Ok my bf and I had a great time last night I cooked and took it to his place we eat, sleept watch TV, and we went out and eat ice cream, and it was time for me to go home because I had to get ready for school so he took me to my care and said bye, so I called him when I got home just talking and lounging and he start telling me about how him and his friend was thinking about opening a club and serve drinks, and THIS IS WHAT I SAID, I SAID drinks that is not a good idea u are not 21 yet, and he said no I am not talking about me my X is 24 so he can get the drinks and I am going to be 21 in like 3 month anyway so I said AND AGAIN I SAID o ok that is good he is going to do it, I was just worried about u getting basted and u are under age that is all. And he said u always have to say something negative u heart my feelings and he go so mad, so I said u know what for get I said that is because I care about u and I said I have to go bye, and I called him back after like 3o minutes and he said he didn’t want to talk to me at that moment so he will call me before he goes to bed and he said bye and he hung up?? And he didn’t call me today all day; he didn’t even call me to wish me good luck on my exam. What is wrong with??? Tell me the truth guys did I do SOMETHING WRONG?? And if he call what should I say please guys help me?? Thank u
2006-10-02 10:01:37 · 10 answers · asked by sweet84 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Ok. Here's what you need to do: find someone else. If he's not open to your great advice (it was great, btw) especially after you cooked him dinner, then he does not deserve you. Your opinion is worth more than to just tossed in the wastebasket. Find a new best mate who will really listen to you and value your views. Best of luck, babe!
2006-10-02 10:07:06 · answer #1 · answered by conservative_rocker1 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think u said anything wrong. You where just expressing your feelling and you may have been worried if he is not yet over the age of 21. He only took offense to it b/c it probably seems like everytime he tells you something you give him a negative answer. Just apalogize and tell him that you should have been more suportive of his dreams and see where you go from that. I know it sounds like you shouldn't have to say sorry but if you really like/love him then just end it. It's nothing for you and him to be upset at each other for. Trust me.
Good Luck
2006-10-02 17:08:27 · answer #2 · answered by MIA 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Opening a bar is a very lucrative venture. Plus you don't have to be 21 to sell or serve drinks. I started bar tending at 19 and put my self through collage. I am not a bartender anymore but if I could afford to open a bar I would.
2006-10-02 17:13:21 · answer #3 · answered by kinreep 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What you said wasn't "wrong" BUT there is a way to make this work better in the future, and to resolve the conflict. The reason he is mad is because he doesn't want your first reaction to be realistic and cautious--he wants you to get excited about his passionate ideas and plans, and just believe in him. Assume that he has thought about the downside, and just have fun with his ideas before you get critical. Women often don't get that about men, especially creative and passionate guys. Being to "down to earth" can be really boring and can make life seem less interesting.
2006-10-02 17:08:37 · answer #4 · answered by Drew 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it seems to me as if maybe what u said about it wasn't a good idea for him to open it because he is underage. I know u were trying to help but maybe to him it seemed like you were doubting his judgment on what he thought would be cool. Or maybe he thought u were being too negative by sayingi dont think it is a good idea so it like saying he has bad ideas
2006-10-02 17:07:40 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should never put you B/F down, to you it might bot have been a big deal but for him it's like you have no faith in his goals and aspirations. If he does call you then just tell him what it was that made him so upset and what you can do to make it not happen again.NEXT TIME CHOOSE YOU WORDS WISELY.
2006-10-02 17:07:05 · answer #6 · answered by didi 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, ever think of this: It was something he wanted, to open the bar. When you said that, you hurt his feelings. Nothing against you. Just go to his house and apologize.
2006-10-02 17:06:11 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let it go. Seems too silly to worry about. I doubt his plans will get off the ground- he's probably just full of it.
2006-10-02 17:04:34 · answer #8 · answered by Violet Pearl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your answer---u did not give encouraging advice--you were negative
DO NOT BE SO NEGATIVE
If you cannot say something positive---keep your trap shut
No one wants to be with a negative person
DO NOT CALL HIM--wait for him to call u
2006-10-02 17:05:31 · answer #9 · answered by sunbun 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
And to think his life dream is to sell booze and pouts when reality is told to him....
2006-10-02 17:07:41 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋