I have three kids and I am in the middle of a devorce. I have no problem turning heads or getting asked out. I an 31 and still look great in a bikini. Everyone thinks that I am younger than I am, they say the oldest I look is 24. I don't have any strecth marks from pregnancy and my breast are double D's and are still firm.
So why is it that I haven't been asked out but an awesome guy yet. Is it because I have three kids or what?The good looking ones so far are losers and the half way decent ones(that i wish I could fall for) are doing nothing for me. Is it me? My husband is a loser and I dont want another. Do I have a block up or something . I need to know if the reason I can't find a guy is my fault.
Oh , and by the way, I am ready to move on , I do not love my husband and we have been broke up for a long time. This devorce is just taking forever.
2006-10-02 10:12:58 · 20 answers · asked by poobear 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Hey poobear, we sound alike! I have 3 kids, am 33 and in the divorce process as well (also a DD). I can't help you much with your dating dilemma, but if you need to vent to someone in your shoes, just email me!
This is what little help I have for you. Love finds us when we are not looking for it. At least, that is how it seems to find me!!!!!!
Good luck girl!!!!!!!!!!!
P.S. the answerer who said that some of the men may think you are looking for a Daddy has a point. Make it clear to any man you go out with that you are NOT looking for a Daddy, your kids already have one, they don't need another.
2006-10-02 10:18:52 · answer #1 · answered by laneydoll 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hmmm...I just looked at your profile and you say you've been broken up for a "long time" but just a month ago you were asking about issues related to your husband that sounded like you were still with him...are you with him or not? A month is not a long time, nor is it enough time to make major assumptions about the dating population.
One of my good friends is a single dad and won't date single mom's. I (very) often tell him what a hypocrite he is and his reason is what I think a lot of men who don't date single mom's would probably say: They're scared until they get to know you better. They think you're looking for a "Daddy" and it scares the crap out of them before you even really begin to know each other, no matter how good looking you might be.
2006-10-02 10:22:25 · answer #2 · answered by . 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow pretty confident in yourself arnt you? Just kidding. There are a lot of guys out there who will not have anything to do with single moms. And on the flip side you have to be careful because there are other guys who will use that to thier advantage and pretend that they are considerate and pretend they dont care because they know its aa good way to get one in bed. I am currently dating a single mom with 2 kids it was difficult to do at first but i figured shes still a person she deserves a shot just like anybody else and she is smoking hot to boot. I have been with her for 10 months now and am happy in the situtaion all i have to say is be careful for you and your kids sake. But im sure you are a good mom and dont need some random dude telling you that. LOL
2006-10-02 10:22:09 · answer #3 · answered by LT. DAN 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I hope not cause i am also a single mom. I havent found the right one yet but i am sure it will happen. I just wish it was sooner and not later. My kids dad is out of the picture but i am not looking for a dad for them. we have made it a very long time without one and we can continue on in the same fashion but i would like someone around for me.
2006-10-02 10:46:45 · answer #4 · answered by gem753 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well dear Psychologically you have a slight block out of reality. You not looking for Mr. Right anymore it seems your looking for Mr, Right Now and he has to look like and basically be a prince! Girl we all are looking for that. Unless you have "I have three kids" pasted across your head I doubt that they trully know that you have three kids brfore you tell them. Look there is something wrong with every man just like there is something wrong with every woman, So if you stop and think about it if your looking for Mr. Perfect without being perfect yourself then you are selling yourself short of what your possibilities could be with a man that is almost perfect. Go out and find you a man your attracted to, that treats you good and if he doesnt work out its cool just keep on truckin Just remember you have three kids that deserve your attention much more than some random man that heads your way.
2006-10-02 10:21:16 · answer #5 · answered by ask me again 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Probably because having kids is a major responsibility. Your problem may lye in the fact that your use to a loser and well for the most part you need to be looking for someone who is financially fit. Sounds like a tough deal your in. I myself just want to be financially fit before jumping into a relationship that involves children.
2006-10-02 10:18:07 · answer #6 · answered by Travis James 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hmmm I don't think that's it, I am a single mom with three kids and never had a problem getting asked out by loosers or otherwise. I am with a great guy now and he is a single dad. Maybe you're sending off a not available signal? I know at first I sent off a bad vibe, men would tell me they were afraid of me, that they could just look at me and tell I had been hurt bad and that I would probably take it out on them.
2006-10-02 10:17:44 · answer #7 · answered by Red 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I think all of women have their enchantment, with or without children. I see no problem in that fact. The most important is woman know how to take care herself. But, as you said, you are phisicaly well, so there is not any problem with you. May I give you an advice? Come to Brazil and you will be a great success.
2006-10-02 10:23:39 · answer #8 · answered by sonhador? 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sometimes when we are in bad relationships and we want too move our standards up we tend to back off with out realizing it cause that is wear our inner self is comfortable at. so keep your expectations high and except no lower then that. yes men do find good mothers who take care of their children attractive. hang in their some times the good ones watch for a while cause they know what they are looking for. good luck
2006-10-02 10:21:33 · answer #9 · answered by Ozark American 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You sound like a beautiful young lady. I guess my answer to you is be patient, the right guy will show up and hopefully will treat with respect and love that you deserve. I hope that your life improves now that you have got rid of the loser. Good luck to you.
2006-10-02 10:18:30 · answer #10 · answered by loser 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋