How do you deal with someone like that?
2006-10-02 09:44:08 · 18 answers · asked by Kookie 4 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
This is for JCLOVESME..
I'm just asking a question. I haven't been backstabbed by a friend. Just curious.
2006-10-02 10:04:56 · update #1
Yes, I have just with in the last year in fact. The only way I could really deal with it is thru prayer. Putting prayer on the top priority of my list for the now ex friend who was never my friend in the first place. Helps. And now we have no contact with each other. But if you still have to have contact with them.
Prayer, Forgiveness (70 Times 7) and bible reading helps tremendously!
(i've heard thru other christians in the same situation)
2006-10-02 09:49:33 · answer #1 · answered by jrealitytv 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes. I have been backstabbed by a "christian." From what I know, if you are truly a christian, you wouldn't backstab another christian. As for how you deal with, I geuss, if you go by the Bible, you would forgive them. If you were like everyone else, however, you would probably get revenge and then have another problem on your hands.
2006-10-02 16:49:38 · answer #2 · answered by Cap'n Crunch 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes. I call it a curse. Sometimes people we love, Christian or not can stab us. But it really hurts when a fellow Christian back stabs us. Why? Because a person can feel it. It hurts.
God has healed me from many of those types of wounds though. It is easy. You have to forgive someone like that. You need to realize that Jesus forgave & forgot our sins to him. So we need to forgive & forget others also. Otherwise it could feel like hell.
Understanding this & forgiveness is given, one can still fill pain. So visualize a boomerang head your way (a curse, false accusation, etc...) dipped in God's love & returned to sender. In this fashion we bless those who curse us & don't keep the hurt.
We are then overcomers by submitting to God's Word. We feel great because it doesn't matter so much what others think. What matters is what God thinks. God said He will never leave us or forsake us. God will never let us down. He will discipline us from time to time, especially if we get into unforgiveness, but we learn to forgive & mature in Christ.
The christians who may stab others are usually carnal christians, meaning imature or babies who haven't been renewed in the Word much yet. Also, christians are in the process of refinement, & when the heat gets turned up, the dross comes up & is ugly.
2006-10-02 16:55:50 · answer #3 · answered by t_a_m_i_l 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, but I"ve been backstabbed by my so-called Wiccan friend. You just have to get over it and move on.
2006-10-02 16:47:22 · answer #4 · answered by sister steph 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes i have but she wasn't a true christian to begin with, just acting like it.
we still don't talk and i see her ever so often but we may say hi and bye but thats about it.
ive learned a long time ago that if some1 will stab u in the back once then they will do it again,so u can still stay friends with them but keep them at a distance.
or u can stay close to them and keep getting stabbed in the back
or u can just call it quits because they aren't a true friend to begin with
2006-10-02 16:52:52 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would probably talk to the person about it; and if they were not completely remorseful and/or if I felt like I could not trust that person anymore I would end the relationship. Even if a person is Christian, it does not mean that he/she is perfect. It just means that they are supposed to be living a Christ-like lifestyle ... it does not sound like your friend lived up to that in this instance.
2006-10-02 16:48:59 · answer #6 · answered by J.Z. 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Forgive them as Christ forgives you.
Then Peter came to Jesus and asked, "Lord, how many times shall I forgive my brother when he sins against me? Up to seven times?"
22Jesus answered, "I tell you, not seven times, but seventy-seven times.[f]
Mathew 18:21-22
Many might jump to the conclusion we should forgive a person for the same offense 490 times but I think that's taking this passage a little to literally. I think Jesus is saying here that we should forgive each other always and unconditionally.
2006-10-02 16:49:43 · answer #7 · answered by Josh 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Yes, and it still hurts. I found this incident out later whenI began working at a different location. The relation dissolved itself, so we had very little to do with each other.
2006-10-02 16:47:25 · answer #8 · answered by tobeyp2005 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
why does it matter if she is christian. Does her being christian put her at some higher standard than you? We are all human. christian or not.
we have all been stabbed in the back, you tell her she hurt your feelings and she sucks. you make up, or you move on.
2006-10-02 16:46:51 · answer #9 · answered by Blonda 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
So what you are actually saying is that you've never been stabbed in the back by anyone else and it's all about their religion?
Just wanted to clarify...
2006-10-02 16:53:30 · answer #10 · answered by Salvation is a gift, Eph 2:8-9 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋