i asked a really good guy mate out that i really fancy but he turned me down and said we were better as friends.... then we go out for a drink and he tries to kiss me and buys me really nice jewellry for my birthday!!! he always compliments me too. hes quite a shy guy and im really shy too, whats going on??? have i just answere my own question?? lol
2006-10-02 09:51:40 · 28 answers · asked by lilbex87 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
He's shy and afraid that he will lose a good friend if you became a couple and broke up. He is probably confused as he really likes you but dosn't want to spoil things. He could be gay but I don't expect so as if you are good friends you would already suspect this if you felt this was the case. Prehaps he's just afraid of commitment, nothing new there, just pluck up the courage and ask him, this can't go on forever can it? Though he says he dosn't want a relationship with you, I bet he dosn't want any other men eyeing you up either, its time he got his priorities straight, are you content to remain friends, if you really like each other alot then maybe its worth taking the risk and getting into a relationship, especially if you are not prepared to be messed around with any longer and you don't just want a platonic freindship with him. Good Luck!
2006-10-03 01:39:31 · answer #1 · answered by Rainbowz 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take it slow, but if he tries to kiss you GO FOR IT!!
Although I would be a bit concerned that he might not want a girlfriend just someone to sleep with. If you asked him out and he said no, but then tried something physical... You see what I'm getting at. This is just a theory though, and lets face it the only person that really knows why he's sending these mixed messages is him. Why don't you ask him? Write it down in a text/letter/email if you are too shy to say it to his face
2006-10-02 09:57:12 · answer #2 · answered by As You Like It 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok, I think I know what's going on. If he's shy, then he probably got freaked when you were the one to ask him. So that's the first part. Now, he thinks he may have offended you by turning you down so he's buying you all kinds of nice things and is complimenting you. My advice: get rid of him. He's too nice and that means one thing. That he's terribly needy. He's playing the game in all the wrong ways, babe. Best of luck to you!
2006-10-02 09:57:23 · answer #3 · answered by conservative_rocker1 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think it's all down too being shy, maybe he is worried that something will go wrong and that u will never be friends a again. maybe put the qustion 2 him again or have a talk about it, he will understand if he is a real freind.
2006-10-02 10:01:09 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
caught between a rock and a hard place.... the man is clearly in love with you but also respects you as a friend...better to have you in his life as a friend, then to go and get all complicated as relationships can and do get.... but in truth you both sound like u need a good shag so get on with and be happy
2006-10-02 10:18:09 · answer #5 · answered by thenickistar 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He sounds like he doesn't want to be in a relationship. He wants the once and awhile kiss, and things like that. He likes you, but probably isn't totally committed to you. He also might have another girlfriend.
2006-10-02 09:55:35 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, he's either thought about it & decided that he does want something more but cant say it to you. But one of you will have to.
or, he's playing games with you. he likes the attention you give him & he is basking in it.
You know him best, so only you can decide.
Good luck
2006-10-02 10:00:37 · answer #7 · answered by justine m 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I say ask him. Just flat out "Hey...why did you do this and that and then say this?? I'm confused!" and ask him for total honesty. He's the only person who can really tell you what's going on! Hope it works out for ya!
2006-10-02 09:57:04 · answer #8 · answered by Dr. Kat 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he sounds confused. He is right about having a relationship changing your friendship. Wait a few weeks and see what happens and ask him again.
2006-10-02 09:55:11 · answer #9 · answered by nancy e 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like wot im going through without the drink bit though, good luck anyway
2006-10-02 10:10:20 · answer #10 · answered by leighlouise2000 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋