Is this part of the "game"?

Question

I met this girl through mutual friends and we had all gone out for drinks as a group on a number of occasions. I finally asked her out and she agreed. We decided to go out on the Friday and we talked on Monday on the phone. I called on Thursday evening and left a message. She never returns my call. So I call her up after work on Friday around 6pm and leave another message. She calls me back around 6:30pm and said that she never got the first message on her phone. She proceeds to ask me if we can go out some other time since she has a ton of things to do for her cousins wedding the next day. I called her again on Sunday and again left a message, she returned my call on the Tuesday. We finally go out on the Friday and I’m pretty sure things went we’ll.
Now the thing is that I feel that I’m the one making all of the effort. I’m the only one calling and she only calls to returned my missed calls. Is she playing “the game”?

Answer 1

She seems to be following

Rule #5 of The Rules (insanely popular dating book for girls): "Don't call him and rarely return his calls".

and

Rule #8: "Don't accept a Saturday night date after Wednesday".


She might have read this book, but a woman with a good social life would probably act the same way. A good way to test what's going on is to ask her out on Saturday... on a Tuesday.

Answer 2

She is playing games with you. The game is a book by Neil Strauss about picking up women. She is playing like she is very busy and is making you call her. Next time she calls you, don't answer. Have her leave a message and be more "busy" when you do talk to her, so she starts calling and missing you. If your too available, your not a challenge.

Answer 3

She's playing games with you, now all you have to figure out is if she is worth the trouble. ?

OR, you could give her a taste of her own medicine and just give it right back.

Answer 4

Yes and you ought to, too. Don't call more than once without a call back.