority to her at all - I think she's either playing me or maybe trying not to hurt me - even though she is. What I don't understand is that she is such a nice person otherwise.
So, is she leading me on? Why not just tell me that she doesnt want to go out on dates but just be friends?
How should I confront her about this? I don't want to sound like a selfish jerk, but I gotta know where I stand with her.
2006-10-02 10:21:02 · 16 answers · asked by CKApple 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
She didn't want to hurt or reject you by saying no but is trying to say it through canceling. Come on dude, its not like guys dont drop a girl off after the first date and say they will call and never do. Sometimes you have to read between the lines. Let me tell you where you stand with her. She either doesn't like you in that way or she doesn't like you enough.
2006-10-02 10:28:21 · answer #1 · answered by JustMe 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She's in all probability not plenty offended as she purely is harm. She might have needed a no-strings relationship, yet intercourse is the main significant glue in relationships. the certainty which you had informal encounters might have pronounced that on a similar time as she mentioned you need to date people, she became into hoping her appeal could be sufficient to maintain you single, exceedingly if she nonetheless became into. additionally, relationship is quite diverse from having a female chum. Having a female chum shows you're committed to somebody else, and after the help which you gave her you have been suggesting which you nonetheless cared approximately her to 3 quantity, which she not sees as real. in case you want to restoration this, you are able to desire to start up by utilising admitting that neither of you has somewhat communicated what you needed or needed appropriate, and that to have a plausible friendship (which won't take place) you are able to desire to the two take care of precisely what you assume from the different.
2016-12-15 18:33:46 · answer #2 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe she is having mixed feelings about the idea, or it could be that she is just too busy to pursue a relationship right now. Either way, once (if ever) you DO start dating, this pattern will probably not change.
So, your best bet is to let her know you are tired of continually asking her, and leave the ball in her court, by having her contact YOU when she knows of some free time she can spare, and that you will do all possible to make that time available on your calender.
2006-10-02 10:31:45 · answer #3 · answered by Howie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dude just like all women she is selfish. It's true your not a priority for her you should reexamine your last two dates you actually went on with her. think about what you talked about the questions she asked you. Your responses and answers. Try to rememeber the first time that her body was turned slightly away from you and then go over what lead to her making that move and then you'll know when and where it went wrong.
2006-10-02 10:27:56 · answer #4 · answered by J D 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well being a woman myself, I think I can answer this. I think she is just not over her divorce. Maybe she still has feelings for her husband although they may have been separated for awhile. From what you wrote it seems as if she is nervous and/or doesn't want to put her family in jeopardy. There may be a possibility that she just doesn't want to br hurt or fall in love and get her heart broken.-- Just some input from yours truly.
2006-10-02 10:30:31 · answer #5 · answered by FoxE_single _lady37 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
email her talk on the phone get to know each other more after a little bit of this go to her house with pizza and some movies if will be hard to find the time if she is so busy but try if you are that interested in her
2006-10-02 10:34:06 · answer #6 · answered by raudidave 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think that you have to face her but by the nice way .
tell her if she doesn't like you just make her tell you yes or not if she refused to tell you tell her that you will live her .
threating her man are you aman or cowrd yo show her what you can do without her . make her feel that you're perfect without her with another girl ofcourse and if anything from what i sayed didn't happen tell her if she lovin' you really she will bebeside from the moment that you tellin' her that you love her .
2006-10-02 10:31:36 · answer #7 · answered by the loyalty 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well you do sound selfish..if she is a mom and has a job...she probably has lost her independent ID of herself in the past and its not about you..its about her remaining at a steadfast and staying in control.
I am sorry to say but it sounds like your pushiness to her is a turn off.
You sound desperate.
2006-10-06 08:59:40 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey i feel you just tell her how you feel an listen to what she says and don't be afraid to show emotion if you really want something or an answer just plunge in head first
2006-10-02 10:31:14 · answer #9 · answered by maudhaitian2 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
"No" means "no" should be your creed in all things dealing with women. Apart from the obvious "date rape" avoidance, you'll also avoid the game players. Move on.
2006-10-02 10:33:45 · answer #10 · answered by John's Secret Identity™ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋